The first sentence: My friend is another me.
This sentence comes from the mouth of Zeno in ancient Greece. Indeed, my friend is another me. As long as we close our eyes and recall the friends we have made, we are basically reviewing the path we have taken. We have had a few noble friends, and we have lived a fulfilling and quality life; even if we have only made one or two bad friends by mistake, we must have had days and months that we do not want to look back on. Friends are also the easiest mirror to "leave secrets". If we want to understand a person, we only need to check out his circle of friends, and we will be able to make a good guess. Everyone can see the shadow of his past, present and even future from the friends he associates with.
Summary: What is friendship? "Yixi Ci" puts it well: "When two people are of the same mind, their sharpness can break through metal; if they speak of the same mind, their stench is like orchid." The heart is like gold, the words are like orchid, and the bond of friendship is like gold orchid. This is called friendship.
The second sentence: No friend is as good as yourself.
The Analects of Confucius said twice: "Be loyal and trustworthy. If your friends are not as good as yourself, don't be afraid to correct them." The premise of "No friends are worse than yourself" is to be close to "loyal and trustworthy" people ( Note: The Master emphasizes loyalty, not power and wealth), the purpose is to see the wise, learn from their strengths, and correct their own shortcomings. This is the crux of Confucius' repeated emphasis not to make friends with people who are inferior to yourself. Indeed, only by associating with outstanding people can we see the glory of human nature, learn from the strengths of others, reflect on our own shortcomings, and make progress as a person and in knowledge. According to Liu Xiang's "Shuo Yuan", Confucius made some comments on his students Zigong and Zixia in his later years. He said, after my death, Zixia will make progress every day, while Zigong will regress every day. Why? Zixia always hangs out with people who are worse than him, while Zigong likes to hang out with people who are not as good as him. And indeed it is. Although Zigong was more talented than Zixia, his academic achievements were far behind Zixia. Not only Zigong, there were 72 disciples of Confucius who were proficient in the six arts. "Only Zixia has a unique book on all the classics." Even Gongyang Gao and the authors of "Gongyang Zhuan" and "Liang Zhuan" handed down from later generations ?Liang Chi was also a disciple of Zixia.
Summary: Life is short and knowledge is long. Who has enough time to stand up to each other?
The third sentence: There is nothing more harmful than making careless friends.
The Englishman Church must have suffered enough from his friends before he said these painful and heavy words. My mother once said to me: "Son, white wine reds the face, gold blacks the world's heart, it's the close people who harm the close ones!" Around us, there are both friends who go out of their way to save their friends, and some who A friend who stabs his friend in every possible way. I don't agree with the unprincipled "throwing swords for friends", but I despise those so-called friends who "make friends with words but have thorns in the belly" even more. They often boast about how they can make friends from dead people and bones, and are so kind to friends, but at the same time, they attack and criticize friends who have broken up due to one or other reasons. The more you tolerate and give in based on the principle of "a gentleman makes enemies and never speaks evil words", the more he will be like a victorious cat and mobilize all negative factors to pursue you and kill you. Because he is your friend, he is very lethal. Others will say, look, even friends say that about him, he must not be a good bird!
Summary: Small people are like honey, but they become enemies in an instant. Losing a bad friend is the best of misfortunes.
Sentence 4: Friends in power are friends lost.
This famous saying by American Adams Henry may not be universal, but it must be typical. Originally, once a person holds power, he is both hot and cold, his mentality is hot and cold, his ears and eyes are deaf and blind, and it is difficult to hear the true voice. It is at this time that the "mirror" of a friend is most needed. . But in fact, there are many people in the officialdom who are cronies, and few are friends. In addition, some people feel very good about themselves once they gain power. In addition to nodding and bowing in front of their immediate superiors, they have to act like an official, put on official airs, use official accent, and speak official language to everyone. Not only did they forget where salt comes from and where vinegar comes from sourness, they even couldn't figure out who they were and how many bowls of dry rice they could eat.
Who wants to be friends with such a person? A cartoonist once told me that he watched a friend of his rise through the ranks like a movie, rising from an agency officer to a certain level of official in one breath. Due to his high position and authority, his "energy" expanded rapidly, and suddenly, He became humming and haha ??and could no longer speak human words. Oddly enough, this official retired not long ago and immediately showed his true colors, becoming more humane again.
Summary: Ouch! What force makes people "alienated" like this?
I often hear people say that you rely on your parents at home and your friends when you go out. But some friends are absolutely unreliable. In the minds of these people, the word "friend" is very particular: the word "friend" is composed of two "meat moons", which are two pieces of meat with the same thickness and height; The word "" means "giving a helping hand". If one day the "two pieces of meat" become different in thickness and height, the word "friend" will become the word "ming". The melons will be clear and the water will be white, and the lines will be clear. If "friend" does not exist, how will "friend" be attached? The principle of making friends for this kind of people emphasizes equal exchange or utilization value. There is only eternal utilization, but no permanent friends.