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Exploring the mentality of "online making friends" among middle school students

Huang Xiaolin, Wenzhou No. 2 Middle School

"Looking, looking, looking for friends, finding a good friend..." in When we were innocent and romantic children, we all played a game called "finding friends": a group of children sang and danced in a circle, exchanging feelings and making new friends during the play. “Wouldn’t it be great to have friends from far away?” The words of the philosopher Confucius are still familiar to every Chinese. Marx said that human nature is the sum of all social relations. The relationship between people and society is, in the final analysis, the relationship between people. Likes to make friends is a manifestation of human sociality. Understanding other different lifestyles, communicating with each other in ideas and culture, and seeking friends with similar interests are the common pursuits of human beings, and adults and teenagers are no exception. Maslow also believed that everyone needs to belong to a certain social group and need to be respected by others. These social needs are missing needs that are as important as physiological needs such as eating and clothing. Without group cooperation, not only humans but many other species would become extinct.

Making friends is a normal sign that middle school students tend to be extroverted at a certain age. The Russian poet Pushkin once said, "No matter it is sentimental poems, beautiful articles, or leisure joy, nothing can replace an extremely close friendship." Once upon a time, the phenomenon of middle school students making "pen pals" became a charming scenery on campus. With the continuous extension of the Internet, another shortcut for making friends has appeared on campus - making friends online. The Internet has become a "window" for young people to interact with society. "Online dating" has also become a new trend among middle school students, and "Are you E-y" has become a mantra among teenagers. An "Internet Friend Era" is quietly forming among students, and various virtual communities composed of netizens with similar interests and needs are forming. New ways of making friends are impacting and changing traditional interpersonal relationships. The trend of middle school students making friends online The true mentality has also become a question worth thinking about.

1. Seeking the feeling of equality and freedom

Adolescence is another developmental peak in life. Along with physiological development, middle school students’ awareness of independence is relatively enhanced. They do not want to be restricted or even controlled by their parents. They long to be respected, understood, and have the same freedom of communication as adults. But interactions in real life may bring pressure to them, while the virtual space on the Internet will give them a relatively relaxed environment. This kind of friendship uses the Internet as the intermediary, text as the carrier, and virtual communication roles as the main body. It is characterized by equality and freedom. Your social status has no effect online, whether you are a professor or a student; whether you are a political figure or an ordinary citizen; your right to speak is the same. Whether your words are popular or not does not have any status halo effect, it is just whether your words themselves are attractive and whether people are interested in your topic. This feature allows middle school students to vent their true inner happiness, troubles, loneliness, and pain online. Generally speaking, there is no need to worry about any penalties. You can also play a satisfying role according to your own preferences. The shortcomings in real life can be made up for by the virtual world created online.

2. Dispel inner loneliness and confusion

“Tell your troubles to others, and your troubles will be halved.” This seems to be an effective self-reduction method. pressure method. The process of growing up is inevitably accompanied by some worries, either in life or in study. However, there is a lack of communication between brothers and sisters of the same age at home. I want to communicate with my parents, but seeing their busy figures or absent-minded responses, I hesitate to speak. The hungry, thirsty and confused souls become disappointed in the expectation. Perhaps in the hearts of parents, they will always think: What big things can you children do? It is just a teenager's forced sorrow. Some students who stay at teachers' homes lack emotional communication. Over time, many middle school students are unwilling to tell their teachers and parents when they have troubles.

Online communication is a very new way of communication, and it is the most difficult to control among the various communication methods for teenagers. It is also prone to many negative consequences, such as being fooled and deceived. Therefore, online dating should become an issue that schools, families and society attach great importance to. Teenagers must maintain a normal attitude when making friends, focus on study and work, make objective analysis, and avoid being addicted to the Internet and unable to extricate themselves. Faced with this kind of problem, teachers and parents cannot give up eating because of choking, nor can they let middle school students roam freely on the Internet and ignore it. Both schools and parents should pay attention to students' psychological growth and guide them correctly.