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On the other hand, no matter from which angle, I personally think that boyfriend and girlfriend.
The formation of must go through the following four stages:
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Meet, attract, communicate and keep.
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Meet: whether you are classmates or working in the same company, friends introduce you, or even
Even chatting up people in the street or making friends online, things always happen for a reason.
Let's begin.
Attraction: If you are a boy, the traditional saying is that you have started to "pursue".
Sometimes, your purpose is how to persuade girls to like you.
Communication: Men and women reach an agreement to "be together". In addition to verbally acknowledging him,
There is also a certain degree of physical relationship.
Maintenance: after becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, the common topic of both sides is how to make you
Our relationship continued and even became more loving.
Some boys obviously have good conditions, why can't they get a girlfriend? The reason is that he doesn't understand women.
The pipeline of life doesn't know how to create the opportunity of "meeting". Of course, even objects
It's nothing. What are we still talking about?
It is also a university question to strike up a conversation, but only if you have the courage to act. A simple "classmate, can I know you?" Try it in a generous and sincere tone, I believe there is at least one \r
Half the girls will continue to talk to you. The key is whether you dare to try.
What is the secret of love? Or what is the key to winning in love? I will tell you without hesitation:
? 6? 4 don't call and send text messages often.
? 6? Don't give gifts, please eat.
? 6? 4. Not intimate transportation and courtship.
? 6? 4 not always praise.
? 6? How to confess without painstaking planning
? 6? 4 is not to make promises that cannot be fulfilled.
? 6? 4 is not hopeless romance
? 6? 4 no candlelight dinner fisherman's wharf
? 6? None of them.
Yes, these are what most people think chasing girls should do.
You must make her like you too!
The so-called "attraction" is to make girls fall in love with you involuntarily.
The problem is that most boys don't know what attraction is at all. To make matters worse, most of the suggestions on feelings in the workshop focus on how to please, how to do intimate things to move the woman, and how to find opportunities to express their feelings.
As we all know, these are probably the worst suggestions in history.
They don't understand that doing these things doesn't mean that the other person will like you. Because flattery is flattery, intimacy is intimacy, but they are not equal to attraction.
To put it bluntly, these are at best small steps to please girls.
As for your elaborate confession? I think we should throw it into the recycling bin. There is no other reason. Confession is equal to opening a card for the opponent's reference, and it is equal to directly giving the dominant position to the other party.
In other words, these typical pursuit behaviors often only make her less attractive to you!
Of course, there are always exceptions. I don't deny that some girls may be "touched" by you, even if they have never had a crush on you, but because you have really paid too much for her, based on conscience, or there is no better choice, she may try to convince herself to like you.
Just like hypnotizing yourself that bitter gourd is sweet.
Of course, people living in the real world know that the probability of this exception is really not very high. Try not to take the route of "touching girls" unless you are sure that the other person already likes you, and most of them are asking for it.
So what can I do to make girls like you? What are the main components of attraction?
Let me do it. Some clues:
Mystery, curiosity, dominance, security, ambiguity, uncertainty, desire stimulation, emotional transfer, physical contact, physiological reaction, interpersonal evidence, competitors, nonverbal communication, etc.
Each group of keywords above represents an important concept.
The logic of girls is very interesting. It is also a thoughtful move. If the boy she likes does it, she will feel flattered. If it is a boy she doesn't like, she will even feel sick: "disgusting, leave me alone!" " 」
Therefore, personally, I am not completely opposed to occasional flattery and intimacy, nor to occasional praise and praise.
The condition is that it must be based on attraction.
In other words, if you can make girls like you, everything will be fine.
This concept is really important. You shouldn't focus on that girl, you should please her, worship her and pursue her. Why not jump out of that box, focus on yourself, focus on exerting your attraction, and finally make her like you?
Strengthen your psychological quality! "Mentality" is the most important!
Many boys can't improve their skills in love because they are too emotional and don't know how to learn from failure. However, the common feature of many successful lovers is that they hold a playful attitude and a thinking of accumulating experience. If you are a shy boy, you need to jump out of your nest and boldly try to interact with girls more. Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and do what you should do, otherwise things will not progress. It doesn't matter how many times you are rejected. The point is, have you changed?
The more nervous you are, the more you want to catch up with a girl, the higher the chance of failure. On the contrary, the more you hold an "indifferent" attitude, the more likely you are to succeed.
Although it sounds mysterious, it actually has a theoretical basis. Because when you associate with a girl, if you don't put your true feelings into it easily, but concentrate on exerting your attraction at the same time, the other person will be confused by you and try to guess why you are like this, and you have already succeeded half way.
Let me tell you something: when girls are curious about you, they often like your horoscope, and it works every time.
Many infatuated men are criticized for being too "involved". Their mentality is very strange. There are plenty of fish in the sea, but they would rather waste two or three years chasing a girl who couldn't catch up from the beginning. They think it's the spirit of the founding father, but I think it's more like a tendency of self-abuse.
They made the mistake of putting all their eggs in the same basket. If you are still single today, I suggest you adopt a "multi-goal strategy" and go out on dates with many different girls. This is not a playboy, this is called selection evaluation!
Recently, some readers wrote to complain that all the girls nowadays are "appearance associations". He said that girls would never have a crush on a boy with poor conditions like him.
