My experience of the opposite sex is like a track drifting away from girls-
In primary school, I mingled with the girls in my class;
In junior high school, there are several familiar female classmates around me;
High school, talking to girls every day;
Universities are basically accompanied by games;
Stepping into society, I found no female friends around me.
The communication between men and women was originally the most basic behavior of human society, but it has become more and more difficult in the rapidly changing 2 1 century.
I'm scared-will the intersection with girls only exist in street peeking, brushing gifts in the live broadcast room and the island goddess on the hard disk?
Eventually marry the girl you met on a blind date and complete all the contacts with girls in this life?
Me! Don't! Gan! Heart!
So, I pinned my hopes on the social software App.
At first, social App brought me infinite hope, but in the end, I avoided it like plague.
First of all, the hope of rebirth
When I stepped into the software store, I was shocked-the variety of social software exceeded my imagination.
Some so-called "birds of a feather flock together". According to your personality, temper and hobbies, divide users into several groups, hoping to improve the success rate of users' making friends-an English software that starts with S, and an N belongs to this kind of software.
Some pay attention to the first impression: upload your photos to all users and see other people's faces at the same time. If you think you have the right eyes, you can talk and interact-some purpose, some exploration, and so on.
Some jump out of the conventional text image mode, and let users mobilize other senses through voice matching, soul matching and even video matching to meet friends with freshness.
Dazzling social software makes me feel that there is no way out-add a few different functions and more things, and sooner or later I will meet fate.
In that case, let's do it!
I uploaded my photo on an agent, read an essay on an S, and recorded my thoughts on Weibo ... I actively cooperated according to the characteristics of each software, expecting that one day, when I meet someone who appreciates me, she will leave me a message and praise me, thus opening a beautiful story.
At first, I was enthusiastic. I just post new content, open the software every few minutes and see how many people browse it.
If one or two people like it, I will be so happy that I can't help thinking that the right person will appear.
However, this did not happen.
After a while, I found that no matter how hard I read aloud and how exciting I wrote my own thoughts, I could only get one or two praises.
The situation of increasing popularity in expectation did not happen.
What's even more frustrating is that this happens to every social software-
An agent does not match.
Nobody likes soo.
Nobody commented on a stranger. ...
This makes me a little curious. Obviously, it is a "three good users" who use the software as required. Why is it not taken seriously?
What kind of content and users can get the most attention?
With these questions, I decided to stop fooling around and study the truth of social software.
Second, there are more men than women.
First, I went to see the homepages of several girls, and then I realized-on social apps, the ratio of men to women is very different.
Some of these girls are good-looking, some are average-looking, and some are not mentioned.
Regardless of the face value, any content they publish has much higher attention than similar content published by boys.
Of course, these concerns all come from boys.
Some content is really worthless, but because of the gender advantage, there are still a large number of male users concerned. For example, in the picture below, in a stranger's "neighborhood dynamics", a girl sent a sigh of emotion because she lost her ID card. She doesn't even have a picture. Thousands of people have seen it, and dozens of enthusiastic male netizens are asking questions below.
In contrast, I spent half an hour taking photos and one hour retouching beautiful photos (left), only 20 people have seen them, and the number of likes and comments is zero.
A woman can attract so much attention by sending a piece of content casually. No wonder no matter how good the content is, few people care.
It's too easy for girls to meet the opposite sex. Even if I am passive and can't talk any more, there will always be a steady stream of boys coming to me and endless topics.
And all we have to do is just roll up some things and tell others that there is a woman here.
You must be familiar with the picture below.
Every time I see this picture, I feel powerless-MD, the competition is too fierce!
In this game, the passive person was killed actively.
Killed by someone who can talk,
People who can talk are killed by valuable people.
Those valuable people were killed by the rich. ...
As the saying goes, "a great achievement will make a million bones dry", but that's all.
Because there are more men than women, this kind of competition is happening in different degrees in front of any software and any girl.
If in reality, the problem encountered by straight men is that there is no channel to meet new girls, then there are channels to meet them in social software, and the number of girls is also very large. However, in the face of these, you are still at a loss and struggling.
When you are offline, you will find that you have no arena. On the internet, when you play, you find that no one can beat you.
This caught me off guard as a simple and naive straight man-I was not ready for this level of competition at all.
Naturally, I won't be the one to please girls.
