Text/Gong Yu Yina

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I used to be frightened every day because of a sentence from my high school teacher. He said: "The college entrance examination can change your destiny. "One test will determine your life." Many people also believe that if you do well in the college entrance examination, your life will be more exciting.

Now, another year of college entrance examination is coming.

In fact, the college entrance examination is just a ritual in the growth process of life. In the form of examination papers, it brings an end to your ten years of hard study and opens a new chapter. The college entrance examination scores only determine where you will live in the next three or four years.

In three or four years, where you will go, what position you will reach, and what successes and failures you will face are not determined by your college entrance examination scores.

The college entrance examination does not determine your life. After the college entrance examination is over, your life really begins.

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After taking the college entrance examination, the first thing you have to learn is to live independently.

A reader once asked me: "The college entrance examination was four years ago. I just remember that it was quite peaceful at the time. I went shopping alone after the college entrance examination on the first day. In fact, I admired myself very much at that time. , I never feel lonely when I read and study alone, but I feel lonely when I go to college. I want to get back to my former self who worked hard, didn’t think about anything, and had my own goals.”

Before the college entrance examination, we had a specific goal. There was a group of people working together for the same goal, and we lived a fulfilling life every day. But after the college entrance examination, such goals have disappeared. No one sets goals for us anymore and drives us forward. But we suddenly can't adapt and don't know how to live alone.

What is independent living? Independent living means being able to take care of yourself, think independently, and be financially free.

Leaving the greenhouse-like care of your parents and going out alone to experience the ups and downs, how to learn to take care of the rest of your life, these are the skills you should learn after the college entrance examination.

The independence of thought lies in the ability to continuously enrich one's own spiritual world, to be able to overcome loneliness, to have one's own spiritual pursuits, to have one's own characteristics among gregarious people, and to be appropriately unsociable.

After the college entrance examination, you are already an adult. You should learn to be a weaned child. Don’t always suck the "milk" of your parents. Plan for the future and see how you can learn to be financially independent and reduce the burden on your parents. burden.

The higher the score on the test paper, it does not mean that you are better at living. The lower the score, it does not mean that you are not good at living. The quality of life depends on how you live, and these cannot be determined by scores.

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After the college entrance examination, the second thing you have to learn is to deal with others.

Before the college entrance examination, in your environment, your scores determine your position and whether you are a "good kid" or a "bad kid" in the eyes of adults. But after the college entrance examination, you have entered another world. This world does not just measure you by your scores.

In this new world, others will measure your position in their hearts based on the way you deal with others. How you treat people and things contains your three views. People with different three views have completely different ways of dealing with others.

Your way of doing things makes people comfortable, and others will take you into their hearts. Your way of doing things makes people uncomfortable, and others will leave you.

Exactly how to deal with others, from how to reply to someone else's words to how to deal with something that makes you uncomfortable magnanimously, these are the wisdom of life.

And this way of dealing with people requires us to learn it consciously, and it is even wisdom that we need to learn throughout our lives.

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After the college entrance examination, the third thing you have to learn is to study for yourself.

Before the college entrance examination, we studied for the college entrance examination. After the college entrance examination, many people are glad that they have escaped the hardship of books and can stay away from the days of being with books every day, so they start to play every day.

As everyone knows, in the days before the college entrance examination, you study for the sake of studying, but the days after the college entrance examination are when you can really study for yourself.

The end of the college entrance examination has ushered in a broader space. Should we jump from one fish tank to another and continue to struggle, or should we move towards a broader space and suck the nectar of knowledge? These depend on our vision, our thinking, and our wisdom.

The improvement of vision, thinking, and wisdom is inseparable from the accumulation of daily reading. People should learn to learn for life, rather than ending their studies with the end of the college entrance examination.

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After the college entrance examination, the fourth thing you have to learn is to make friends.

The most precious thing in life is to have three or two friends who can help each other and grow together.

Some people are often surrounded by groups of friends, while some people are always alone without any friends.

Some people will always think about their friends wholeheartedly and help them; but some people will always think about squeezing their friends everywhere.

Some people want to grow up together with their friends, but some people can’t stand the kindness of their friends.

Different ways of making friends determine your level of making friends. You need to consider how to get along with your friends more comfortably, how to leave an irreplaceable place in your friends' hearts, and how to make your friends have endless topics to talk about with you.

Making friends involves the art of speaking, the skills of communication, and the way of being a person and doing things. These are skills that we must learn throughout our lives.

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Don’t be nervous, the college entrance examination score will not determine your life. The college entrance examination is just the end of ten years of hard study.

The college entrance examination is over, and real life has just begun!