People often say that the more self-discipline you have, the more freedom you have. Freedom is indeed an attractive state. For this freedom, you need to put in a lot of effort to make yourself better and stronger, so that one day you will no longer be troubled by trivial matters in the world, and all of this, It all depends on self-discipline. When you have done countless poisonous chicken soups, you find that if you can't achieve true self-discipline in your heart, no matter how hard you try, it will be in vain. So, is self-discipline really difficult? In fact, it is not the case. When a person starts from the heart, achieves moderation, and lives a regular life, then his behavior can naturally be called excellent. Mortal affairs are often noisy and chaotic, and they can often affect our lives. Therefore, once some people achieve a high degree of self-discipline, they become unsociable. I believe that in life, you cannot have your cake and eat it too. A highly self-disciplined person must be willing to spend time investing in himself. They do not want to be gregarious and cannot be gregarious. However, such people will often become successful.
He was not liked by anyone when he was in school. After all, while other children were making origami airplanes, he was studying. Later, when he entered high school, many of his classmates fell in love early, and he was still there. study. Since I was a child of someone else's family since I was a child, I was naturally not treated well by other children, but I never cared about it when I was growing up. After going to college, while others were enjoying the freedom from their parents' control, he left himself with even less time. There is no time for parties or waiting for meals. His schedule is so full that most people cannot participate in his life. So, no matter what he did, he always went alone. One person runs in the early morning, one person is busy doing his own research, and one person goes to build a good relationship with the teacher. Xiaozhi, who was "hated" by others, joined a large company half a year ago and had an enviable position. To talk about his story, it can be summed up in one sentence. People with self-discipline can definitely save themselves.
Why do I say that people with a high degree of self-discipline are often unsociable?
In life, the most common phenomenon is that of a loner. There is definitely something different from others, and the most important thing is self-discipline. There are three reasons for this.
How can they be sociable when they make friends selectively?
A highly self-disciplined person naturally has a huge advantage over ordinary people because they are willing to make progress and their level of thinking is higher than others. If a group can be happy together, it must be because the group has the same ideas. Therefore, I think it is not that people with high self-discipline are unwilling to integrate into groups, but that some groups cannot fit in. Although it is difficult for them to find close friends in life, they do not want to get along with people who do not understand them. We care more about comfortable solitude than awkward gregariousness. Therefore, the reason why people with a high degree of self-discipline are unsociable is because they make selective friends and know who is more suitable for them and who are their fellow travelers, so they will not make friends with people casually.
They set out with a purpose and will not let the group waste time.
A person's life is only a few decades. Once you miss it, you can never go back to the past. Don't wait until you are old and regret it when you recall your youth. Whether you choose to be gregarious or not, you should ensure that you have enough time to sprint into the future. A highly self-disciplined person always arranges his or her life properly. They do the right things at the right time and are unwilling to change their life plans easily for the sake of others. However, most people in the group are content with the status quo of life. They want to change, but are unwilling to take action, which is contrary to the behavior of people with a high degree of self-discipline. Therefore, I think that many people have to spend a lot of time and energy in order to join the group, which greatly slows down their progress. People with a high degree of self-discipline, in order to strive forward, can only choose to be unsociable.
They have their own personalities and there is no need to change themselves to fit in with others.
There is a saying that our life is like a Rubik's Cube. In the Rubik's Cube, if you become gregarious, you will disappear.
Countless people are born and die every second, but time goes around and the previous year has passed, and only a few people can be written into the annals of history. In my opinion, most of us are born ordinary, and only those who are full of their own personality have the opportunity to write wonderful chapters. Personality is particularly important when a person is alive. If you lose yourself, you will be like a zombie on the street. People with a high degree of self-discipline are full of individuality. If they blindly join the group, they will only lose their individuality in the group and become vulgar. Therefore, they have their own unique side and will not change themselves easily because of others.
Summary:
Everyone has different views on being gregarious. Some people think that gregarious people are too characterless, and some people think that unsociable people are too difficult to get along with, but In fact, in life, you can be what you want, there is no need to change yourself according to others. As the saying goes, if you don't forget your original intention, you will always succeed. If you choose a high degree of self-discipline, you can reach the height of life you want, but for this you will definitely lose something. These things may be friends, of course to a large extent. , is a friend who is not suitable for you at all. As human beings, we are always afraid of loneliness, but you have to understand that only by adapting to loneliness can you live the life you want. This is reality. Therefore, I say that a person who is highly self-disciplined often does not gregarious. Because he is not gregarious, he can be more self-disciplined, and because of self-discipline, he will not join gregarious people casually.