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The ancients who were cheated by making friends.
We have always been proud of traditional culture, but we have taken it out of context. Over time, many real situations and connotations have been replaced by secular values. Some are seriously distorted by the self-righteous prejudice of future generations. Zhou Mi in Song Dynasty once pointed out in his book unofficial history in Qidong Taoism: "You can invent the ambition of sages and trace back to the source …" which means tracing back to the source. Only when you can understand the purpose and significance of ancient saints and delve into them, can you really understand the connotation of culture and you won't be ridiculous. Today, Jiangyang drinkers want to talk to you about right door and right door, but many people don't know its original meaning. Today, everyone understands that doorways are equal. The doorways to earn money are equal getting along or getting married, the concept of family status in marriage or communication, and the ethics of choosing friends and wives. Some people will consider such questions when making friends and dating, such as whether they are suitable for each other. Refers to the social status, economic status, occupation or work ability and living habits of both men and women or their families, which are quite suitable for communication or marriage. Today, on the whole, the correct view of marriage really conforms to the realistic environment of society, but in some special circumstances, the correct view of secularism will separate the realistic destiny forever. Some people say that in ancient China, there was only one meaning, that is, when a man married a woman, the wealth status of the two families was equal, and there was no other meaning. What's more, what the ancients said is "suitable for every household" also has its rationality. Family life style and culture are passed down or evolved from generation to generation in a family, even if the surrounding environment changes, it will not change easily. If two families have similar living habits and views on real things, there will be more people with the same language in life, happy together, enjoying each other for a longer time, and friendship or marriage will have lasting vitality. However, the ancients did not necessarily mean the combination of the rich and the rich. Today, let's put aside these secular ideas and realistic thinking for the time being. Let's take a look at the origin of the family. Strictly speaking, door-to-door and door-to-door must be separated first. It is first of all a thing in China traditional architecture, and it also contains a symbol of identity and a continuation of an ancient totem belief. First, the door should be graded from taboo worship. Doors should be a pair of flat stone piers or stone drums placed opposite the entrance of traditional buildings in China (people think that they can avoid ghosts because of their majestic momentum, and they are amazed). Including Baogu Stone and Jiangjunmen Pillow Stone, in ancient times, different levels of doors were also very strict. China has the saying of Mount Tai and Shi Gandang. The ancients believed that stones were spirit and positive energy. There were many taboos and worships in ancient times, and "Mount Tai Shi Gandang" was one of them. Erecting a stone tablet engraved with "Mount Tai Shi Gandang" (three feet three inches high) on a bridge or on the wall of a house can suppress all ominous evils and is very popular among the people. The evolution of Shi Gandang custom in Mount Tai has gone through a long process. In the folk, Mount Tai, which has the function of being the master of life and death, and being responsive, and Shi Gandang, which has the functions of staying in town, avoiding disasters, eliminating disasters, providing disaster relief and ensuring peace, are integrated into one. The custom of Shi Gandang in Mount Tai is widely spread. The Shi Gandang in Mount Tai is the result of the joint action of various ideologies, and it is the most influential folk custom in the folk history of China. In fact, "door pawn" is also a variant of this worship, and it is difficult to trace back to whether "Taishan Shi Gandang" or "door pawn" came first. Pillows at the gate, commonly known as doorpiers, are placed at both ends of the courtyard gate. The inner side of the pillow stone supports the gate, and the outer side is often carved with flowers and bird and animal ornaments, also known as the drum-holding stone. Drum-hugging stones are also square and round. The pier and abutment are exquisitely carved, with exquisite materials, exquisite workmanship and lifelike carving. Horn lotus is the most common pattern on both sides of the round stone drum. Exquisite patterns can be made into other patterns, such as unicorn lying loose, rhinoceros looking at the moon, butterflies entering country-specific ones, and some of them are made into patterns of five generations living under one roof (five lions). The round drum is generally animal-shaped, with standing lions, squatting lions or lying lions (commonly known as poodles) on it, and the square drum is also carved. At present, it is impossible to give an exact answer about the earliest time when piers appeared. Door pillow stone was used as early as the Han Dynasty (206 BC-220 AD) when quadrangles were formed. Perhaps it was from then on that it gradually evolved and became the threshold we see now. The carved ornaments on the outside of the door pillow stone seem to have existed a long time ago. There is a matching and comparing side in human nature. The original idea must be distinguished in the use