Everyone is a moral bitch, who will tell others what to do on the noble morality, and will stay out of it and make accusations.
People who stay out of it can be calm, and how many people can be calm and calm in it? So please don't judge a person easily, because you are not in it, there is no empathy in this world, only know yourself and yourself.
However, we can analyze this situation from the root cause.
The first type: unhappy marriage, unable to divorce.
The marriage was so unhappy that someone immediately came out and said they wanted a divorce, but the fact is really not what you think. If you can say such a thing, it can only show that you are very happy. There are still many women in the world who are in a hot marriage life, and they can't get divorced and return to single for various reasons.
I read an article yesterday, in which the protagonist A described her painful marriage life that she could not divorce for many years. Her husband fell in love with her at first sight, so he started the pursuit mode.
The way to pursue is to pester and beat. In order to catch up with her, she resigned. She was so entangled that even if she picked up a brick and threw it at him, the man wouldn't hide, and he even said, I won't marry unless I am an A in my life.
Later, A was a little moved and married this man. After marriage, the man's rogue character is outstanding. She is not allowed to joke with any men, even at work, she will beat those men who have normal contact with A because of work or other reasons.
How can a man do a job with this salary just because his son is said to be smart and capable after his birth? Men have been idle at home for many years, and they have no income except eating and hanging out and mixing with society.
Suddenly, when I came home to open a restaurant one day, I was forced to sell the only place where A and her children lived. A asks for a divorce, and as soon as she opens her mouth, she will be beaten. The restaurant was opened by a man and his lover outside.
A has been married for a long time and has physical problems. First, she had uterine fibroids and had her uterus removed. Then came lipoma, and a series of tumors the size of rice grains grew on the neck, back and chest, which will grow again after resection.
The husband didn't get divorced when he was out partying, and threatened that if he got divorced, A's family would be ruined. Now you tell me, in such a marriage, it is right or wrong for a woman to cheat. Many people are wrong. I just want to say that you have never experienced what it means to be miserable.
If you just be a moral bitch, I'm speechless.
It is inevitable that such a woman will be gentler to her lover than her husband after cheating, because her husband is a scum, a rogue and a domestic violence maker. As long as such a woman has a lover who is better than her husband, she will be gentler to her lover than her husband.
The second type: marriage tends to be dull, don't want to divorce, and look for passion.
Love is beautiful, but marriage is not a continuation of love imagination. If you blindly fantasize about the beauty of marriage, then maybe the reality will hit you deeply in the face.
There is such a thing as love. You say yes, there is. If you say no, then there is no .. When a couple who are in love step into marriage, they should be prepared to lead a plain life. If there is no such psychological preparation, over time, people who fantasize about beautiful love continuing into marriage will be disappointed with the dull marriage life.
At this time, if you happen to meet someone who can provide romantic feelings, this person in marriage will cheat. This has nothing to do with men and women. Men's infidelity will be accepted by traditional social concepts, while women will not.
With the development and change of society, women began to enter all walks of life and have a certain economic income, so there are more and more cases of women cheating, which is an inevitable product of social progress and cannot be changed.
We need to change our original traditional thinking mode to look at such a problem. After a woman cheats, she will be gentler than her husband because her lover creates romance and meets her needs to a certain extent.
The third type: women are coquettish.
This is the kind of woman that everyone should criticize. Such a woman is naturally spoiled, likes to provoke men, and is unwilling to be lonely. It has also been described in many books since ancient times, so I won't go into details here.
In order to make men jealous, enjoy being taken care of by two men.
Some people say that it is a woman's guilt for a man to show tenderness to his husband in front of his lover after cheating. Is that really the case?
When a woman just cheated, she would have a short "rebound" because she didn't know what the consequences would be and because she was afraid of being found out by her husband.
In order to cover up her behavior, because of her guilty conscience, she will be twice as gentle to her husband after having an affair. But that doesn't mean that women still love men.
A woman who can cheat on her husband has no love in her heart and only cares about her feelings. All gentle fantasies are just to paralyze men and avoid seeing their own unbearable after the incident.
What does it mean for a woman to be gentle with another man in front of her lover?
If you want to inspire a person's fighting spirit, find him an equal opponent.
It can be seen that in this extramarital affair, women want not only excitement, but also men's concern for her. Therefore, a woman uses another man to test whether a man cares about her.
