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Is it possible to make friends at work?

Being able to make friends is an unexpected blessing, but not being able to make friends is normal. After you enter the workplace, there will definitely be leaders or friends who will tell you that the workplace is for working, not for making friends.

1. When you make friends in the workplace, it is easy for people to interpret you as "taking sides." It is very taboo to have "partisanship" in the workplace. When you are put on the opposite side because of who you think you are a friend. Sometimes, your job may not be guaranteed.

2. Human nature is complex. As a newcomer in the workplace, you cannot tell whether the kindness behind your face is true or false. Only by keeping a wait-and-see and distance can you see people's hearts over time.

3. How do you judge whether a person is worthy of your deep friendship? Zeng Guofan has the answer:

Zeng Guofan said: "The way to look at people is to be simple and honest. If you have the quality, you will appreciate his strengths, which is valuable; without the quality, the strengths will not be relied on. . (Fu Fang Zi Bai)"

Modern management pays attention to selecting, cultivating, employing and retaining people. There are many books to read in every aspect. If you don’t have time to read, Zeng Guofan’s sentence reminds you of the key points: select, cultivate, use, and retain, and look for people who are simple, down-to-earth, honest, and upright. Don't be with those who are too fancy, have extremely rich resumes, talk about uncommon words all day long, and talk about all kinds of famous people's names. Let them be where they like.

Talent, simplicity and non-corruption are the core. With a core, you can use whatever strengths you have; without a core, you can't use whatever strengths you have.

The second half of the sentence he did not say is: only a simple core, no strengths, no good habits, and cannot be used. Being a human being is inherently difficult, and achieving success is inherently difficult. There is no such thing as "easy" in the adult world. There is nothing easy except gaining weight.

————This view is excerpted from Feng Tang’s new book "Cheng Shi"