(1) Strong self-centeredness, and others should obey my tendency. Most of these children are the result of being spoiled by their parents. They only have themselves in their hearts and are unwilling to accept others.
(2) I don't trust my classmates or others. They don't have many or irregular friends in the class, so it is difficult to get new friends.
(3) I have the consciousness of making friends with my classmates, but I lack the skills of making friends. I do have friends, but I am not intimate enough.
These problems of making friends are providing the basis and direction for our specific work.
(II) Specific practices
1. Create communication opportunities and strengthen the awareness of friends (collective perspective)
Children will imitate each other and take care of each other in the collective. Teachers actively use the role of the collective field to consciously and carefully design some activities with the theme of "making friends" and use "positive enhancement" to strengthen students' concept, ability and methods of making friends correctly. Here, I just want to give some examples of what I have tried:
(1) Praise activities of "praising my new deskmate"
There are frequent changes of seats in the class. In order to make small deskmates get familiar with each other as soon as possible, make friends with each other, and get along harmoniously, I ask the children to observe and understand their new deskmate within one week, and find out his advantages to see who can make friends with the deskmate first. Children explore the advantages of their deskmates through various channels. It is made in the form of tabloids, and the teacher also provides them with opportunities to communicate in class.
Xiao A, a classmate, sat with a classmate who had had a conflict. At first, he often found fault with his deskmate. But after this activity, she commented on his deskmate like this: "I especially didn't like my new deskmate before." I never thought of making friends with him. Now, I find that he has a good heart. I was sick on Monday. He took the initiative to take care of me, poured me water and served me rice. I was very touched. Later, I found out that he also loves labor very much, and was once rated as a "small model worker". I am very happy that he is sitting with me now. We study and play together. I don't agree with anyone who wants him to go! " Now they have become good friends.
"finding advantages" is a two-way process. They appreciate and praise each other and have a good understanding of each other, thus laying a good foundation for further friendship.
(2) Friends of the "good news meeting" are distinguished guests
For children who have already made friends, we should consciously guide them to better consolidate their mutual friendship. Some related activities can be designed. For example, the "friend complex" is reflected in the "good news meeting".
every student who is given a good news meeting should take the initiative to invite a friend to attend. During the activity, friends can be the little assistants of the exhibitor, and they can also serve as participants to report good news for friends. In order to express congratulations and gratitude, friends sincerely shake hands and hug, and the scene is really touching.
This arrangement has two purposes: to strengthen students' ability to remember the important role of friends when they succeed, and to let friends share happiness with you. The invited friend will naturally feel grateful in his heart, feel proud of being recognized and valued by his friends, silently form a desire to continue to associate with this friend, and try to strengthen the friendship.
in addition, there are activities such as "I do something for my friends" and "making friends with a doctor", which are carefully designed by the teacher to make friends.