How to get rid of barriers in interpersonal communication

Personal cultivation and the people with whom you usually interact are important factors in the formation and development of stubbornness. How to get rid of the barriers in interpersonal communication? Let me teach you on the psychological network below!

1. Understand people and human nature

The first step to improve interpersonal communication and master successful interpersonal skills The first step is: correctly understanding people and human nature.

Understanding people and human nature can be simply summarized as - "Identify people according to their essence", "Identify people in their shoes", rather than looking at others with your own eyes, let alone imposing your own will to others. People are first interested in themselves, not in you! In other words - a person pays attention to himself ten thousand times more than he pays attention to you. Realizing that people care about themselves first, not you, is the key to life.

2. How to talk to others skillfully

When you talk to people, please choose the topic that interests them the most. What topic are they most interested in? It’s themselves! Eliminate these words from your vocabulary – “me, myself, mine”. Replace it with another word, one of the most powerful words in human language - "you". It doesn’t matter whether you are interested in the conversation, what matters is whether your audience is interested in the conversation. When you talk to people, talk about them, and get them talking about themselves. This way you can become a most popular conversation partner.

3. How to agree with others skillfully

Never forget that any fool can oppose others, but only wise and great people can agree - especially when the other person makes a mistake! "Agree" "Art" can be summarized as the following 6 points:

1. Learn to agree and recognize

2. When you agree with others, please say it

3. When Never tell them when you disagree, unless absolutely necessary

4. Be brave enough to admit when you make a mistake

5. Avoid arguing with others

6. Handle conflicts correctly

4. How to praise others skillfully

Be generous and praise others! First find some people and things worthy of praise, and then praise them.

1. Be sincere

2. Praise the behavior itself, not the person

Praise must be specific--targeted. The Happiness Equation – Make it a habit to praise three different people every day. You will feel how happy you are after doing this! When you see that doing this brings happiness, joy and gratitude to others, you will also feel happy because of it.

5. How to skillfully make others feel important

One of the most common characteristics of human beings is the desire to be recognized and understood. Are you willing to be like a fish in water in interpersonal relationships? Then, please try your best to make others aware of their own importance. Remember, the more important you make others feel, the more they will respond to you in return.

1. Listen to them

2. Praise and compliment them

3. Use their name and photo as often as possible

4. Pause before answering them

5. Use these words – “you” and “your”

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7. Pay attention to everyone in the group

6. How to skillfully mobilize the emotions of others

1. Remember, the first moment of any relationship Often determines the tone of the entire interaction.

2. Next, use the second basic law of human behavior-people always react strongly to others in a group manner

Therefore, at the very beginning, your eyes are in contact with each other. For a moment, before you speak, before you break the silence, please show your friendly smile. People never realize how much they give, how much they get in return.

Don't forget, from now on, please show your smile, just like a professional actor model, and say to yourself-"Smile!"

7. How to listen to others skillfully

The more you listen, the smarter you will become, the more people you will like, and the better conversational partner you will be. Of course, becoming a good listener is not an easy task. Here are 5 suggestions for your reference:

1. Watch the speaker

2. Stay close to the speaker , listen attentively

3. Ask questions

4. Do not interrupt the speaker's topic

5. Use the speaker's personal pronouns - "you" and "Your"

8. How to influence others subtly

The first step in getting people to do things according to your wishes is to find out what motivates them to do so (i.e. what they want). Tell others what they want to hear and they will be moved. You simply explain to them that they can get what they want by doing what you ask them to do. The way to "understand what people think" is to ask more, observe more, listen more, and make unremitting efforts on your own.

9. How to persuade others skillfully

When you say something that is beneficial to yourself, people will usually doubt you and what you say. This is part of human nature. kind of performance. Even better: Don't elaborate directly, but quote others and let others do the talking for you, even if they weren't there. Therefore, it is necessary to speak through the mouth of a third person.

10. How to skillfully make others make decisions

1. Tell people why they should agree with you. Tell people that if they do what you say they will benefit, not you.

2. Ask questions that can only be answered with "right". However, care should be taken to ask these “right” questions appropriately. That said, when you ask this type of question, nod your head and start your question with "you."

3. Let people choose one of two "good". This trick is to ask them to choose one of your two "can's."

4. Expect people to say "yes" to you, and let them know that you expect them to answer in the affirmative

11. How to thank others skillfully

It is not enough to just be grateful and appreciate others in your own heart. You should express your gratitude and appreciation to those who deserve your gratitude.

1. Be sincere in attitude

2. Express clearly and naturally

3. Look at the person you are grateful for

4. Say the other person's name when thanking

5. Thank you as much as possible

12. How to criticize others skillfully

1. Criticism must be made when you are alone

2. You must give a slight praise or compliment before criticizing

3. When criticizing, do not target people. Criticize a certain behavior rather than criticizing a specific person

4. Provide answers

5. Ask for cooperation, not orders

6. Once a mistake comes once a criticism

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Thirteen. How to speak tactfully

1. Understand what you are saying

2. Stop after saying what needs to be said

　4. Talk about some topics that the audience is interested in

　5. Don’t try to give a speech

14. How Leave a good impression on others skillfully

If you want to be beautiful, you must first become beautiful yourself. If you want others to appreciate you, admire you, and respect you, you must make people feel that you are worthy of this honor. Be proud of yourself (but don't be conceited!) Be proud of yourself, your career, and your working environment; don't feel inferior to your current situation and shortcomings. You are who you are - respect yourself and be proud of yourself.

1. Be sincere

2. Be enthusiastic

3. Don’t be too impatient

4. Don’t elevate yourself by belittling others< /p>

5. Don’t attack anyone or anything

In real life, each of us may encounter troubles of one kind or another in our interactions with others. However, the reasons why everyone suffers are different. Correctly finding out where your troubles come from will help you prescribe the right medicine to solve your own problems.

In the process of interacting with others, a person’s ability is different, but this does not mean that people with high overall ability in interaction have no shortcomings in details; People with low abilities are lackluster in every aspect. From a social psychological perspective, troubles in interacting with people can be subdivided into troubles in speech, making friends, troubles in dealing with others, and troubles in interacting with the opposite sex. It should be admitted that these four aspects are independent of each other. Although some people are not good at words, they have many friends; some people are eloquent and well-rounded, but do not pay attention to details and have no real friends; some people are lively and active among same-sex friends. Humorous, but dull and shy when interacting with friends of the opposite sex; some people have many friends, but their cultivation in dealing with others is average. Therefore, if you want to comprehensively overcome the difficulties in getting along with others, you need to carry out targeted training and cultivation on the premise of knowing yourself.

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