Interpersonal problems are one of the problems most frequently reported and troubled by middle school students. So the problem of building harmonious interpersonal relationships among middle school students is very difficult. Below are the methods for middle school students to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships and the problems of middle school students’ interpersonal relationships that I have collected for you. Welcome to read!
Methods for middle school students to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships
First of all, we need to be sincere. Sincerity is the bridge of communication between people. A sincere person will gain friendship, trust and care, so we must treat people with sincerity. Smile is the best way to express sincerity. It can shorten the psychological distance between people and create a warm and harmonious atmosphere for in-depth communication and interaction.
Secondly, you must be good at listening. If you want to be a person who is good at communicating, then be a person who is good at listening first. In interpersonal communication, only those who listen carefully to others will leave a good impression in the minds of others. Just imagine how you would feel when you need to express but others do not listen to you? I think you will definitely feel that you Be left out and ignored. When "a hundred schools of thought" appear in your thoughts, please be patient, suppress your inner restlessness, and listen quietly. This is a kind of cultivation, and it is also an attitude of respecting people.
Third, we must learn to think from others’ perspective and pay attention to the way of communication. This is long live understanding! For example: when some students face the teacher’s criticism and education, they always think that the teacher is deliberately making things difficult for them, so it is easy for them to Verbal conflict occurs. In fact, as long as we think about it from my perspective, the teacher's criticism and education of me fully shows that the teacher cares about me and is helping me correct my shortcomings or deficiencies. As the saying goes: "Good medicine is bitter in the mouth and good for the disease; good advice is hard on the ears and good for the action." If you have figured out these truths, you will I will regret your irrational behavior. Empathy allows us to put ourselves in the other person's shoes, see the problem from the other person's point of view, and then understand the other person's original intention and reduce or avoid misunderstandings. At the same time, we can also express some of our thoughts, confusions, and worries orally or through letters, and communicate with classmates, friends, teachers, and parents to win understanding and support. This is conducive to resolving conflicts and establishing a good relationship. interpersonal relationships.
Fourth, we must learn to praise, which is actually the most important point in bringing people closer to each other. In order to avoid dislike others, the most effective way is to discover the other person's strengths. Therefore, no matter who we are dealing with, we should communicate with an appreciative attitude, so that harmonious notes will be produced.
Skills for middle school students to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships
1. Communicate enthusiastically. Interpersonal relationships are interactive. Don't always passively wait for others to take the initiative to care about you, but take the initiative to interact and communicate with the students around you. Being open to yourself is contagious. If you open up to others, others will open up to you. When the other person steps out of the dead circle of being stuck in a rut and is self-enclosed, you will not only have a deeper understanding of the other person, but more importantly, you will also have a new understanding and experience of yourself.
2. Understand and respect. Everyone has their own temperament and personality characteristics, different growth backgrounds and living habits. Therefore, in the process of interacting with classmates, if we can understand and respect each other, the relationship between everyone will be harmonious and unnecessary friction will be reduced.
3. Treat each other with sincerity. The most important thing in people's interactions is sincerity and goodwill. This is also the fundamental principle of being a human being. It is difficult for people who are duplicitous, hypocritical and arrogant to have friends.
4. Be tolerant and understanding. As the saying goes: "No one is perfect, and no one is barefoot." The students around us, including ourselves, are still in the stage of growth. There are often many mistakes in dealing with problems, and students also have different opinions on many issues. This requires us to put ourselves in each other's shoes, consider issues from the other party's perspective, and understand each other so as not to lead to hostility.
5. Eliminate dependence. There is also an unhealthy mentality in interpersonal communication, that is, people who have a strong sense of dependence always hope that others will care about them like their parents and brothers and sisters, and they want others to make decisions for them in everything. This is a manifestation of a lack of independent awareness.
An excessive sense of dependence can also develop into a desire for control. They force others to study with them, review their homework together, inform themselves of action plans, and even restrict others' interactions with other classmates. This is a personality flaw that should be corrected promptly.
Problems with interpersonal relationships among middle school students
1. Problems with relationships with classmates. It mainly focuses on making friends, and is troubled by the inability to handle the relationship between good friends. One student said that a good friend of his always distrusted him, doubted his friendship with his friend, and thought that he did not pay enough for his friend. This made him very distressed and did not know what to do to eliminate his friend's suspicion. There was also a girl who had a conflict between two good friends. She was caught in the middle. She was afraid that B would be unhappy when she was dating A, and she was afraid that A wouldn't understand her when she was dating B. In the end, the two friends simply stopped dating, but in her heart I am also very lonely and lonely. I want to restore my relationship with my friends but don’t know how to do it. In addition, there are some students who have fewer and fewer friends from junior high school to high school, and they suspect that there is no real friendship in the world and they cannot make real friends, so they want to die and live in seclusion.
2. Relationship issues with teachers. Mainly due to teachers' incomprehension of students. The confusion and annoyance caused by excessive interference in students’ spare time life and normal interactions. A middle school student said that once he asked a girl in his class about his homework, and was harshly criticized by the teacher after seeing it. He grabbed the matter as a pigtail in his hand, and often pulled it out to "show off". "Do you think I don't know you..." seriously hurt his self-esteem, causing him to be disgusted and antagonized towards the teacher. The teacher pointed him to the east and turned to the west, but he was very conflicted in his heart, which even affected his interest in studies. . Some student cadres said that it is really difficult to be a class cadre now. You are criticized by both sides and do not care about things. The teacher criticizes you for being irresponsible. If you want to take care of things, you will inevitably have disputes with some classmates. If there is a quarrel, the teacher will first criticize the class cadres. Therefore, I feel very aggrieved. I was angry with the teacher but didn't dare to contradict him; I wanted to quit but was afraid of losing the teacher's trust. I was in a dilemma and I didn't know what to do. In addition, there are some other thoughts, such as: those who think that teachers "dislike the poor and love the rich", those who think that teachers "do things unfairly", those who think that teachers "despise themselves"... and so on. All reflect problems in the teacher-student relationship in the school.
3. Problems in the relationship with parents. Mainly due to the lack of mutual understanding and communication between parents and children, or the psychological harm caused to students by discordant family relationships.
Among these three aspects, the first two aspects are crucial for our middle and high school students, because our middle and high school students spend most of their time in school. The relationship between these two aspects is particularly important for middle school students. It is not only related to students' study and life, but more importantly, harmonious interpersonal relationships can promote physical and mental development, and enable happy learning and happy life.