My situation is similar to yours. My parents are timid people, and they won't admit it. Instead, I comfort myself with an alternative psychology. They are teachers. They just read books and prepare lessons every day, saying that this is progress, courage and strength. If they can't communicate with others, they won't communicate with others. They just read books, do problems, attend classes and are out of touch with society. In the end, in the process of interacting with people, they are in a state of inferiority and always use their subordinates. I can hardly do anything except read books.

It was not until two years ago that I knew that my parents were timid people (I always thought that they were enterprising, brave and powerful, which was the only way for people to survive in society! Hehe, isn't it ridiculous, but it's true. ) Now I have basically no obstacles to communicate with others. Although sometimes I can't understand and speak, there is no problem in basic communication.

Two years ago, I didn't know anything, I didn't understand that I was timid and thought I was brave and enterprising, but things were always not smooth and I was always unhappy every day. I don't know why. I told my parents that I was either obsessive-compulsive and had to take medicine, or I had difficulty going uphill. If I want to make progress, I have to go through these pains, or tell me that people don't have to be too strong, I can wait. In short, I didn't solve the problem. At the suggestion of my girlfriend, I started reading Chicken Soup for the Soul, A World Without Complaints, Happiness from the Heart, Stop dreaming in my twenties, Fang and Yuan, and studied psychology every day. I feel much better after reading it, but I still can't understand anything and can't say it. Still very depressed, but still crustily skin of head to do things, to communicate with people, always hit a wall and don't know why. These books are my first teachers. They are my starting point to normal. Because my parents are timid, I have developed the habit of being timid since I was a child. These habits will form all kinds of incorrect and even deformed world views, such as extreme, extreme, jealous, narrow vision and so on. Over time, although the root cause is timidity, timidity will be covered up by various derived problems layer by layer, and it is impossible to find the root cause at once when solving them (even these problems are intertwined, it is hard to say who caused them), so we can only solve them layer by layer, even layer by layer, thinking that we have no problems, but when we do things, we find that there are still problems, so we continue to do them. We did a lot of wrong things that we don't know why, suppressed them for a long time, and met the next problem, that's all. But on the whole, there is still progress. Until now, I don't know if I am good, but I feel much better. Not always uncomfortable. When I talk to others, their feedback is much more normal. The most important thing is that I can feel happy in the process of interacting with others.

In the past two years, I have found that my parents' timidity has cast a shadow on my heart and has been scaring me. I began to think that if I told them my mistakes, timidity and timidity, they would be depressed, sick and even die. When discussing this with my aunt, they also felt that my parents could not bear it, saying that I told them that they would be depressed and sick. ) so I didn't say, I wanted to solve it myself, but later I found it impossible. I told others, and I told the psychologist, but they didn't solve the problem. I could only tell them, but I was afraid that they would die, and the pain was almost crazy. Later, I felt that I had to talk about it. I was crazy if I didn't talk about it, and no one gave them a pension. So I told them that the process was not smooth. I said they were timid, and they said how carefully they prepared lessons, how attentively they attended classes and how excellent their homework was. Anyway, you said he was timid and escapist. He said you have obsessive-compulsive disorder, and you are not normal. During that time, you were often awakened by anger when you slept, and you felt suffocated when you slept. But then my mother retired, and she began to reflect on her mistakes and slowly began to accept my point of view. And as I said it more often, their reaction was not so fierce. My mother can partially accept what I say, but she can't say too much. If she talks too much, she will say that I am so old, so leave me alone. As long as you are promising, I will not change. I told her that you cast a shadow over my heart. I can't get through unless I tell her, so she said, go ahead, I'm listening. You can tell from that tone that she is not in. She thinks she's great. Say whatever you want, and then it's over. What should I do? I am willing to listen to you, which is a help to you. no need to say any more I heard all about it. It's wrong for you to say it again. She escaped again. As for my dad, a typical escapist, he actually listened to everything I said, but he didn't dare to face it, so he prepared lessons every day. He thinks he is self-motivated and doesn't care about these things. In fact, he understood what I said, but he didn't dare to think seriously, dare not face it, and didn't want to think about whether he was right or not. I don't think this problem can be solved at once. At this stage, if his mental strength can't pass, call him and say these things. If I can face the world alone, I will face the world alone. As time goes on, I do more and more things, and my heart will gradually become stronger. At that time, he will gradually accept some new ideas and he will change. He will retire in two years, and then he won't have to prepare lessons in class. He will reflect on these things himself, and there is no need to rush into it.

The ancients said, "Read thousands of books and take Wan Li Road". Actually, I'm not saying that I really want to read 10,000 books, but that I should accept all kinds of information with an open mind, not necessarily books, but also news, newspapers, videos, TV dramas, lectures and advertisements. In short, I want to accept all kinds of information with an open mind. However, it is not enough to accept, but also to practice. "Wan Li Road" is not about going far, but about doing all kinds of things, participating in all kinds of activities and dealing with different people. People can only grow up if they constantly collide with others.

My experience is that it is a shock for a timid person to accept any information. Doing anything is a kind of fear, just like sitting for a long time and your legs are numb. Any collision is a kind of pain, but if you don't move, you will only be numb and move more and more. Although it is very painful, it will be numb after a long time, and even feel very happy when walking. So you should take the initiative to accept new things, practice first, and do things first. Even scared hands and feet cold. And I will make many mistakes, but it doesn't matter. Although I have made many mistakes, I am wrong when I make mistakes. It is normal not to know where you are wrong when you are wrong. Don't expect to have experience in doing one thing. I won't make similar mistakes next time. I usually make mistakes, but I don't know why. Even after I made eight or nine mistakes, I suddenly realized that my mistake was like this. Although they were all simple and even ridiculous mistakes, I just didn't know it at the time. At first, I was angry and annoyed. Why is such a simple thing wrong, but later I became accustomed to it, even I don't care. If it is wrong, it is wrong. There is nothing wrong with the wrong reason. There is no need to be too obsessed with right and wrong. If you can't see your progress immediately, you often can't see it for a long time. You can't see it if you can't see it. It's okay. As long as you open your heart, get in touch with external information and do all kinds of things well, you will gradually become stronger. This process exists, you don't have to care too much about your own right or wrong, and the speed of progress is just to do it. Take your time.

1. You should sum up the experience and lessons, so that people will not make progress, but don't always pay attention to whether you have made progress, which will only lead to narrowness and extremes. This degree will naturally be mastered by yourself through constant attempts.

2. Relax, although many things have an impact on your life, they will never be so big that it is a matter of life and death. Just like the college entrance examination, it is good to pass the exam, but it is not impossible to fail. Many millionaires and even multimillionaires have just graduated from high school and junior high school, and they can live a good life even if they are not rich enough to learn some practical skills. Do one thing, but there is no need to think of it as a matter of life and death. Many things are not as important as you think. Say to yourself appropriately: "It doesn't matter!"

I am 30 years old and married. I started reading when I was just 27 or 28 years old, and I began to get normal, just like you. I can do it, so can you. These are all my own summaries, which are estimated to be helpful to you.

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