There are no strangers in the world, only friends you haven’t met yet. ---Whiteman

Everyone has a fear of strangers. Only by knowing how to get to know people without restraint can we expand our circle of friends and enrich our lives. In fact, people you have never met before can often help you understand yourself. Because ordinary people may not say what they want to say most to acquaintances, but they often say things they have never said to strangers, using strangers as a mirror to re-understand themselves. And none of your friends in life come from strangers. When you are dealing with someone for the first time, you always feel like you have nothing to say. In fact, sometimes you don’t have to deliberately find a topic. A "casual" sentence may be the best opening line. For example, on a certain occasion, it would be a good idea to whisper something to the people around you in a voice that the other person can hear, to attract the attention or scream of the people around you. Because your candid words will also allow the other person to confide in you freely. Trying to talk about the situation or directly using the other person as the topic can break the awkwardness of meeting a stranger for the first time.

Xiaolan, who is shy by nature, participated in a forum gathering. Because it was her first time to participate in such an event, Xiaolan had never dared to take the initiative to say hello to others, especially when they were all strangers. Next, she became even more nervous. In order to relieve the tension, Xiaolan decided to get a drink. "That drink contains alcohol, you may not be able to drink it." Xiaolan heard someone say to her as soon as she picked up a drink. She turned around and saw a girl smiling at her with a glass of juice. "Drink this. It's good for girls to drink more juice. It's good for the skin." "Thank you... thank you... you know it very well." "Fortunately, I often participate in such activities." In this way, Xiaolan and The girl named Xiaowei started chatting and became good friends. After this incident, Xiaolan's interactions with people also improved, because she knew that the best way to break down barriers with strangers was to take the initiative to break the deadlock.

Someone once said that talking about the weather is the best way, but in fact it is the least practical way. One person said: "The weather is nice today." Another person replied: "Yes, it is nice." The topic could not continue. The best way is to ask questions, such as asking questions with words such as "how", "how", and "why". It is far more suitable to start the topic with questions such as "How are you doing with your health or work recently" than with "the weather". However, you should also be careful to avoid some disappointing questions, such as saying to a stranger: "You bought your skirt in a certain mall, I heard it was on sale there." If you say this, it is likely to hurt the other person's self-esteem. Make your interpersonal interactions more difficult. It should also be noted that when communicating with strangers for the first time, be sure to avoid talking about trivial topics about life and family, as well as topics related to yourself. Although these topics can become your conversation topics, they cannot arouse the other party’s interest. A good communication with a stranger will not only have an impact on you, but may also turn the stranger into a friend because of congeniality.

Dating advice: "Activity" is the best and most direct way to break the deadlock when meeting strangers for the first time; "Unintentional" is a skillful way of communication when meeting strangers for the first time;" Asking questions can be regarded as the easiest way to break the ice during the first meeting.