of people at different levels, otherwise this thing will be meaningless. So I slowly reached the door of the royal family or government and used a lion-shaped drum stone; In front of the senior military attache, he holds a drum lion and a drum stone; In front of the low-level military attache, use the animal head drum stone; Senior civil servants use box-shaped drum stones with lions in front of their doors, while junior civil servants use box-shaped carved drum stones; In front of the richest man's door, there is an uncut box-shaped drum-holding stone, and the richest man uses a stone drum to hold a stone; For ordinary houses, only wooden piers or door pillows can be used instead. The Great Qing Law also clearly stipulates the grades and shelves of the main entrance of the official residence: "three first-class and second-class main entrances, five third-class and fifth-class main entrances, and three sixth-class and ninth-class main entrances." . "From this perspective, not everyone can have what everyone likes. Even if there is, there must be different levels. Just like LU ZHOU LAO JIAO CO.,LTD Co., Ltd. today, Erqu and Touqu are ordinary drinks, while Tequ and 1573 are drinks for people with money and status. Today is to meet the demand of differentiated consumption in the market, and the changes in those years are strictly graded. It has also become a symbol of social class. Later, the "household pair" closely related to it began to change from another aspect. Second, the relationship between households, from reproductive worship to status symbol, is one of the traditional architectural structures in China. Opposite the door are cylindrical wood carvings (brick carvings) protruding from the lintel, most of which are engraved with Swiss animals and rare birds (about one foot long). Because it generally appears in even numbers, it is named "Tiger Team." "Door-to-door" is only in the official's yard that there are "door-to-door" brick carvings and wood carvings placed on the lintel or on both sides of the lintel. The typical wood carving "Hudui" is located above the lintel, generally short cylindrical, each about one foot long, parallel to the ground and perpendicular to the lintel; Houses carved with bricks are located on both sides of the lintel, and most of them are engraved with patterns with the theme of Swiss animals and rare birds. Why do "Tigers" use short tubes? It is said that it represents the idea of attaching importance to men in people's reproductive worship, hoping for a prosperous popularity and lasting incense. (The shape of the household pair is similar to that of the male reproductive organs), which embodies the worship of male superiority and female inferiority in ancient China. This is the same as the pagodas in early ancient China. With the decline of matriarchal society and the dominant position of men, it spares no effort to increase different contents in traditional culture. Just like a door, although the style has rules, it must be different in order to better serve the needs of all classes in feudal society at that time. For example, the general column is a civil servant, and the hexagonal square column is a military attache, which can be used to hang lanterns, making the family happy. Household pairs are perpendicular to the lintel and located above the portal, taking even numbers, some are two pairs and some are four pairs, hence the name "household pairs". The size of the "household pair" is directly proportional to the size of the official goods. The number of "household pairs" can be six for one to five products, four for six to seven products, two for the following products and two for ordinary families. Of course, a two-family house must have a door. This is very consistent with the concept of moderation, harmony and symmetry in China's traditional architectural aesthetics, and is actually the overall values of China's traditional society. Of course, according to the principle of harmonious aesthetics in architecture, if there is a door in front of a house, there must be a couple of residents. Therefore, the two are often called together. It is also because the "door pawn" and "door pair" are often engraved with patterns suitable for the owner's identity, and the size of the "door pawn" and the number of "door pairs" mark the size of the owner's wealth. Therefore, in addition to the role of town house decoration, "door to door" and "door to door" are also important symbols of the identity, status and family background of the owner of a luxury house. "Suitability" has gradually evolved into an idiom to measure the marital status of men and women in social concepts. Today, we know that the idea of being suitable for each other is deeply rooted, and we can't change its pre-existing meaning. Originally speaking from ancient times, it lacked romance, but it was a more rational form of social label. However, if everyone only regards it as a standard criterion for lifelong events and mate selection, then it is likely that your rationality will make your life more empty. Wine drinkers always think that the alienation of romance and sensibility in traditional culture is more like a cancer of Zhu Cheng's Neo-Confucianism, which makes many of us forget that our destiny is in our own hands, not others'. Even if there is a temporary disparity between two people, as long as they really love each other, make progress with each other, and are willing to bear the wind and rain, how can they know that they will not be really suitable in a few years? Being born with a golden key is not necessarily a blessing. When you squander your luck instead of caring for it with virtue, you will never find a match.