If you care about a woman, can you tolerate her gentleness towards other men? No, when a person is in love, he becomes possessive.
Therefore, women want more in this extramarital affair. Or she is greedy, hoping to get the good feelings of two men and enjoy the way two men are jealous of her.
She is like an emperor on high, standing from the perspective of God, watching two men fight to the death for her.
Finally, what is the duty of a lover?
A qualified lover should not ask about love, past or future, but whether two people are happy now. Once one party is sincere, it is impossible to be a qualified lover. If the other person thinks you are a threat to her life, rational people will choose to leave.
If you mind sharing the same woman with another person, then I suggest you don't be a lover, because you can't stand her being gentle with others and kissing me with others.
Why does a woman show gentleness to her husband in front of her lover after cheating?
Some feelings, once started, flow under the bridge.
Some desires, once indulged, will burn us.
Some roads, once lost, cannot be turned back.
Not all marriages deserve to be blessed. Not all extramarital affairs should be scolded to pieces. I know I wrote these two sentences against the world, and I will be hated by many people.
However, in reality, there are really many excellent women who are dying from marriage, scarred and in tears. There are also many decent men who care about their families, but they have not met a good woman who loves him. When they meet someone who can warm their cold hearts and bodies outside their marriage. They will risk their lives for love, even if it is broken.
But more extramarital affairs are infatuation, impulsiveness, novelty, excitement, stain and lifelong regret.
Especially women, once they cheat, they are doomed!
A woman who is unfaithful to her husband and shows gentleness in front of her lover is a woman with strong desire to be a partner, to make her lover jealous, and to wander between two men for a long time!
Such a woman will pay a heavy price for her debauchery sooner or later!
Women are water, and water is wealth. A good woman should know not to splash spring water casually.
A woman is a wife, and a wife is loyal. A good woman should know that only loyalty can control the feng shui at home.
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Some women cheat emotionally and betray their husbands. In front of their lover, there are indeed some women who seem to think that their husband is a very good person and is very good to her husband. In fact, such a woman is just for her lover, just to let her lover know that she is a very caring and well-behaved woman with a husband.
In fact, this kind of woman is tantamount to stealing the bell. Such people, regardless of shame, have actually betrayed their feelings and their husbands. What morality can such a woman have? Such a woman still pretends to be a woman in front of others, so I said that you are a naked woman in front of your lover, so stop pretending to be a good family. So I said, this kind of woman is just a show, just a performance for her lover, and her lover is just passing by. People and you are just a one-night stand couple, and they will not have real feelings with you. When they are tired of playing, they will naturally dislike you.
Therefore, don't worry about a woman's performance in front of her lover. This is a game, just a game.
I lied in the thirty-six plan.
In people's usual consciousness, cheating women are selfish and irresponsible. No matter what she chooses to cheat, this betrayal of her family is unforgivable.
If an unfaithful woman shows tenderness and consideration for her husband in front of her lover, she is mostly acting. Some also try to find some comfort with this exaggerated gentleness because of their deep guilt for their husbands.
A woman, a lover and a husband can be in the same box, which shows that their relationship is very familiar. The lover is either her husband's friend or her husband's colleague. On the other hand, this shows that the circle of acquaintances of husbands is the hardest hit area for women to cheat, so it is easy for men to make friends carelessly and bring crisis to marriage.
I once saw a story that a person usually gambles and drinks and does nothing, but he is full of problems anyway. I don't care much about my beautiful wife, and sometimes I beat her because of my troubles.
Men have a buddy who often walks around and helps them at ordinary times. Seeing all this in my eyes, I feel wronged for that beautiful and gentle woman. I have repeatedly advised men to be kind to their wives. It is not easy to marry such a person, so you should know how to cherish it. But men are unmoved and still go their own way.
My buddy saw this situation, and later tried to express his love for her when the man was drunk or absent, and promised that if the woman followed him, she would not be wronged again.
But the woman resolutely refused the confession of the man's brothers. The buddy who thought it was easy to get found it incomprehensible. Until one day, men and women really couldn't go on and went through the divorce procedure.
When the three men sat down again, the woman said to the man's buddy, you once asked me why I couldn't choose you. I'm telling you now that I didn't have the right to choose you before. Now I can decide. I choose you.
