then what I've done this before, more than once.

When we first went out to work, several of our classmates were assigned to the same factory. As strangers, everyone likes to warm up in groups and always go to dinner together.

At the beginning, gay men learned to be gentlemen and pay the bill. I don't think it's good to do it twice. No one has much money on him, and no one can afford it. So before dinner, I said I would pay the bill alone, and then everyone would give him the money. Fortunately, I used to be a school cadre, and everyone still believed me and didn't complain.

Later, we got married, married, and three or five friends also liked to get together, especially playing with children. At first, a well-married classmate always scrambled to pay the bill. After doing it twice, I admit that it is convenient for everyone to buy it themselves in the future. Everyone wants to live, and there are many opportunities to play together often. It's not good after a long time, it will be very troublesome. They also followed my advice.

I don't think there is anything wrong with AA system among friends, classmates and colleagues. Others will think that asking more will take advantage, and asking more money may be unbearable. AA system gives us a choice, which is good for each other.

My old classmates invited me to dinner. As a result, I have to pay AA when I pay the bill, so I have to pay 800 yuan myself! I know I can't stand it after being routine! The last little operation, not only didn't cost me a penny, but I also earned 1600 yuan!

I'm Zhou Xiao. After graduating from college, I found a smart home company in my hometown of Ningbo to do sales work, which has been done for several years. Life is basically two points and one line, dull, but also quite satisfactory.

At about eight o'clock last night, after dinner, I was staying in the study and watching a movie with the air conditioner on, when my cell phone rang. I picked up my mobile phone and saw that it was my classmate Xiao Zhang who called me.

Xiao Zhang is my college classmate. Because my hometown is in Jiangxi, I went back to my hometown for development after graduation, so I didn't contact again. He just keeps his number and sends messages occasionally.

He called me suddenly, and I was curious. I don't know what I want. So I picked up the phone and a voice came from the other end: "Hello, is this Zhou Xiao?"? It's Xiao Zhang! Haha, long time no see! "

I replied politely, and then he said, "I was in Ningbo on business these two days, and now I happen to be eating in the square near your home." Are you free? " Come and have some together. It's really been a long time! "

I hesitated. Xiao Zhang, who has not been in contact for so many years, is now on a business trip in Ningbo without informing me in advance. In the middle of the night, he suddenly wanted to invite me to dinner. What game is he playing? I feel guilty in my heart. I think he is really playing cards that violate common sense!

I don't want to go, and it's too hot. So he said to him, "Xiao Zhang, I just finished eating, less than an hour later, and now I have no appetite for another big meal." Besides, I'm going to sleep after taking a shower, so I won't come over tonight. Why don't we make an appointment another time? "

"Chou, how like the elderly, young, go to bed so early, can you sleep? Come and buy you a drink! This is my first time in Ningbo, and I don't know if I have time to see you again. "

Impossible, that's what he said. After all, they are all old classmates. When people came to Ningbo for business for the first time, they called me to have dinner. After all, losing face is unreasonable. I told other students that I was unreasonable, and I was afraid that I would lift my head in the future, so I had to promise him.

Xiao Zhang sent me the location of the hotel, and then I simply adjusted my clothes, washed my face, turned off the air conditioner and computer, and went out.

I took a taxi, followed the location, and soon arrived at the restaurant that Xiao Zhang said. Pushing open the balcony door, I met three other people besides Xiao Zhang: two boys and a girl. Look at the food on the table. Obviously, it's almost finished.

Xiao Zhang saw me come in and got up to meet me with great enthusiasm. I also asked the waiter to add a pair of chopsticks to me, and then took a few bottles of beer and asked me what I wanted to eat. I only ordered a spicy crayfish.

After sitting down, Xiao Zhang introduced me to those friends and said that all three of them were his colleagues and came to Ningbo on business together. They just finished working overtime, so they came to the square here for dinner together.

I exchanged pleasantries with Xiao Zhang and asked him how long he was going to stay in Ningbo. Most of the rest of the time, Xiao Zhang is talking with his colleagues about work, laughing and bragging. Anyway, I couldn't get a word in, so I picked up my glass and drank it.

Gradually, I felt something was wrong: I was full of food and wine, and all the dishes on the table were gone. I have drunk three bottles of beer and just sat there quietly. It's been about an hour, and they've been rambling for a long time, and no one has settled the bill!

Later, the hotel waiter came to urge them to close the door quickly. I hope we can finish it soon. But no one said he would pay the bill! I just understand: boy! Love this meal, they didn't say who invited you beforehand!

