Three children from Evolution Town, Fenggang County, Zunyi City, Guizhou Province ran away from home late at night. After investigation, it was found that the three children ran away together.
The parents quickly called the police after finding out. The police checked the surveillance and found that the three children only brought simple clothes and food that day, as well as water and two mobile phones for the elderly.
After figuring out the situation, the police immediately worked with the town cadres and the masses to look for the children nearby. Four hours later, three cold children were found in the mountains 3 kilometers away from home.
After returning home, the children revealed the reason why they ran away from home.
Classmate Li said that her parents often quarreled, and she and her younger brother decided to run away from home together if they didn’t want to stay at home anymore. Then, the parents of her playmates also always quarreled, so she decided to have a relationship with her brother and sister. The two ran away from home together.
The police then educated the parents, who regretted it.
A bad relationship between parents only brings harm to the children. Families are broken up because of parents’ bad relationship every day. Many parents will come out of this broken relationship, and these families The only ones injured here are the children.
The harm caused by family breakdown to children. Some children may express their thoughts and dissatisfaction through various crying because of their extroverted personality, but those who are introverted and don't like to talk are more likely to The hurt remains in the heart, which will cause greater and deeper harm. What impact will the parental relationship have on children?
1. Damage to self-confidence
The more serious outcome of a bad relationship is divorce, and the direct victims of divorce are the children.
Perhaps during parent-teacher meetings or parent-child activities at school, the parents shirk responsibility from each other, and in the end neither parent may come back to fulfill their responsibilities.
When playing with children, other children’s parents are there, but your child only has his father or mother.
On many occasions when parents are needed, the role of parents is missing. Children will feel sad because of the careless gossip of adults around them. Because others have parents and I don’t have parents, I will feel inferior, and because I don’t have parents, Timely guidance from relatives can easily damage children's self-confidence over time.
Confidence is a child’s self-affirmation of himself. He thinks that he is particularly good. This is not narcissism, but a high degree of self-affirmation. Children with this mentality are mentally healthy children. .
Children who are not confident will easily become inferior due to the comments, sarcasm and ridicule of people around them. The bad results will always be a vicious circle. Especially serious ones will lead to children denying themselves and tending to be autistic. It brings obstacles to life, work, making friends, etc., making it difficult to integrate into society.
2.? Fear of marriage
I have a college classmate. Her parents divorced when she was in the second grade. Her mother has been working outside, and finally she married and had a baby in another place. In the new family, her father never came to see her, nor did he care about her. My classmates have lived with their grandparents since they were young.
When he was in college, he often said that his only relatives were his grandparents. If her parents wanted her to take care of them when they got old, she would never take care of them!
At that time, her parents would never give her living expenses. The expenses for schooling were all obtained through loans, and the living expenses came from her grandfather’s pension.
Later, one year after graduation, she suddenly sent me a message, saying that she was getting married and would go to get the certificate soon, but she was a little scared. I asked her why, and she said it was still the marriage of her parents when she was a child. It left a shadow on her. She is afraid that she will also get divorced in the future.
Later, due to various reasons, they did not get married, but from this incident we can see how much influence parents have on their children. A poor or even broken relationship between parents directly affects children's views on marriage and love.
From a young age, children living in an environment where their parents are noisy every day will make the child full of fear of the family. She will not believe in herself and feel that if she gets married, she will definitely be noisy all day like her parents and spend her life as a waste. Gotta be a mess.
So a harmonious and happy parental relationship and family environment have a great impact on a child's growth and have a great impact on his marriage.
3. Lack of sense of security and imperfect character
Children usually see the quarrel process between their parents and remember it in their hearts. The quarrel is like a knife, cutting through It breaks the child's heart, and that wound will never heal, even if it takes time, it will leave scars.
Many children whose parents have a bad relationship will feel worried, uneasy, and uneasy because of quarrels. Some negative emotions will accompany them, which will also affect the development of their children's character.
Under normal circumstances, if parents have a good relationship and love each other, their children will be cheerful and healthy. A child who grows up with parents who have a bad relationship and a weak relationship is selfish, willful, and indifferent, because this is how her parents behave.
Parents blaming each other and shirking responsibility will affect their children's behavior, and they will become sensitive, paranoid, and irresponsible.
Children raised by a pair of emotionally stable parents and a happy family will also be healthy, responsible and responsible people. Children's growth requires the support of their parents
1. Control yourself
Every child is an angel, and they are born to be cared for by their parents.
When you have conflicts, think more about your children. Children are innocent. People's tempers can be controlled. You need to control yourself not to quarrel in front of your children, and retain the warmth that belongs to your parents for your children.
2. Parent-child games
Many games are conducive to the maintenance of relationships, and parent-child games will deepen the relationship between children and parents, father and mother. In free time, games Paradise, shopping, picnics, and traveling are all effective ways to build beautiful relationships.
In family education, children and parents are tied together, and whatever parents show to their children will be absorbed by the children.
Frequent parent-child games will give children a good impression of their families subconsciously, and they will also look forward to their own families when they grow up, so it is important for children to have a good childhood.
3. Teach children tolerance
Everyone is born with a blank piece of paper, and everything on it is drawn one by one by the parents, and what the parents draw is It should be something positive and valuable.
Tolerance means learning to accept everything, whether it is good or bad. We must learn to learn and absorb the good things, and we must also learn to distinguish the bad things.
Parents are particularly precious to their children, and children are also their parents’ treasures. The relationship between parents will have a great impact on their children!
The quality of a person’s family environment will affect that person’s life trajectory. Her way of doing things, character and behavior, and outlook on life and values ??need to be protected and constructed by her parents.