The man who has always doubted the relationship between his wife and his buddies shed tears of regret in an instant, but nothing can be redeemed.
This is really a good woman, not only beautiful and gentle, but also open-minded. Be able to stick to your loyalty and refuse temptation in the unfortunate life. Finally, I gave it to my ex-husband, to my buddy who pursued myself, and gave my conscience a perfect result.
She didn't give her husband a ridiculous cuckold husband, nor did she make her kind buddy a shameful third party, but she also safeguarded her reputation.
In marriage, if you don't love, please let go and give yourself the right to choose again. Don't cheat on impulse. Temporary happiness and excitement will make your family pay an unbearable price.
That depends on whether my husband finds out.
If not found by her husband, there is no doubt that she must be gentle in front of her lover. If she is gentle in front of her husband, why cheat? Just live a good life. A woman will only cheat, usually because she thinks her husband doesn't care about her, or because she has a bad relationship with her husband for various reasons, so she won't be gentle with her husband. A lover is a woman's emotional sustenance, and she will be very gentle in front of her lover.
If her husband finds out, she will either change her personality and please all kinds, depending on whether the cheating man is willing to accept her. A colleague of mine, whose wife chats with her ex-boyfriend in various ways, is very ambiguous. He found that his wife used to be strong and had nothing to do with tenderness. But after he found out, his wife took a 180 degree turn towards him, showing all kinds of concern and gentleness. Because of work, I often hear his wife call him. Her attitude shocked me. My intuition is that his wife must have cuckolded her, and he found her ambiguous. She didn't want to divorce because of her guilty conscience, and in order to prove that she loved this family, she chose to treat her husband gently.
So whether a woman is gentle with her husband or with her lover depends on the situation. If her husband doesn't find out, she must be gentle with her lover.
Cheating is the first cause of divorce in China at present, and loyalty is the foundation of marriage. Without loyalty, marriage will be difficult to maintain, especially in China, a country dominated by traditional culture. Tolerance for women's infidelity is very low. Many men choose to divorce after finding out that women are cheating, which is rarely tolerated. Therefore, for women, cheating is a high-risk behavior, but there are still some women who are desperate and even some women cheat. Let's take a look at this Chipper phenomenon.
First, simply go outside to seek excitement.
Some women cheat not because of family disharmony, but because they want to go out and seek stimulation other than their husbands and experience different feelings. They never want to divorce, just want to live a life with a husband at home and a lover outside.
Koharu in life is such a woman. She is in her forties. Although she reaches middle age, she still exudes the charm of a woman. Three years ago, she fell in love with a colleague in the company. Both of them have families, and they don't want to destroy each other's families. They enjoy the feeling of having families outside marriage. She often shows a family's love picture in the circle of friends, which attracts the envy of many sisters.
But who knows that she is a woman who has been cheating for three years? No matter at home or outside, she is a gentle and virtuous wife and a smart and capable working woman. At home, I am very kind to my husband, my children and my parents. Even my husband who sleeps with me can't find any flaws. She just plays such an extramarital affair and enjoys the happiness of both sides.
Such women are usually very well hidden and difficult to find. Their purpose is only to find different stimuli from the outside world.
Second, the family conditions are superior and the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious. .
Some women have superior family conditions, but the relationship between husband and wife is not very good. They can't get what they want from their husbands, so they get it from men outside marriage. Usually, if she chooses to divorce, it is difficult for her to find such a man with financial resources to rely on. At the same time, in order to dispel her husband's doubts, she likes to show her love in front of other men or in a circle of friends.
Economic conditions are the main reason why they don't want to divorce. After all, once they choose to divorce, the loss is very great for them, and long-term dependence makes them unable to leave their present lives. And the lovers outside are just crucibles of their lives.
Third, the life of husband and wife is not harmonious.
In many cheating couples, the disharmony of husband and wife's life is also a main reason for cheating. One party can't meet the needs of the other party, which can easily lead to the other party's derailment. If the husband has problems in this respect, women usually don't choose to divorce even if they cheat for family reasons, and they also like to show their love in front of other men to show their attitude towards their husbands. In short, a woman's showing love in front of her lover has two meanings: the first meaning is to tell her lover that she will not bother you or divorce you; The second meaning is to tell your husband that he loves you and will not betray you for other men.
I hope my point of view can solve your doubts, thank you.