Later, I thought it was too long and the atmosphere was embarrassing. I can't stand it any longer. First, he said, "My friends, it's getting late. We're almost finished eating and drinking here, or we'll break up. The People's Hotel is also closing, and it is impolite to keep the waiter waiting. "

Those people all bowed their heads and said nothing. Xiao Zhang added, "Almost. Well, I suggest everyone have dinner tonight. No one should eat for free between friends, and no one should suffer! "

"Well, then listen to zhang elder brother. Brother Zhang will settle the bill for everyone. We'll pull a batch later and transfer the money to you. What do you think? " One of the male colleagues responded.

Another male colleague said, "I agree! But forget it, Sue. Girls don't eat much. Let her pay, we are sorry! "

"ouch. Then how dare you? I also ate and drank after all. " The girl pretends to be polite on the surface. Before everyone could reply, she immediately added: "Thank you!" "

I thought to myself, boy, this is hidden. This woman is not a fuel-efficient lamp at first glance! Thick skin! AA suddenly became AAB!

Then they looked at me at the same time, and the meaning was clear. Let me make a statement! I can only nod helplessly!

After everyone reached an understanding, Xiao Zhang got up and went to the front desk to check out. After a few minutes, he ran back with a small ticket and told us the total consumption tonight: 3200 yuan! So, we four boys, each have to share 800 yuan!

I'll go! 800 yuan! I thought to myself: I just finished eating. I don't want to come over. You asked me to come over and say it's your treat! Just to get me to take out 800 and your AAB! I only drank three bottles of beer and a few spicy crayfish, so let me pay 800 yuan! You are so cruel!

Lie in the trough! I just woke up: Xiao Zhang deliberately asked me to pay the bill! Or maybe they teamed up to frame me! Feelings: They are looking at my honesty and playing with me without martial arts!

The thought of this floor, soon! I have a plan at the moment: "Xiao Zhang, I have work at home, so I have to go first." Just pull me back into the group and I'll transfer the money! " Say that finish, before they respond, I got up and walked away.

I'll take a taxi as soon as I leave the hotel. Soon after I got on the bus, my mobile phone received a system notice saying that they had pulled me into the group. The name of the group is quite humorous: Ningbo is on business for one night!

I quietly watched them bragging in the group, waiting quietly, waiting for him. Sure enough, in a few minutes, with the sound of "Ding Dong" and "Ding Dong", two red envelopes from 200 yuan came out. Then six, and six 200 yuan red envelopes!

It's really fast to say it later. I immediately came out like a tiger, and the cheetah attacked. The flexible little finger gently clicked on the screen of my beloved mobile phone, and all eight red envelopes fell into my account.

Soon, news came from the group: How did you take the red envelope away? This is for Xiao Zhang. Did you order it wrong? Spit it out!

There is another one: spit it out quickly! Transfer to Xiao Zhang!

Oh! Do I care about you?

At this moment, Xiao Zhang made a separate voice and asked, "Zhou Xiao, you didn't transfer money to me, so why did you take all the money they shared equally?" Didn't you agree to have dinner with boys tonight? " Is it too unkind to be a man? "

Hearing this, I smiled, cleared my throat and gently pressed the voice reply button: "Xiao Zhang, who is not kind?" Are you shameless? When I just graduated, you said you didn't find a job. At that time, you borrowed 1000 yuan from me for living expenses. It's been two years, and you haven't paid back a penny! You are silent, I have no intention of arguing with you! "

"Now come to Ningbo on business, you'd think of me, but also play tricks with me, bully me to tell the truth, and want to take me as a sucker? Tell you, you are still young, and this money will be my interest! "

Without waiting for Xiao Zhang to reply, I hung up the phone directly, blacklisted him, and then quit the group chat.

Just turn it off! Go home and sleep!

Through this experience, I understand the following reasons and share them with you:

First, sincere friends respect each other, and friendship is never one-sided.

In the process of making friends, we must recognize each other's personality. Find like-minded friends who help each other and make progress together!

Second, there is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people.

This old saying makes sense. Even former classmates and friends, if they don't contact for a long time, their relationship will change. Need to get to know each other again If they go further or take a step back, their relationship must be readjusted.

Third, fair-weather friends and friends with ulterior motives should stay away as soon as possible.

As the saying goes, if you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black, if you are near Mexico. Environmental factors have a great influence on a person's growth. Choose those mentors, learn from each other and help each other. Better than those fair-weather friends who deliberately lied to you and hurt you?

So, what if I suddenly want AAB after dinner with my classmates? I think there are the following ways:

In short, after being beaten by my old classmates this time, I got back the money I owed for two years, although I didn't cause any losses through some means in the end. But I understand that this old classmate, I won't contact again in the future.

