The reason why people with social phobia have nervous reactions when facing others is because they are afraid that others will see through their shameful desires, which is often related to sex.
The claustrophobic patients show a strong impulse to hurt others and themselves when they are in a claustrophobic environment for the first time. This terrible idea makes the patient feel anxious.
After entering the second stage, they will habitually avoid this kind of psychology, because they are afraid of experiencing the pain caused by this anxiety attack again, and label these reactions with cultural labels, such as humiliation and lack of masculinity.
Therefore, whether it is social fear, claustrophobia or acrophobia, for the people in the second stage, the real fear is not the external people or environment, but the physiological reaction and the accompanying fear experience when the fear attacks.
Patients will deliberately avoid it as a way of self-protection, but this way makes them lose the opportunity to ease their fears.
If you want to overcome the tension in interpersonal communication, try the following methods:
Insensitive
There is a principle and the only way to overcome any phobia, which is "desensitization". The process of desensitization is a kind of torture for patients, which requires patients to repeatedly contact the scenes they are afraid of. With each exposure, the anxiety reaction will gradually ease and gradually reach the level that you can control.
For people who are socially fearful, getting out of their own small environment and getting in touch with strangers and people around them will increase the pleasant experience every time they socialize, which will make a person's social self-confidence stronger and stronger, and the symptoms will gradually ease.
Cognitive reconstruction
Cognitive reconstruction technology can better help patients to relieve anxiety. In a tense situation, pay more attention to your inner thoughts, and then try to record them, analyze the irrationality of these thoughts and replace them with reasonable ones.
For example, when talking to the opposite sex, you suddenly say: It's over, I must be blushing, so shameful and ugly! This idea scares you.
You can analyze the idea afterwards and find out its irrationality. At that time, you regarded blushing and nervousness as terrible events, giving a signal to the weak blush.
In fact, sudden blushing and nervousness in the face of the opposite sex are lovely manifestations, and have nothing to do with the weak.
Then, you can try to find a more ideal way to repeat these ideas. When you face the same situation next time, these reasonable ideas will naturally appear, thus relieving your nervousness.