Thought of here, another problem comes-since ordinary straight men like me are in the majority in the crowd, most girls will not be attracted to us and turn around for us. So, where do girls on social software look?
Third, the standard answer
To answer this question, we need to invite familiar characters to appear again.
Viagra, Ge Ye's partner, is also one of the most slippery boys playing social software around me.
Exploring and matching tens of thousands (I know this is not much, but after tens of thousands, he dislikes the fact that there are too few beautiful girls to explore, so they are rarely used).
The product matches two or three thousand (this is still under the premise that he is in love and social software is almost uninstalled)
Tik Tok and Weibo's fans add up to nearly 10,000 (I don't know much, but you know, he is just an amateur without fame, talent and education).
This is a screenshot from three years ago. At that time, he fumbled for a trumpet and liked to count 5000+
I didn't care about his high matching rate at first. After all, he is engaged in this industry. After playing for a long time, the matching number will naturally come up.
However, after listening to my opinion, he smiled mysteriously-getting attention on social software is not that simple.
"If you study the push content on the homepage of all social software, it is not difficult to find that no matter which social software boasts its own characteristics, in the final analysis, there are three types of content that will attract the attention of the vast majority of users," Viagra told me.
"These three types of content are-high value, good talent and strange experience."
In addition, other content is a foil, and it is only sent out to highlight the difference between the first three types of content.
"Now there are many handsome guys and beautiful women, and men are better than most ordinary men as long as they consciously tidy up, but why doesn't anyone have a crush on you?" Viagra asked.
"Getting attention on social software is both complicated and simple-the simple thing is that the content that can attract users' attention is the three categories I mentioned earlier. The complexity is that in the same kind of content, you have to adapt to local conditions. "
Compared with users above soul, you pay more attention to the inner meaning and connotation, so your photos should not be too grandiose and ostentatious-those sports cars, watches, brand-name clothes and five-star hotels can be hidden-even if you want to send them, at most, you will secretly show a brand in the corner.
What kind of photos do people on soul like-beautiful photos in life and artistic photos with artistic aesthetics?
Similarly, in terms of products, there are a lot of handsome guys and beautiful women. Like me, you think you can't beat the product. then what You need to use dimensionality reduction blow-medium and high values, plus super hard values (high values that can't be used in the soul can be used here), and you can still become an expert in products.
Hearing this, I was shocked and a little self-deprecating.
Or are you too simple to think that dating software is really about finding like-minded friends?
In fact, any community will automatically divide and accumulate certain types of people-and among all types, the group that is finally concerned will always be the one who is glamorous and likes to show off.
And if you want to turn over, from a passerby to a shining teenager in everyone's eyes, you must follow that set of "standard" gameplay, instead of talking to yourself, admiring yourself, and going your own way with childish thinking.
Although life is real, you can't put ordinary daily life under public scrutiny without composition and retouching.
Although spitting and complaining are the truth of real life, the online world tells you that ugly B should be a gregarious animal offline-otherwise, you should be a colorful ugly B, or a handsome and beautiful woman who is full of complaints.
Yes, this is the truth-when 80% of ordinary users post their insignificant daily lives at will, 18% of people with a heart are trying to package and create the only bright spot in ordinary personal life, and then show it to everyone, thus winning the favor and pursuit of 80% of users.
As for the remaining 2%, natural beauty and natural conditions are beyond the reach of ordinary people.
And I, straight, am still naive.
IV. Rule 28
Yes, according to the above percentage, the 28 rule naturally emerges.
I remember the "28 Rule" because it applies to all aspects of human society-social software is no exception.
20% of the content attracted 80% of users' attention. Correspondingly, 20% users are sought after by the remaining 80% users.
On the other hand, it's the same-80% of users are trying to get in touch with those 20%.
If you see more details, Rule 28 still applies:
If a girl is accosted by ten boys, she will only say no to the two most prominent ones, and the remaining eight will either be perfunctory in raising fish or not answer directly.
In other words, a girl spends 80% of her energy on interacting with the first two boys, and the remaining 20% of her energy is spent on perfunctory other eight boys.
In this way, the final result is still the 28 th rule-since there are 20% people in front and the remaining 80% people have social opportunities, the probability of real men and women coming together in the end only accounts for 20% of all male and female interactions.
You can guess, what is the remaining 80%?