I hope everyone can learn a lesson from it: how long are the snacks in the process of making friends? * * * Whatever!

Last Saturday morning, I received a message from my class. Some students suggested that "June 1" should be celebrated in advance, and older children should also celebrate Children's Day! As soon as this statement came out, many people expressed their support, and everyone's mentality was quite young.

Everyone agreed on the place and time in the group, agreed on the AA system, and went to the party that night. Before going, the proposed classmate, as the organizer, said it was *** 12. But in the end it was 17 people.

Two students didn't tell them in advance, and then they took their children to get married. 14 adults, three children. A good party, the mood is ruined! And the two of them seem to have made a deal and brazenly said:

"Children's Day! The children insisted on coming, and some of them were brought together without their mothers! Everyone is one of our own, don't mind? "

If you talk to this point, plus you've already brought people here, can you still get rid of them? We didn't make a sound, but the students who organized the party finally spoke.

"It's okay, sit down together! Just add some bowls and chopsticks. The table is not big, let's squeeze together! "

After everyone was seated, we asked the waiter to order, and there was a little unpleasantness on the way! 14 each adult ordered a dish, and then thought about men and women. Women could not drink wine and beer, so they decided to open three bottles of red wine. But at this time, one of the classmates with his family, his wife was particularly disappointed, so he had to make so much noise that he couldn't drink and the children wanted to drink. Later, I couldn't help it, so I ordered them five cans of apple vinegar respectively.

The party was very enjoyable. Old classmates get together, eat and chat, and talk about the scene of "June 1" when I was a child. Many things are particularly impressive, that is, everyone has their own children in a blink of an eye, and we have to feel that time is in a hurry.

After dinner, the organizer asked the waiter to pay the bill. A * * * 3200 said that he would pay the bill first, and then everyone would AA. But at the moment, a classmate's wife said:

"All want to AA? In our woman's house, we don't eat much, as if we haven't drunk? There are children, who play around and eat less. It's unreasonable to share the meal, isn't it? "

Others turned to look at this classmate, and as a result, he also helped his wife and said, "I don't think it's appropriate either, so I'll hand it in according to AAB system." Share the cost with 12 old classmates, so that family members don't have to give money! "

I have a quick temper and come up as soon as I hear anger. Originally, we agreed to have a class reunion, but he didn't agree, so he got married and brought the children instead. It is also necessary to break the rules of dinner. The agreed AA will now become "AAB", and family members will be asked to eat and drink freely here.

I went directly to stop the organizer from paying the money, and then informed several other students: "Are you all full?" Then let's go, this meal is on the treat of two students! "

The two students asked in unison, "What do you mean? How can we treat each other? "

I don't want to waste so much time with them, pushing other students out, and then turning to the waiter, I said, "They pay for this table, you let them see who pays, or they can ask AA."

Out of the restaurant, I estimate that two students are now "pinching each other" and pushing the bill. Finally, I heard that it was AA, and it was 1600, so it was over!

Afterwards, some students asked me if I was going too far, but I thought it was right to treat such a cheeky person. Since then, my friends have been exhausted, and I will never call them at the reunion.

At the class reunion, when checking out, the monitor proposed AAB system, with men paying the bill and women free! I used a trick, and the monitor obediently paid more than 2000 yuan for the meal! The reunion was originally a very happy thing, but the last reunion made me very angry.

At first, we wanted to hold a high school reunion so that we could catch up and get in touch with each other.

It took us a lot of effort to get in touch with our classmates whom we haven't heard from for years, and invited them to come and get together one by one.

High school classmates, because they haven't seen each other for more than ten years, miss each other very much and want to get together.

To this end, I specially chose a five-star hotel as the place for our classmates to get together.

It was agreed in advance that they were all AA-based, so as not to cause any more disputes.

But what I never expected was that there was a big dispute because of the food money.

When we first met, we were all very happy and excited.

Because I haven't seen you for more than ten years, I'm married and have children, so I feel so much.

Some students shed tears at the party on the spot and told their experiences in recent years. Everyone was in tears.

Many people think that we are still the same group of high school students, with no change or gap.

Unexpectedly, when checking out, the monitor suggested that men pay the bill, and women are free!

The news shocked all the men present, because they all thought they were under AA system, and now they have to pay hundreds of dollars more.

Men are reluctant, women are particularly happy, and they all praise the squad leader for his responsibility and sense of responsibility.

Boy, all the good people were done by the monitor, and we men shared the money for this meal. Why?

So, I made a bold decision, that is, let the monitor pay the bill this time!