I don't deny that external conditions are very important. Just like playing with a big dick, good cards certainly have absolute advantages. But I believe in cards more. Even with a bad deck of cards, some people can still win. Of course, the key is how to optimize your chips. \r
If your conditions are not good, you will feel inferior, and you are often worried that girls will dislike you, which will highlight your insecurity. The result of the vicious circle will only strengthen your initial belief, and eventually you will be defeated by yourself and your attraction will collapse completely. So confidence is very important in the process of attraction!
Success = mentality+method+experience
What is a woman's deepest desire? This thing is called "safety"!
The so-called "sense of security" refers to a feeling of being "protected". This is why women prefer men who are tall and rich in resources. This is no accident, because to some extent, these qualities symbolize a man's ability to protect her.
However, many men have misunderstandings about "security". They think what women want is a man who is willing to listen and unwilling to spend money. Therefore, they overcompensate, are respectful and responsive to women, and are less likely to be philandering. But what they don't understand is that this excessive obedience is "weak" in the eyes of women.
The reason why women test men is nothing more than:
1? 6? 4 see how much you like her;
2? 6? 4 see where the limit you are willing to pay is;
3? 6? See if we can "restrain" her in turn.
The reason why good men are unpopular is that they only "give". On the surface, women also say that they want men to be good to themselves. As a result, these men can't turn their heads around and mistakenly think that what women want is their endless flattery and sacrifice. Paradoxically, what a woman really wants is a man who is not dominated by her.
The point is, you must make her feel that you are the kind of man who will not tolerate her "bad behavior". You must make her feel that if she really goes too far, you are the kind of man who will leave at any time. When you are at
When you build this feeling in interaction, paradoxically, women tend to hold you back.
If you are a boy with general congenital conditions, the chances of girls naturally liking you are not high, so of course you need to make up for your shortcomings through the efforts of the day after tomorrow.
Personality traits and the change of thinking mode. This process takes time to brew and internalize! First, you must try to change. It may feel a little unnatural, but you can't say that he is "pretending". From another perspective, this is actually learning, from the inside out, until it becomes a part of itself.
The story of the bad dolphin
How to train wild dolphins? Dolphins are smart but bad, and they are still disobedient after eating the fish given by the animal trainer. Later, the animal trainer came up with an idea, that is, give the dolphins a whole bucket of fish at a time, and then stop giving them when they are full. The flustered dolphin was shocked by the change of animal trainer 180 degrees, and began to try their best to please the animal trainer. Gradually, he found that the animal trainer would reward him with a fish when he made the action required by the animal trainer correctly. After repeated actions, the original bad dolphin became a good dolphin.
What have we learned from the story just now? Although men and women should treat each other sincerely, even dolphins need some skills to get it. I believe it is not too much for you to use some small means in the process of pursuing girls. This is also the reason why I am very opposed to stalking and attacking, because this may be the most indigenous and unoriginal way of steelmaking. \r
Please note that your goal is to stimulate girls' imagination of you. If you are used to the strategy of constantly pleasing girls, I suggest you pull away at the right time to achieve the effect of retreating. Because when you calm down a little, the girl will start to feel uneasy and she will start to think, "doesn't he like me?" He won't have new goals ... "But what she doesn't understand is that when she starts to care about you, your importance will increase, and then her chances of liking you will increase, just like a chain reaction.
My advice
6? 1 Don't do anything to please girls;
6? 1 There is confidence in your eyes and you know what you want;
6? 1 There are principles for some things, and they will not be deliberately modified because of the existence of girls;
6? 1 Treat beautiful women and ugly women equally to some extent;
6? 1 It's mysterious, and you shouldn't let yourself go just to chase a girl;
6? 1 There are always more important goals to achieve in life than girls;
6? 1 girls can leave at any time if they go too far;
6? 1 Don't hold the concept of compulsion, and respect girls' decisions;
6? 1 won't be entangled like flies!
Why are so many smart and independent women never obedient, but they are attracted to such "bad" men again and again?
The new generation of languages is very strange. Suppose you are described as a "good person" today, but it's not good at all. As far as I know, this word is most often used to describe a spoony man who wears a coat, speaks politely, abides by the law and rules, and is still waiting after being rejected n times.
It's not that the clothes are bad, but that the woman subconsciously told her that this man must be very hairy, or that he is a good card. He didn't dare to confront his parents and teachers since he was a child, otherwise he would still be dressed so restrictively.
The so-called "bad" men, in addition to dressing up with style and personality, will not be coy when facing women, know how to laugh and scold with women, and have a proper balance between words. Their attitude towards life is very natural, and they will not be too dependent on anything, nor will they care too much.
They will not wait for women's infatuation, because their personality is more self-centered, even narcissistic, and they may leave at any time, which is more lethal to beautiful women who are usually held by men. Because of this, as a result, he became the one pursued by women.
Moreover, this kind of man exudes a rebellious atmosphere. If interpreted by women, rebellion represents ability and courage. "Bad needs capital and skill." The key often lies in attitude.
Many people will take it out of context and think that "bad" means learning from others by smoking, drinking and taking drugs. Yes, that's a kind of rebellion. I don't deny that some immature girls will really be attracted to you. But this is definitely not mine.
Suggestions.
The "bad" I want you to cultivate is not bad behavior, but an attitude and a heartfelt sense of security. Because you have a sense of security in yourself, when women smell this trait in you, they will often be attracted to you involuntarily. On the contrary, the more you hold an "indifferent" attitude, the more likely you are to succeed.
What is a woman's deepest desire? This thing is called "safety"! ……
Hee hee, landlord, my personal opinion may not be comprehensive enough, but I think this is quite good, try it! thank you