Love at first sight is typical, not because of its richness, but because of its scarcity. In real life, as long as it is "love at first sight", most of the married life is not easy to last, traced back to the source, or judged as evil. Because you are not familiar with each other, your judgment is just a happy daydream caused by irrationality that is suddenly shocked by vision. It's romantic and beautiful, but it's so naive to express the complicated and long marriage life that I'm often confused, cheated and even fooled! Therefore, love at first sight is sometimes more like a beautiful story, more idealistic and unrealistic!
Similar to "love at first sight", men and women also have "the conclusion of one thing" after communication. Some women stubbornly think that the other person is their own dish just because of a certain stage or something, and then choose to give up objective and comprehensive exploration and immediately rush to the fast lane of marriage life. This view of marriage may run into good luck, but most of the time it will be abandoned by good luck. After all, mastering the distance between a point and a face is only 108,000 miles! "The Art of War" has a star: "Know yourself and know yourself, and you will be invincible; If you don't know each other, you will know each other, and you will win and lose; If you don't know each other and your friends don't know each other, every battle will be dangerous. "
Generally speaking, these three kinds of "super-scale" personal behaviors of men before marriage often make girls mistakenly think that he has found the true feelings in a short time, and then rashly enter the unknown and changeable marriage life. In the quiet corner of the courtyard garden on the edge of the enterprise, Jingru, who just fell in love, sat alone on the stone table, staring at the quiet water, her eyes glazed over and lost. Suddenly, a pair of men's big hands slowly hugged her from behind, and she turned her face calmly. At first, she was surprised, and then she was quiet again. The man is Jingru's colleague, now 35 years old, 8 years older than Jingru, and married once.
If it was before, Jingru would definitely choose to get rid of it without hesitation, because this male colleague has worked hard to pursue perfection, but she has no feelings for this male colleague. Later, after Jingru had a boyfriend, the male colleague stopped for a while. Now, seeing the silence as sad, the male colleague feels that his opportunity has come again, so he has a "affectionate" hug. For Jingru, although she doesn't have much affection for this male colleague, the deep sense of powerlessness after breaking up makes it difficult for her to maintain it. Because at this moment, Jingru is so eager to have a pair of hands that can comfort a beautiful woman to help erase the scars in her heart!
And this male colleague happens to be very good at "coming", constantly bringing comfort and care to Jingru, and formulating a series of strategies to show love. Not long after, the man took advantage of a good opportunity to pour out his feelings when he was drunk and had a relationship with Jingru. Later, Jingru married this male colleague. In the view of Jingru at that time, it was better to marry someone who "likes me" than to find someone I love most. Besides, the ultimate moral bottom line of male-female communication has been reached. Do you have any scruples?
However, the length of time gave her a negative response. After marriage, although the male colleagues didn't see the problem of principle, the huge difference between the two people's "three views" and their endless disputes made the man's vows to be quiet before marriage become the biggest joke after marriage. I can't understand why there is such a big gap between men before marriage and after marriage.