I encourage the students to propose a toast to the monitor one by one, expressing their gratitude to the monitor for his contribution to our class over the years.

The monitor was even more flattered, thinking that I was praising him, and he was particularly benefited.

Who knows, when all the students finished drinking and faced the monitor, I said a word that directly scared the monitor!

I said, monitor, the students all toasted you. Should I say something to express my gratitude to my classmates?

Before the monitor could react, I called the waiter and told the monitor that we were not empty either. Everyone is very happy today. I hope the monitor bought the bill!

At this time, the monitor is particularly embarrassed. He is insincere if he doesn't pay the bill. If he buys it, he will feel distressed if he spends more than two thousand yuan.

I think the monitor is hesitant and doesn't want to buy this bill. I quickly said, it won't be the monitor's daughter-in-law, and the monitor has no money to pay the bill, right?

Students are laughing, saying that the monitor is a hen-pecked wife and can't even afford to eat.

At this time, the display is flushed. He is a face-saving person. Where can he stand such ridicule?

He left more than 2000 yuan and told the waiter to keep the change!

The monitor lifted a rock and hit himself in the foot. He wanted to show his manners, but he paid for it himself!

I don't know what's wrong with the monitor. If we have another class reunion, we won't be able to contact the foreman!

Finally, I feel that the monitor's practice is very unkind. Obviously, I agreed to the AA system at the beginning, but the final checkout was divided equally among men. Everyone is not convinced.

Obviously, it is a very happy classmate party, but it is necessary to make everyone unhappy because of the checkout problem.

Everyone is not short of these hundreds, but men pay and women are free. Men always feel uncomfortable and unfair.

So, I tried to force the monitor to pay. If you want to be a good person and show your manners, I will help you to be a good person and have manners!

Do you think my approach is appropriate? Is the monitor's proposal reasonable? Should men buy this bill?

This question is very interesting. As we all know, AA system, AAB system, maybe some people still feel very vague.

In fact, the AA system is imported, that is, the food is shared equally. It was unacceptable in China before, but with the development of social life, AA system has been gradually accepted by many people.

AAB system is completely based on AA system, combined with our actual situation. In fact, it is that you share the expenses, and some people are embarrassed not to pay for dinner.

The only basis for the existence of AAB system is thick skin.

Several good colleagues in the company like to have a drink together when they have nothing to do. At first, it was the proposer's treat. After a long time, the person who always paid the bill refused, so he proposed AA system. After work, let's go out and relax. It's good to split the cost equally.

Then there was an old oil slick who liked to take advantage. He is very active at parties and dinners. Then at the end of the meal, he found an excuse to leave and asked him for money for the meal. He said shyly that he had come to eat and drink.

Of course, this kind of thing will only happen once, because no one will invite him to dinner again.

But sometimes, the face problem is a big problem, and the interest problem is a big problem. For example, the most common subordinates in the workplace go to eat AA system, and the leaders insist on participating. This will make everyone exclude the leader when checking out. Everyone can be an A, but let the leader have a free meal and be a B in AAB.

Sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. Who made him the leader?

Of course, let's put aside the leadership or interest relationship mentioned above. If everyone is the same, someone puts forward AAB system at checkout. Everybody A and B, it's a joke to exclude him. If it is true, then this person should not be intimate and leave early, because he is afraid of taking advantage and being thick-skinned.

Finally, let's go back to this question:

After having dinner with classmates, someone proposed AAB system. What should you do?

You can ask directly, who is B in AAB system?

If this person has a good relationship with you, you might as well call him. If the relationship is not good, you can stick to the checkout method agreed in the previous dinner.

This man is really thick-skinned, and he can propose AAB system. The AAB system means that you pay the bill equally, and I eat for nothing! Such people are really rare, as long as they have a little face, they won't speak. Don't be polite to such people, just go back! If he is shameless, don't leave him face, just ask him who he is. If he is the second uncle of the emperor, he can eat for free. If he is impolite, let him pay his share and let him go! Don't want to see you next time. Yes, I have never met such a person. However, although the people I associate with dare not mention AAB system, they dare not mention AA system for fear of paying their own money, as long as you propose our AA system in the future. From then on, I didn't even come to the party! Free food, as long as you pay for it yourself, don't attend parties between friends under various excuses. Generally speaking, don't leave any face for such people. If you leave him face, he will be embarrassed, so you can't spoil him, just fight back.

