When children enter the park, most mothers are very uneasy: "Can children who have never left me really adapt?"
Most children can adapt to kindergarten life in about half a month. For example, his son Xiao Panpan didn't cry on the first day. When he arrived at kindergarten, he waved goodbye generously. Then from the next day, he made a big noise about "kindergarten is not fun" for a week, and it never happened again.
However, there are still many children crying one after another, such as daughter Mini, but this does not affect her class, making friends and studying at all. She is very happy when she comes back every day: "Mom, I am really happy today."
Slow down Mini, everything is slow. The first time I took her to any training class, she kept the first class without saying a word. The whole person is stiff, but after a few days, she can have her own circle of friends.
Pan Pan, who is naturally busy, does everything quickly and hastily, and does things carelessly. The hardest thing for him is to be quiet.
No matter how hard I try, I can't make my son grow as calm as my daughter, let alone make my daughter as familiar as my son.
Every child has his own characteristics in social interaction, and it will be fast and slow to integrate into the new environment. I'm afraid this has nothing to do with your upbringing, but we must believe that children are eager to establish contact with others. As long as we accept and encourage them, they will be able to adapt to kindergarten life.
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In fact, during the period of 3-5 years old, most children's naps will gradually disappear. Xiao Panpan and Mini hardly take a nap in kindergarten, but they can fall asleep at school.
Many children go home after nearly two hours' nap in kindergarten, and they can stay up until midnight. Finally, they hear their mother's lion roar every night. The baby is also embarrassed, but not sleepy ~
Maybe many mothers will say: I can accept it, but kindergarten can't accept it!
In recent years, I have often heard that some mothers are particularly confused about this. The reason is that kindergarten teachers will criticize children and mothers for not taking a nap. Some children even wet their pants because of a nap.
If so, my personal suggestion is to get resources from the school. For example, can the teacher arrange a place to gather some children who don't take a nap and let them play freely or arrange some games, or provide some building blocks for children to play freely without affecting other children's rest?
Some parents may say, if the kindergarten teacher doesn't agree, can you pick it up at noon or change schools?
Children who don't take a nap are bad children, which is ridiculous. If there is a choice, such a school would rather change far away!
After primary school, most schools don't arrange naps. Children who are used to taking a nap should make some adjustments in the summer vacation when they are young, and they can basically adapt.
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Xiao Panpan can read independently when he is in a large class in kindergarten, and literacy mainly depends on his parents. But the same method doesn't apply to my sister. She has read many books and hardly knows a few words. Therefore, I specially taught my sister to read.
But is there really such a big difference between a year earlier and a year later?
My sister can read independently in the first grade and keep the habit of reading every day, but her favorite books are completely different from her brother's. She prefers children's literature (which is my brother's least favorite), while my brother likes history and military affairs.
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Then, it is English enlightenment. To tell the truth, it must be a language sensitive period, which will get twice the result with half the effort. However, when we were young, we all studied English in the first grade, and many translators and diplomats didn't learn English until they were adults. It can only be said that the learning paths are different and the ways are different, but the effect cannot be said that it is too late to learn late. Therefore, there is really no need to feel anxious because of missing enlightenment.
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In fact, my brothers and sisters didn't learn pinyin in advance, but they all started to learn pinyin in the first year of high school. I didn't expect that not learning pinyin in advance is the biggest difficulty for children. On the contrary, my sister didn't learn pinyin in advance, which gave her a new understanding of the difficulties. She thought that as long as she worked hard and practiced repeatedly, she wouldn't have to worry about when she would start learning.
But it doesn't mean that you can't study in advance, and you need to be exposed to this knowledge to better adapt to the life of primary school.
Therefore, knowledge is an aid, and the ability to cope with difficulties, courage, habit, action and self-confidence … these are the key points of young convergence.
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Many mothers will be accused of using diapers when their children go to kindergarten. The American Academy of Pediatrics advised them to try to quit diapers after they were 2 years old. It is best to carry out toilet training before entering the park to avoid great pressure after entering the park.
But in fact, every child's growth node is not exactly the same. A few months' deviation, especially at night, is normal for some children to last until they are five years old. Some children will beat and scold their children for wetting the bed, which will only increase their psychological burden and make it easier for them to wet the bed.
According to the statistics of Boston Children's Hospital:
22% of children aged 2 and a half will wear diapers;
Among the 3-year-old children, 60% will not wear diapers;
88% of children aged 3 and a half will wear diapers;
20% of 5-year-old children will wet the bed.
When to quit diapers, the important premise is that the child's body is ready, and then we can talk about the method. As long as the child is physically and mentally healthy, these problems are not problems.
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After children go to kindergarten, they will come into contact with more strangers, and there will be mutual comparison and comparison between children of the same age, so some mothers will feel more stressed.
My brother greeted everyone loudly on the road when he was a child. On my way to kindergarten, I often hear some parents scold some introverted and slow-moving children. Many mothers will be accused by others for this, thinking that their children are ill-bred and rude. ...
Accept that introverted and slow-moving child. There is nothing wrong with them. As long as they accept it, they will get up the courage to break through themselves, teach them to smile politely and encourage them to get up the courage to say hello. As you can see, the children are also working hard.
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After children enter the park, many social problems come, such as fighting between boys and isolation between girls, because quarrels between toys and friends are increasing gradually.
However, these are compulsory social classes, so parents must not get involved too much and must refrain from interfering. Kindergarten children will not have too many fierce conflicts, and should learn kung fu outside of poetry.
In primary and secondary schools, you will find that social interaction is becoming more and more complicated, and there are fewer and fewer things you can do. You need to practice outside poetry, and more and more.
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But in fact, both boys and girls need to be loved, respected and valued before they can become independent, brave and responsible men.
There are also some mothers who are worried because their children like pink, but this is actually a natural phenomenon. We should pay more attention to what children see, feel and why they like it, and expand their cognition of beauty.
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When I was in kindergarten, I did have this problem at home. I slept too long in the afternoon nap, so I couldn't sleep at night and couldn't get up in the morning. Although it is close to home, the time to get to school is often very tight.
In elementary school, it may have something to do with taking a nap. At the same time, when you get older, your cognition is different. After all, no one wants to enter the classroom under everyone's attention. In short, judging from the situation of two children at home, when they go to primary school, they attach great importance to school time, which is completely different from the cognition of kindergarten.
Many parents have misunderstandings about their children's concentration. In fact, multiplying the child's age by 3 is almost the time for the child to take the initiative to concentrate. Note that they are actively focused, not passive (for example, watching TV is passive).
Concentration has a considerable relationship with children's temperament and cannot be compared horizontally.
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Working and fooling around is almost the main topic that runs through children's growth. Generally, muddling along is related to children's time concept and ability. Everyone is talking about dawdling for a few hours, which is mainly related to the child's "psychological factors", that is, the child does not want to do or write, in other words, it is intentional!
Therefore, this is a distress signal sent by the child, and it is difficult to solve the child procrastination only by beating and cursing.
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