From parents' messages, we can see not only sadness, but also helplessness. Looking at the full text, we can see the following problems:

1, the influence of parents is lower than the attraction of classmates;

2. Parents compromise on major issues;

3. Parents didn't do well in making friends with their children;

4, found that children have bad behavior, parents have no effective way to stop.

Mom has changed from a controlling parent to a doting parent, and dad's mistakes will be lovable.

All the problems boil down to two points:

2. Parents' methods of educating their children are incorrect: parents' education for their children is inconsistent; When children have problems in the process of growing up, parents want to seek peace and bypass the problems more than face the problems and want to solve them; When children have problems, parents do not want to cooperate with school teachers in order to create an environment suitable for their children's growth. Suggestion:

1, parents gave up the idea of quick success and instant benefit, Rome was not built in a day. 10 years of wrong education can not be fundamentally solved or improved in a few days;

2. The speed of children's progress and change depends on their parents' learning ability and changing ability.