People who are too caring are often spoiled, too rational, too emotional, too cowardly, too neutral, too dull, too kind, too deceitful, too boastful, too hesitant, too easy to lose opportunities, too enthusiastic, too indifferent, too frank, too rash, too modest, too hypocritical, too lively, too frivolous, too cautious, too kind and too easy to make mistakes.

Therefore, within the range of "degrees", the sun is shining and the scenery is infinite. Beyond this range, if you go to the extreme of "degree", it may be cloudy and the nature of things will change. Just as the truth has passed, it has become a fallacy; If you are sincere, it will become hypocrisy; If you are too clever, you will become cunning; If you are serious, you will become rigid.

To be a moderate person, be generous, speak softly, do things resolutely, be ambitious, have a long life, learn deeply, have a deep theory, have a wide field of vision, do things quickly, and don't be overworked. Courage is good, recklessness is excessive; Selflessness is good, and if it is excessive, it becomes ignorance; Tolerance is good, and if it goes too far, it becomes connivance; It is good to want to fly, but aiming too high is too much; It is good to hate evil, but stubborn prejudice is excessive; Just let nature take its course, and it is too much to force it; Being positive is a good thing. Go to extremes and you will become overbearing. Self-confidence is good, and extreme self-confidence becomes pride; Courage is good, and extreme courage becomes stupidity; Introspection is good, and extreme introspection will turn into inferiority; It's good to climb high and look far, but it's dangerous to wander under your feet.

Excessive extravagant hopes will lead to excessive disappointment. Excessive, in fact, is an annoyance. Contentment can avoid the excessive expansion of desire, avoid going astray and getting deeper and deeper, avoid making unforgivable mistakes because of greed, and never be insatiable, so as not to confuse the mind and make things go to extremes.

Contact should be moderate, don't please both sides, get along with exquisite, but tolerate and unite people. Don't be jealous of others. Less is not a gentleman, more is not a husband. Man's tolerance lies in his mind, the limit of his behavior lies in his idea, the angle of observation lies in his position, the height of his thought lies in his cultivation, and the degree of his cultivation lies in his self-knowledge. To keep the flexibility of making friends is to pay attention to the proportion of communication, master the scale and pay attention to the temperature. Too close will lose charm, too light will be indifferent to feelings.

During the Spring and Autumn Period, Zi Gong, a student of Confucius, asked Confucius who was smarter, his classmate Zhang Zi or Xia Zi. Confucius said that Zhang Zi often exceeded Zhou Li's requirements, while Xia Zi often failed to meet Zhou Li's requirements. Zi Gong asked Zhang Zichao if it was better. Confucius replied that the effect of exceeding and failing is the same.

Once, Mark Twain, a famous American writer, listened to a new pastor's fundraising speech in church. At first, he felt that the priest had made a good speech and was very moved, so he took out all his money and prepared to donate it. However, ten minutes later, before the priest finished speaking, he became a little impatient, so he changed his mind and decided to donate only a little change. After a long time, the priest finally finished his long speech and began to raise money. He was so angry that he decided not to donate any money.

Mark Twain did that obviously because the pastor's speech was too long, which made him extremely bored. Indeed, even a very beautiful and touching speech, after making things clear, no matter how patient people are, they will get bored again and again.

After reading this interesting story, everyone may not only laugh easily, but also reflect on some behaviors in their usual interactions. Sometimes, we send out too many stimulating signals, too strong and too long, which will not only fail to achieve the expected results, but will cause extreme impatience and even rebellious psychology of others. Psychologically, this phenomenon is called "overrun effect".

The ancestors always said "too much is not enough" and "too much is not enough", and everything is like this. Open our history books and you will see many such stories. In the political struggles of past dynasties, such examples abound. Don't let yourself go to the top, don't expect too much perfection, don't expect yourself to be too perfect, don't go to extremes, and learn to die together.

"Too much is not enough": too much is not enough, too much is not enough; Nevertheless, it is better this way; Less than, less than Everything is measured, and all good things will turn into bad things if they go too far. It is better to have nothing. Overindulgence; Excessive cleanliness-cleanliness; Great joy-sadness. Philosophers say: clear water without fish; People are too careful to believe, and what they say is also an example of "going too far."

For example, in family education, children don't study hard and don't do well in exams. Parents always feel that criticism is not enough after criticism, so they criticize it repeatedly at the dinner table, in front of TV and in front of relatives and friends. In this way, there will be children who refuse to change their religion and unreasonable parents.

In the workplace, when the boss criticizes a subordinate who has made a mistake, some leaders always feel that they are not satisfied after criticizing, so they will repeat the same criticism once, twice, three times or even four or five times. As a result, it is inevitable that there will be extremely hateful superiors and subordinates who dare to be angry but dare not speak. ...

Indeed, after being criticized, people will have a sense of psychological imbalance, and it will take some time to restore psychological balance. When repeatedly criticized, people's psychological imbalance will increase, feeling "how can you keep doing this to me?" The criticized emotions can't be calmed down, which leads to strong antipathy, and it is easy to produce rebellious psychology and behavior of "I am partial to this" or "I will do whatever I like".

When criticizing others, we know that we should pay attention to a "degree". Is it better to praise so much? Russian writer krylov once wrote a famous fable called Demjan's soup, in which there was a man named Demjan, who was very hospitable. One day, Demjan personally cooked one of his best dishes-a big pot of delicious fish soup, and invited his friend Foucault to taste it. Foucault drank some at first, which was very delicious. But after three bowls of soup, he felt that he couldn't drink any more, but Demjan kept urging him to drink and didn't give him a chance to rest and breathe. Although Foucault's face was already sweating heavily, he could barely continue to drink, pretending to eat with relish and drinking all the soup in the basin.

Although poor Foucault likes soup very much, it is no different from suffering. He stood up, grabbed his hat and crutches, ran home with all his might, and never went to Demjan's house again.

In this fable, although fish soup and enthusiasm are good things, if given too much, it will bring a heavy burden to the soup drinker and make him feel disgusted.

It can be seen that even the best things, if imposed without restraint, will be as boring as Demjan's soup.

1 There must be a limit to everything. If you go too far, you will miss the boat.

We should stress the golden mean in everything, and it is useless to overdo it.

3 lose weight, enough is enough, too much is too late, which is harmful to health.

4 Too much is harmful; Too much is too late.

Cream breakfast is gold, lunch is silver and dinner is lead, which is not enough.

Everything has a scale, and it is unacceptable to go too far.

Some people think it's too late, but it's too late. Neither is good.