How should we assess the situation and look at a person objectively? By academic qualifications? Depends on ambition? Looking at the direction of development? In fact, it shouldn’t be that complicated, it’s just that we have complicated the relationships between people. The intrigues and intrigues in society should not be an obstacle to making friends. Move everyone with your heart and sincerity, even our enemies. Tolerance and concession should be our tools for making friends, using it to harmonize the relationship between people. Educational qualifications only represent learning experience. Ambition is always tied to current circumstances. The direction of development is nothing more than the opportunities given to us by God.

Kindness, benevolence, and hard work are the standards for making friends. On the contrary, for those who do not meet these conditions, even if they have high education, great ambitions, and superior development space, we should not tolerate them because these people are not worthy of the title of "friends."

There are no exceptions to the friendships in the world:

Those who make friends with benefits will be scattered when the benefits are exhausted;

Those who make friends with them will be separated by their beauty. ;

If you make friends with wine, you will be embarrassed if you are drunk;

Only those who make friends with your heart can last forever!

Experiences of making friends in college from "New Life Guide"

In college, friends are a very important word. During these four years, you may meet friends who pretend to be friends, friends who deceive you, or true confidants or even partners. For the first time, I left the environment where I grew up and entered the campus to start collective life. How to live harmoniously with classmates, friends and colleagues in the community has become part of the learning content for college students. In fact, college is the last opportunity for everyone to learn, cultivate, and train how to get along with others in a relatively relaxed environment. In the future, people's ability to get along with others in society and at work will become more and more important, even more than the work itself. So, interpersonal communication is a very important part.

“I don’t have strong interpersonal skills, my social circle is not wide enough, but I don’t have any special skills that can attract everyone’s attention, and I don’t know how to effectively establish relationships with other people in the club.” If you have this If you are confused, you might as well try this:

First, treat others with sincerity, blame yourself with a sense of responsibility for others, and forgive others with a sense of forgiveness for yourself. We must be sincere and tolerant towards others, and be self-critical towards ourselves and must correct our mistakes. When interacting with others, how you treat others will be how others treat you. It's like looking in a mirror. Your own expressions and attitudes can be clearly seen in the expressions and attitudes of others towards you. If you treat others with sincerity, others will treat you with sincerity. If you are hostile to others, others will be hostile to you. The most sincere friendship and the most incomprehensible hatred are gradually caused by this "reflection" principle. Therefore, when you want to correct others, you should first correct yourself. You should treat others how you want others to treat you. If you want others to understand you, you must first understand others.

Second, cultivate true friendship. If you can do the first thing, many of your college friends will become your lifelong confidants. On the road of studying and pursuing one's own development together, this kind of friendship is extremely precious. When making friends, don't just look for people who have a similar temperament to you or who will only agree with you. There are many kinds of good friends: optimistic friends, wise friends, down-to-earth friends, humorous friends, friends who inspire you, friends who improve your abilities, friends who help you understand yourself, friends who tell you the truth, etc. . In addition, falling in love in college can also teach you how to take care of others and improve your empathy and self-control. However, when it comes to falling in love, you don't have to fall in love for the sake of falling in love.

Third, learn team spirit and communication skills. The community is a microscopic society, and participating in the community is the best training before entering the society. In the club, you can develop your teamwork and leadership skills, and you can also develop your professional expertise. But more importantly, you should be a sincere service provider and volunteer, or take the initiative to play the role of a communication bridge between classmates and teachers when working as a student, and use this to exercise your communication skills and serve your classmates and teachers. Serve.

As the saying goes: "To appreciate flowers, you need to make rich friends, to climb mountains, you need to make easy friends, to go boating, you need to make open friends, to look at the moon, you have to make cold friends, and to catch wine, you have to make charming friends." According to the needs of different emotional levels, making friends at different levels will always have some benefits in broadening life, adding interest, and understanding society. And if you understand the principle of "to treat knowledgeable friends, it is like reading different books; to elegant friends, it is like reading famous poems; to respectful friends, it is like reading the scriptures of sages; to funny friends, it is like reading legendary novels", then you can make friends with them. Find a small number of friends who have a certain quality and have similar temperaments.

Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "people are divided and things are gathered together." But making friends should not be based on wealth or poverty. The most important thing in making friends is heart-to-heart and character. Don't make friends with fair-weather friends, don't make friends with snobs, don't make friends with people who work hard and disobey others, don't make friends with people who are unkind to get rich, don't make friends with people who rely on power, bully old people, don't make friends with duplicitous people, don't make friends with those who are dishonest and without virtue, and don't make friends with those who rely on force to bully the weak. If you make good friends, you can get support in your career and get comfort mentally. Failure to make good friends will often lead to idleness and even lead to countless and unexpected regrets. You should be chivalrous when making friends, and always keep your sincerity in your life, so that you can enjoy a life nourished by friendship. Not long ago, my son Sun Zilong received the admission notice from Jiangsu University. We were just happy for him when our eldest son called me from his hometown in Wuhu and told me: My great-nephew Qin Fei was admitted as a national defense student at Northwestern Polytechnical University. My daughter also called: I have a colleague’s daughter who passed the exam at Zhejiang University, and a colleague’s child passed the exam at Shanghai Lixin University of Finance and Economics, as well as a neighbor’s child and a relative’s child. All told, there are seven or eight wedding parties this year! The eldest son and daughter wrapped gifts for us respectively. But their parents still invited us home to attend their wedding banquet. I thought: We should go back and congratulate the parents and congratulate the children!

Experiences in making friends

The universe has the ability to accommodate everything, and we are part of it. Life is short and ordinary. Why not use your limited life to experience the extraordinary? What about your experience? Although we are all over the world, friendship can transcend the limitations of time and space. No matter where you are, there will be someone from afar who cares about you and wishes you well. He will encourage you when you are frustrated, comfort you when you are sad, and accompany you when you are lonely-----

I have some wonderful experiences in making friends, and I hope to share them with you.

After I entered high school, my home was far away from school, so I had to go home for a long time. School was about to start and I was in the car, bored with no one to accompany me. There was a man older than me sitting next to me, and we didn’t speak for a long time after getting in the car. Half an hour later, he took out his camera to take pictures of people working outside the window. I asked curiously, "Are you a reporter?" Because he was holding a large zoom camera, so I asked. He said no! So we started chatting. It turns out that he is from Hangzhou, and he went to Northeast China with some close friends during the holidays and hiked along the boundary river. But due to something unexpected, I had to come back early. He told me about his experiences, and I also told him a lot about the beautiful scenery of my hometown. We became friends. He has been working for many years and has told me a lot of his experiences. From him, I have learned many ways to deal with people and become more curious about life. My feeling is that he is a very optimistic person about life and a very sincere person towards his friends. After arriving at the station, we separated. A few days later we passed. Until now, we are still communicating online, talking about the weather in Northeast China, attitudes and feelings about life, supporting and encouraging each other ------

Maybe you won't believe it, but it is indeed true ,

In fact, it is easy to make friends, but it is indeed very difficult to maintain friendship. Sincerity is the first step. I don’t know what your experience in making friends is, I look forward to you telling me! ! !

I would like to appeal here. Treating each other sincerely is the secret to the evergreen tree of friendship.