Check-out AA system is common now, but AAB system is rarely heard of. How significant and meaningful is this kind of dinner? This needs to be considered. Because I was having dinner with my classmates, I only proposed AAB system when I checked out. What shall we do? First of all, find out who B (who can't get their share). ) Then, since I didn't agree at the beginning, I suddenly turned my face and disagreed, which was not very atmospheric. Forget it, just admit it this time. Be a good girl when it snowed last time, and consider whether it is necessary to attend such a party and dinner when we meet again next time.

What is meaningless social interaction? Generally speaking, there is no friendship. Some social activities that are purely beer and skittles are a kind of consumption for people, whether it is time or emotion. High-quality solitude, constantly enriching and improving yourself, is much more meaningful than taking part in these social activities that waste time and energy.

Conclusion:

Students and friends have dinner, and those who have money take the initiative to treat them. The general AA system is normal and the atmosphere is good. It doesn't matter what AAB system is occasionally, but it's not good to appear again and again. After dinner, people will confidently pay for themselves when they mention AA.

But, I mean, but, although I can pay for it myself, it doesn't mean I approve of it. What distastes me is neither the AA system nor the AAB system. It is natural, reasonable and legal to eat and pay for yourself. But it's a bit boring for the students to talk after dinner.

The subject didn't say what game the students were eating. Whether it's a pure party or a game where someone needs the help of his classmates because of something, or someone meets each other or comes from afar to see someone taking care of his classmates near the same city, it's different.

For example, a pure classmate party, regardless of its scope and simple purpose, must be AA. And it is best for someone to organize and arrange, and someone is responsible for the collection and expenditure of fees. It is best to arrange instructions in advance, such as cost, such as location, such as process.

If it's someone's private affair, and most of the students are from the company, isn't it good to have such a party again? The important thing is to talk after dinner! Maybe not, but in any case, you can't let your classmates share it for you!

Besides, if it's a special meeting or visit, we can't take care of ourselves, and everyone pays. To put it bluntly, others will entertain your friends for you!

In any case, the AA system or AAB system is best said before meals, and it is best to make it clear when you save it. Money is a trivial matter, and rules are very important!

In fact, class reunion is meaningless. To put it bluntly, it is bragging and forcing the conference. What feelings, what nostalgia, are just showing their abilities. The good ones are arrogant, and the bad ones are just hiding in the corner, nobody cares. Everyone says this reunion is meaningless. There are several people who can really help students. Everyone gets together to brag and show off, so a few people who have a good time can get together often.

We are classmates who haven't seen each other for 26 years. We went our separate ways, and we didn't contact each other at ordinary times. Only a few people who are very close have kept in touch. Some people have brotherly feelings. Everyone walks around each other on holidays and meets once a year. This is the real classmate emotion. No one else has met before, and suddenly I don't know each other on the way.

At the beginning, the AA system was agreed, regardless of gender, everyone kept the appointment and attended on time, and two teachers were specially invited to participate. It's really pleasant. Everyone got together and talked and laughed. It is not easy for everyone to understand through communication. Some of them did well, and the wind gave birth to Yun Qi. They also donated basketball stands to the school. Some are poor and white, living in two places, and the gap is too big. Some people keep silent, others speak.

The next year, no one wanted to go to the party. Many people say it's meaningless, so do it. It doesn't really make sense. No one will help you when you are poor, and you will not take the initiative to help others when you are rich. It's okay for everyone to get together and brag. It's really hard to put it into action. This is my classmate.

I am the host of the reunion, responsible for coordination. I have always been very low-key and have a good way of dealing with people. I like to be with depressed classmates, but I don't like rich classmates. First of all, I won't butter them up. Everyone respects me very much. After all, I also have a serious job, with an annual salary of more than 100 thousand. I'm somebody anyway. Moreover, I also like to show my face in public, and my personality is a bit flamboyant, so everyone respects me in particular.

The reunion ends at 9 o'clock. A female classmate suggested going to KTV, but I refused directly. I can't say that everyone has gone home to sleep. I still remember how many people divorced at the class reunion, which was a hotbed of divorce. Nobody said anything, but listened to my brother and went home to sleep. I am the youngest of my classmates, and my words carry a lot of weight. Most people like to listen. After all, we just ...

What's the point of reunion? Most of them ended in discord. It's all about money. Many people talk with deep pockets and are arrogant. When they really take the money, they pretend to be dead. As soon as they talked, the business was millions, tens of millions, and the party was thousands of dollars. So too many students are completely sincere. Many people are looking for a one-night stand. As I once said, female students don't participate. I'll see if they can.

We don't have any system, so we have to take money when we come. No matter who it is, you have to take it in the end, and you have to take it if you don't eat it. As long as you participate, you have to take money. Of course, except the teacher, no one else can be less. This is the fairest. what do you think?