When falling in love, the relationship between the two parties may be pure and natural, but if it is the transition to marriage, then everything is not that simple. Love is a matter between two people, and marriage is a matter between two families.

Every girl will long for a wedding dress and a palace when she is ignorant, but if she misses the right person for a moment, she may also end up with an unhappy life.

Recently I often see that some girls are very unfortunate because they meet unhappy people. For example, Ms. Lai from Hangzhou married an animal after her divorce, and Ms. Wuzhou from Guangxi went to her ex-husband’s house to stay with her children after her divorce, but disappeared. Some young girl from Henan got into a fight with her ex-boyfriend in the street. Sometimes you work hard all your life, only to be ruined by a man.

Wise mothers are warning their children to know four things about men when their daughters fall in love as adults.

Women are naturally very emotional, so they are more likely to be injured by falling in love with their own brains. As a mother, if she has eaten more salt than her daughter for decades, she should be wiser than her child.

As a mother, she has been married before. In order for your daughter to choose the right person, these things should be told to her when she becomes an adult. If she is dating under the premise of marriage, then she must look at four aspects of the boy's family.

A smart mother will tell her children before her daughter falls in love that she must understand the four situations in a boy's family.

First: Ask to know what kind of character the other person’s family is like.

Now the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been upgraded to one of the very "difficult relationships". The woman must learn to solicit the requirements and opinions of the man's mother for her daughter-in-law before she can feel like marrying a boy.

Because many people have not noticed this, they find out after marriage that the daughter-in-law that their mother-in-law likes the most is not their type at all. She always finds fault with herself, which leads to difficulties in getting along with her.

So this is the first thing a mother needs to warn her daughter.

It is best not to marry a son raised by a hard-working mother, such as a single-parent family, where the mother works hard to raise her son and places all her hopes on her son. She has no other hobbies and always thinks that her son is hers.

Think about it when a mother sends her daughter to such a family. Isn’t that robbing other people of their pride? Such a mother-in-law is extremely difficult to get along with.

Second: Know whether the other person has a family history of genetic diseases.

There was a girl who impulsively married her boyfriend while in love. She didn't even do the other party's premarital check-up. At the same time, she didn't care to ask the other person whether he had a genetic history. This person also deliberately concealed this.

After the child was born, she suffered from a hereditary heart disease and had an accident during pregnancy, so the child left her shortly after birth.

This directly caused her pain and crisis in her married life. Even after several years, she still has not gotten over the pain of her child and has become mentally confused. She was sent to a mental hospital last year for aftercare.

It is very important to ask the man about the genetic history of family diseases and undergo a physical examination before marriage. Be responsible for each other and for your future children.

Nowadays, prenatal check-up is free. It is recommended to do one when getting married.

Third: Understand the reputation of the other party’s family. Marriage is not as simple as falling in love. You don’t need to think too much about falling in love, but marriage is a long-term life together.

But now, many people actually wear masks to make friends, and no one knows what the other person’s true personality is. If you want to truly understand a person, you must start with his family.

For a family, their reputation is more important, which is accumulated over a long period of time, so mothers should tell their daughters to inquire about each other's family style before marriage.

Environment affects and shapes people, allowing us to better judge whether the other person is the most suitable marriage partner, rather than marrying blindly. If you get married, it will be difficult to find out that you are a female devil.

Fourth: Understand the other person’s family conditions.

Although we don't pay so much attention to "a match made in heaven" now, I believe that many parents hope that their daughters will not have too hard a life after marriage. Now many women find that this kind of life after marriage is not suitable for them, and they regret it very much. complex.

Ma Jing also likes to read some sentimental books and stories. She found that many women had good families, so she gave them to Phoenix men whose family conditions were not good.

If a Phoenix man is better than others, and if he just talks sweetly, he will say that he has good skin, and the end result will usually be miserable for the woman.

Ma Jing strongly agrees with a passage in "Jane Eyre", "Love is a game. It must always be equal and evenly matched, so that we can rely on each other for a long time."

So before getting married, you must understand what the other person’s family is like. If the family relationship is complicated or dangerous, appropriate judgment must be made to stop the child from continuing in time.

What kind of daughter-in-law the other family prefers is one of the questions to ask. Marriage is a complicated thing and love is not enough. Therefore, as an experienced person, the mother must tell her daughter that the reason is the most important.

Girls who pursue happiness, the right way is to stay away from this kind of man. 1. I often cannot control my temper in public places and often make people angry.

These people can't control their temper in public, and will get even worse in front of their girlfriends or wives.

They often use losing temper to solve problems. In serious cases, it may be domestic violence. From time to time, we see some rich and charming celebrities suffering from domestic violence, and it’s hard to tell.

2. People who have no motivation. I have been taught by my mother since I was young that I cannot find boys if I am not motivated. Indeed, even if a motivated boy is in a good family, he cannot do better, let alone a bad family. They either live indefinitely or live forever. If you date or marry such a person, you will no longer rely on women to support yourself.

3. There is no way to distinguish between work and life. Such people often don't have time to spend with their girlfriends or take care of their families because they prefer to work. When you are with such a person, you will lack a lot of security and companionship time, and your relationship will fade.

4. Male chauvinist. Not to mention people like this. To put it simply, they consider their own feelings. To put it big, they just listen to me in everything in life. Really I don’t want you to think about it, I want me to think about it.

Message from Ma Jing: A good marriage means that you can deeply feel the excellence and talent of the other person, but you do not feel that you are inferior to the other person at all. You can be with him with the same grace and confidence.