From a girl's perspective, I feel disgusted when I see some boys who want to chase the girl they like but are afraid to chase her and want others to chase her instead. Most girls will not take the initiative to pursue the boy they like, unless they really like him too much or are brave girls with more personality. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is also interested in you, then take the initiative and don't get into a tug-of-war with her. If you feel uncomfortable, the person you like may suffer too.

Whenever a girl is chased by someone, her psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is also a little scared. She has an ambivalent attitude toward this boy who breaks into her peaceful life. She does not mean to refuse him but welcome him. Don't think that she is testing you, she is actually fighting with herself, and she is afraid of being hurt. Don't be afraid that your initiative will offend her. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative either, and it will gradually fade away. If your initial confession is rejected by her, that's normal. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking? Maybe if you confess your love twice more, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved. If you suffer a setback, leave immediately, never talk to the girl again, protect yourself tightly, and lick your wounds silently. While you are in pain, you don’t know that the girl may also be feeling regretful and regretful in her heart. Woolen cloth! Maybe she will cry secretly and regret rejecting you. She will also be very sad when she sees your indifferent eyes, but she will not tell you and will definitely not ask you to come back and chase her.

Your excessive self-esteem may hurt girls’ sensitive hearts. Will she think that you don't really like him, so will you just give up on her? Some people say that it is so difficult for boys to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role positioning of men and women. From a physiological and social perspective, women are always passive.

If it were the other way around, so that men would be shy and women would move forward courageously, the world would be in chaos! A woman's shyness is always touching~ I've always heard that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are very few examples to the contrary.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are stalkers and get a bad reputation. But I think that when a boy pursues a girl he likes and continues to be nice to the girl after some setbacks, it means that he really likes her and is sincere. If he doesn't succeed, he doesn't regret it. It's nothing, right? Who made people like it? I hate other people messing around the most, and I also hate boys who have no ideas and care too much about what others think of them. Such boys deserve to be unable to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are inherently emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you have worked hard, once your sincerity touches her, what you will get is more and longer love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are very gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. In exchange for this sweetness, what is the hard work in the beginning? And most good girls love them very devotedly and single-mindedly. Therefore, I suggest that some boys be brave and pursue the girl they like without being so timid. Firstly, it will make others think you are unmanly. Secondly, it will make you feel uncomfortable. However, the most important thing is : In the end you get nothing. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!

1. What kind of first impression should be left on girls (Time: just started to meet girls)

1. I think the most important thing is to let girls see you ambition. The greatest charm of a man is that he has a successful career. Young people don't have enough time to be "successful". At this time, you have to make girls think that you are a motivated person. You can talk nonsense about other things, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell the girl that you are full of confidence in the future and that you are not satisfied with the status quo. "Chou B, you already have a long-term plan. In short, your future is not a dream.

2. You need to appear confident and responsible. Don’t act like a child. Girls are lazy and hope they can find someone to rely on. You have to show your confidence and responsibility.

It is better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

3. Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual. You should be serious where you should be serious, and you should make fun of you when you should make fun of it. Girls all like men who are a little cynical, so don't appear to care about everything, as that would be too dull.

4. Men who appear more mature, calm and unhurried in situations are fatally attractive to girls.

Let others know at a glance that you are chasing them. Think about it, most people will not fall in love with you at first glance, but they will also not hate you at first glance. They are all ordinary people's children (unless you look like Chow Yun-fat, Andy Lau or Kevin Costner). Favorability needs to be easy. It is achieved through the continuous increase of understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want. Think about it from a girl's perspective: If you rush over to find someone so directly, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find out that I don't like you after being in contact for a while, wouldn't it be like playing tricks on you? So if you come out with a determined attitude from the beginning, you will basically be put back immediately.

2. To start with a low profile, you must first position the relationship as a "friend". It is originally an "ordinary friend". You hope to become a "good friend". If you have good taste, you can also ask the other party to become a "confidante". Anyway, don’t say “I’m chasing you”. Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then the girl will have less chance to "reject" you - how can she reject you if you don't pursue her? This can reduce the psychological pressure on girls and enable you to have a smooth relationship. Don't imagine that you will agree to marry you after only three days of knowing each other. You need to fully communicate and understand each other. Feelings do not arise out of thin air.

3. Don’t be too impatient in the process of dating, be relaxed, and don’t pester others all day long. You will get tired of anyone who treats you like this. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing a girl is eight words - "hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the culmination of many years of hard work by my classmate). Naturally, if you follow her all the time, she won't feel good about you. If you cool off for a day or two, the girl will remember the benefits of your presence. Don't have the ambition of "I won't marry you unless you". It's too fake. Sometimes you can use some tricks.

4. Create opportunities appropriately

As mentioned before, don’t make things immediately turn into “you are chasing someone else”, and you need to get the opportunity to get close to girls. It all depends on your creativity. You can collect intelligence and find ways to turn waiting around into an encounter; you can also pretend to be casual and find the most sufficient reasons to invite the other person to do something with you. In short, this is the most technical place. If it doesn't work, you can ask your seniors for advice.

5. Don’t do it: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually. Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things and give them to others. However, they don’t know that this is the most taboo thing for chasing girls. As the saying goes, "No reward for no reward." If you give things to others like this, you are putting pressure on them. They will feel that they owe you, so girls will find ways to return the favor to you. If they can't return the favor to you, they will find ways not to date you. , so as not to always owe you favors. If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well ask a girl to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spend a lot of money, but after all, money is Two people spent it together instead of turning it into something to take home.

3. What exactly is a "girlfriend"?

1. "Girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise. When you start dating a girl, you will change from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good, nothing." "Friends who don't talk to each other", you "accidentally" held her hand on a sunny afternoon; "Moon above the willow branches", you suddenly attacked and kissed her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks that you are her boyfriend.

I know that the smartest person never asked "Will you be my girlfriend" until we went to bed? In the end, the girl said, "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend?" So, don't be in a hurry. Pierce the window paper, the murky the situation the better for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As mentioned before, confession is actually just a formality. The correct sequence should be: Only when she has actually become your girlfriend can you confess your love to someone, and it will be a matter of course. Many people don't understand this issue and always think that someone agrees to be their girlfriend first and then does whatever they want. I can only say that it is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

3. Is there ever a time when you “have no choice but to express your feelings”? Yes, for example, a third party appears, or the relationship between you and the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time. The confession at this time is an immature confession, and the risk is very high. It is similar to the serious situation when playing Go. The lagging side is forced to release the "winner's hand". If it wins, it wins, and if it loses, it can only say " All bad luck is natural."

4. Don’t say the word "love" easily

I often see "bold confessions" appearing on forums. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment, and even a kind of responsibility. Men who say "love" casually are irresponsible.

4. Civilized love cannot be forced

1. Not every girl can be pursued

There will always be many people chasing good girls, no Maybe everyone's wish comes true, but there will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the most advanced principles of chasing girls, you still can't catch her. Thinking about the problem from another angle, no matter how nice a rural nanny who has not graduated from elementary school is to you, earns 600 a month, buys you 700 gifts (overdraft), and is willing to "play a role" for you, you will not love her. Fuck her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you will definitely feel annoyed. So love needs a material foundation, or at least balance.

2. Chasing girls is a serious social activity

Don’t annoy others and leave a way out for yourself. Why should a man worry about not having a wife? Some girls are indeed snobbish (a minority). If you are not convinced, you can work hard and use facts to prove that "she was blind at the time." Never mislead others or yourself.

Finally, don’t appear cynical in front of girls. As everyone knows, cynicism sometimes means "you are a failure."