Yes, disappointed people, well-meaning people, irresponsible people after teasing, and people who are in love with dew ... are all intertwined and scattered into the sea like ashes, leaving no traces of their bodies.
What has been described above is no longer a picture on social software. Seeing the big from the small, the current situation of male-female communication is exactly the same.
Eighty percent of them are there, flying around like headless flies.
Twenty percent, those who know the rules of the game are overwhelmed by waves of active throwing themselves at each other.
20% lucky people can hook up with each other's serious objects and talk about a sweet love.
The remaining 80%, after a brief joy, was abandoned.
Having said that, I have to admit the fact that people are animals that can raise their heads.
Those girls I can't get in touch with in my life, who feel very interested in appreciation, also start from social software Lyon, looking for users they appreciate and like.
There is no limit to the upward amplitude. Whether it's 30 or 60 in real life, people are entitled to spy on those who score 90.
What's more, in reality, girls with 30 points and 60 points have corresponding scores in software because of the blessing of "more men than women", which makes them feel close to those high-quality men with 90 points.
A leopard cannot change his spots.
After studying the alarm of social software and Viagra, I found several bumpy truths.
First of all, human nature is laziness.
Explanation: watching dramas, variety shows and novels ... everyone likes this kind of "passive stimulation", that is to say, if you can get excitement and pleasure without thinking, you'd better not think at all.
When social software appeared, people were slightly interested in publishing some of their own content, but when they found that they received little attention and the elaborate content was so beautiful, most people didn't want to publish their own content at all.
This also explains why Weibo can last forever, but other social software is always ups and downs-although the number of active ordinary users on Weibo has been greatly reduced, there are always a number of content producers, so users still like to go up as viewers.
By the same token, Tik Tok and Aauto Quicker are so popular because they have a group of excellent content producers and hundreds of millions of favorite audiences.
Secondly, smart people always make profits.
Explanation: When ordinary users use social software, their mentality is always: I will do whatever the software tells me to do, emphasizing participation. You can always see through the rules of the game at the first time, and then concoct the "correct answer" in the same way. In the end, they reap not only the attention of social software, but also the emotional dividend that comes with it.
Finally, social software users will eventually be polarized.
Explanation: Social software will eventually breed two kinds of people. The first category focuses on enthusiastic netizens who participate. Such people are like migratory birds. No matter which social software is hot and which social software is newly listed, they will enthusiastically flock to it, then actively publish their social content first, and then gradually become spectators. Finally, when the next fresh social software comes out, they will not hesitate to invest in the next social software and do the same thing.
Finally, such people will find that the content they send is worthless at all, and finally give up completely and become a silent spectator on social software all their lives.
On the other hand, sooner or later, it is found that social software has a suitable gameplay, and it has gradually changed from blind hair to serious content producers. Later, I look forward to turning over in the next new social software and becoming a perfect person with both popularity and wealth.
It is worth noting that due to the limited social resources, the second group of people will eventually become saturated, and there will be a round of elutriation within the crowd. In the end, the top content producers will survive and reap all the dividends of social software, while most of the eliminated people will quit the battlefield. Perhaps a new way of human interaction will be born from these eliminated people, which is unknown.
-Eventually-
In fact, as an ordinary boy, it is an idiotic dream to get a lot of attention on social software.
Social software is actually a mirror of real life.
You are introverted in life and have no friends. Anything you publish will bring such a mediocre temperament.
Finally, you will end up as a "lonely patient" on social software.
You are proud of your unique hobby, you find it difficult to find like-minded people in the crowd, and you hate it on social software.
Even if you find it, because you cherish and cherish this hobby, it is difficult for you to communicate honestly with another like-minded person-everyone looks at each other with superiority. Once there is a disagreement, they are more inclined to question each other and defend themselves than to get to know each other, and the final result is often a bad ending.
Do you understand? If you don't change your lifestyle, you won't have really interesting content to attract the people you want to attract.
If you don't know how to build your own personal design to conform to the gameplay of social software, even if your life becomes rich, the quality and quantity of people you attract will still be worse than you think-besides, there are more and more people trying to live a good life.
This is a long and difficult road. Most ordinary people are overwhelmed to cope with their own lives. How can they have leisure time to establish their social image so attentively?
However, if you don't do this, you will never get the attention of your ideal goal.
My straight men, how are you going to solve this dilemma?