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On weekends, I took my four-year-old son to the park to play with sand.
There are many children playing with sand, but my son always likes to play with an eight-year-old child. Give your toys to each other, listen to each other's instructions to carry sand, and have fun.
Several children as old as his son wanted to play with him, but he didn't want to.
On the way home, I asked my son why he didn't like playing with children of his own age and why he had to chase his big brother.
My son said with admiration, because my eldest brother is very powerful, he can make many shapes out of sand that I have never seen before, and he can also build castles, which I think is very interesting.
I don't want to play with those children who know nothing.
I can't help laughing at my son's remarks like an adult.
It seems to be human instinct to want to have sex with someone better than yourself, even a four-year-old child.
With excellent people, your vision will be broadened and your thinking will become active, because excellent people can let you see the world you didn't know before.
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No one is born excellent. People with similar starting points will show different States after time polishing. Those peers who are better than you must have their own advantages.
Being with excellent people can not only refresh your cognition and broaden your horizons, but also let you see your own defects and deficiencies sometimes.
I study in a very ordinary university. I thought that people who went to this university like me were people who didn't study hard enough.
But after I went to college, I found that this was not the case, because my roommate He Chan refreshed my understanding.
He Chan comes from Shandong, a populous province. She told us that she could have gone to a better university, but she didn't do well in the college entrance examination and didn't want to repeat it, so she finally chose this school.
When we first heard this argument, we all scoffed and thought: Maybe all unsuccessful people will eventually come down to mistakes or setbacks!
But then He Chan's performance really surprised us.
She has to stand for half an hour after every meal before sitting down, in order to prevent her stomach from getting fat.
She insists on taking a bath every other day, rain or wind. At that time, there was no shower room in the dormitory, so I had to take a shower outside. She persisted for four years.
Be strict with yourself in life and be super self-disciplined in study.
No matter on weekends or working days, she will pack her bags before 7 o'clock, and then go to study English.
She is studying while others are sleeping, and she is still studying when others are shopping. She carefully made plans and strictly managed her time. Most of her time is spent in the library and study room.
At first we all thought she did it, but later we changed from respect to admiration.
In the four years of college, she won the first place in her major, passed all the certificates around her major, and became a TEM-8 English major. She also learned two small languages.
When we graduated, there were two places in our major. There was no doubt that she was the first, but she gave up without hesitation. She doesn't like ordinary universities that guarantee research.
Her goal was to be admitted to a graduate student in a famous foreign university, but unfortunately she failed in the first year.
Many people began to satirize her behind her back for being too arrogant and taking herself seriously, but we all know that she will succeed one day.
Sure enough, after another year of review, she was successfully admitted to her favorite graduate student.
Now, I have graduated for many years. Every time we chat, we can't help but admire He Chan. In our hearts, she exists like a god. Every time we give up, her various things always spur us on and keep me moving forward.
Whenever we have to make do, we always think that she would rather die than surrender.
It has always been thought that excellent people have a good education and living environment since childhood because of their intelligence, high IQ or at least superior family background.
He Chan let us know that excellent people have qualities that others don't have. They show a high degree of self-discipline in all aspects of life. Their unremitting efforts for more than ten years have made them more and more outstanding, and also opened the distance between them and ordinary people around them.
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Excellent people can let us see a wider world, let us find our own shortcomings, and more importantly, let us meet better ourselves in the process of dealing with excellent people.
After signing up for Huai Zuo's writing training class, reading his handwriting became a daily routine.
Huai Zuo is not only good at writing articles, but also good at giving lectures. He is also thoughtful and highly disciplined. He has been running, reading, writing and traveling for more than ten years.
I came across an article written by his girlfriend Erpang.
Erpang said that she was originally an old mother who had no goals and didn't make much progress. After meeting Huai Zuo, she began to change slowly with Huai Zuo.
They eat and run together, read and study together, increase their connotation, travel together and increase their knowledge.
In order to keep pace with Huai Zuo, she became more and more self-disciplined. She insisted on running in the morning, writing absent-minded articles and taking beautiful photos, and the two knew each other and cherished each other. They go hand in hand.
Because I fall in love with an excellent person, I am getting better and better, which is probably the best appearance in love.
I also have a relative. She was just an ordinary white-collar worker, and her husband became an expert in a certain field after some efforts and gave lectures everywhere.
Occasionally, in some small classes that are too busy, my husband will make a courseware to tell her, and she will practice it over and over again.
Gradually speaking more, coupled with her husband's guidance, she is becoming more and more skilled.
Now, both of them have become experts, and they are very harmonious, discussing and learning from each other.
With excellent people, sometimes you may meet a better self without being too deliberate, because Excellence will also infect each other.
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Whether working or studying, making friends or falling in love, we all tend to choose excellent people, at least those who are better than ourselves. This is not aiming too high, nor vanity, but an instinct of human beings.
Everyone wants their life to be better and better. Excellent people are either hard-working or self-disciplined. In either case, it is positive. This quality is like a beam of sunshine, and each of us is more willing to go to the sunshine.
There is a saying that you are not afraid of God's opponents, but you are afraid of teammates like pigs. It is one thing to want to work with excellent people, but it is another to be able to work with excellent people.
Some people complain that excellent people are particularly lofty and unsociable at all. In fact, excellent people are gregarious, but they don't have you in their group.
If you want to be with excellent people, at least you can't be too bad, otherwise others will want to help you and even find your hand.
This is a realistic society, time is money, excellent people, their time is more precious, and no one likes to have long-term contact with the outstretched party.
If you want to work with excellent people, you should either have the corresponding resources or let people see your efforts and potential. Only a well-matched relationship will make both sides comfortable.
* * * The gap between two people is too big, there will always be a gap, even if both sides are very careful to maintain it.
This gap is like a dense needle, which sticks to people one by one, and will one day fall apart because it is unbearable.
The best way to get what you want is to make yourself worthy of it. In the same way, it is more important to be an excellent person first than to work with an excellent person.