In addition to sincerity and tolerance, we should also pay attention to the following 10 questions:

1. Listen to your friends.

As a friend, you should learn to listen. When your friend encounters setbacks and troubles, he will find someone to vent his emotions. As a friend, you can listen to each other sincerely and patiently, which opens an emotional outlet for your friend. When a friend tells you something, you should not only listen patiently, but also insert one or two words of emotional comfort from time to time, or give some advice to your friend, so that his feelings will get out of the swamp and he will feel that having a friend like you is the real reliance. In this way, the feelings between friends will be deeper and the friendship will increase day by day. A lady was extremely depressed because of her marriage, so she called her girlfriend to pour out her troubles. However, these days, just as this girlfriend was busy with her work, she couldn't find time to listen to her friends. As a result, this lady finally ended her life in anger because she couldn't bear the emotional repression for a while. If I had taken the time to listen to that friend's story and made some comforts, my friend would not have hit the wall.

2. Friends should also be divided into relatives and friends.

Although friends are the friendliest or most reliable contacts in the social circle, human nature is complex, so when interacting with friends, we should also carefully consider and distinguish between relatives and friends. By nature, most people who become friends have similar interests and personalities, similar interests, similar educational level, lofty personality, empathy and so on. In terms of communication reasons, there are embarrassing friends, friends who never turn their faces, friends who are in need, friends who are friends of gentlemen, friends who have forgotten the past, friends who have met once, friends who live in the market, friends who live in the past and friends who have old friends. No matter what the reason is, friends, after contact for a period of time, should have a choice, should have relatives and friends. For example, some friends are sincere and pure, and naturally they can be sincere and caring; However, some of them are invested in you for some utilitarian purpose. Once the benefits are not achieved or you are too poor to be useful to him, he will leave you Such friends can't be close. What's more, it is better to keep a certain distance.

3. Enough is enough and ask for human feelings. People can't make friends without human relations.

However, people can never ask for more. You ask for help once, and people help you. If you don't know much about it and push your luck again and again, your friends will be bored and disgusted with people like you, and the relationship between friends will be unsustainable. Others engage in friendship coercion in order to meet their own needs, regardless of each other's tolerance, which is also an act that makes friends disgusted.

4. Show up when friends need it most.

Facing the mixed society and changeable nature, no one can guarantee that everything will be fine, Dont Ask For Help, and no one boasts that he will never be in danger. Therefore, people are always eager for help when they encounter difficulties. Therefore, as a friend, when others need your help, you must show up in time and sincerely reach out to help your friend and help him tide over the difficulties. As long as you grasp this principle of communication, your friendship with friends will increase day by day.

5. There must be a "degree" in communication.

China has a very philosophical saying that "extremes meet". In life, anything that goes too far will go to the opposite side. The same is true of communication between friends. The past is very close and prone to cracks. Only by grasping a moderate degree can the friendship between friends become eternal. This is because everyone's culture, morality, personality, attitude towards life, work potential and family situation are different. The size of this difference is sometimes proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is, the more frequent and intimate the communication, the greater the pull. Therefore, communication between friends, regardless of time, distance, etc. Should be kept apart from each other, in order to achieve the artistic conception of "wanting more, feeling deeply", to be happy with the arrival of friends and miss them because of their departure.

6. Don't idealize your friends.

There are no two identical leaves in the world. Although friends have similar temperament, similar interests and similar temperament, after all, a friend is a living person, and there will always be some differences with you, some shortcomings and secrets that you don't want people to know. Therefore, when communicating with friends, don't idealize your friends, and don't take "I" as a reference for all your words and deeds. First of all, you should tolerate your friend's shortcomings. Therefore, once we find his shortcomings, we should tolerate them generously, choose the right time and method, and sincerely help him overcome them. Secondly, let friends keep themselves. When you communicate with your friends, you can't insist that your friends must be your "copies". Let friends have their own hobbies and personalities. If you arbitrarily ask your friends for hobbies, just like you, then your friends will leave you. Third, respect the privacy of friends. Don't let your friends report everything to you. It seems that friends who don't talk to you about things are unfaithful to you, not friends. If you are so overbearing and demand your friends with such idealized standards, your friends will also resent you.

7. Grasp friendship and love correctly

Besides love, there should also be a place for friendship between men and women. There are gender differences between men and women, but as long as we pay attention to the size, we can establish a healthy, elegant and pure friendship. This requires the existence of friendship between male and female colleagues, male and female classmates and so on. This requires men and women to grasp the relationship between friendship and love; First, men have offended women's dignity and should respect the personality of female compatriots; Second, both men and women should recognize the difference between friendship and love. Friendship is only a friendly exchange between men and women, and love has certain responsibilities to each other, such as family and marriage, which is specific and binding. Therefore, there is an insurmountable gap between friendship and love.

8. Friends should also say "No"

It's just that friends often ask for things from each other. However, some people often make demands beyond the scope of principles and objective reality. For example, some friends entrust you with things beyond your master's ability, and there is nothing you can do; Some friends entrust you with something against your subjective will, and so on. If you encounter such a situation, as a friend, you should say "no" decisively. Because, first of all, you violate the principle, once caught, you and your friends will become prisoners or violators; Secondly, you can't do things beyond your ability. If you don't explain the situation and refuse, it will hurt your friendship because you didn't do it. Thirdly, if you don't refuse something against your will, it will affect your mood of making friends with you, and it will also hinder you from paying attention to the ways and means when entrusting friends, and you can't be blunt and rash. Common methods; First, you can patiently dissuade and state your interests; Second, you can explain the situation solidly and let your friends understand your difficulties; The third is to make a detour, handle it tactfully, and skillfully use other methods to help complete the things entrusted by friends.

9. Don't simply pursue utilitarian communication.

It is human nature to make friends for mutual benefit. However, don't treat communication with friends as purely utilitarian communication, because communication between friends. In addition to helping each other when there is something, it also has the functions of exchange of ideas, complementary knowledge, emotional comfort, joy and pleasure. If friends blindly pursue utilitarian flashes, then such friends will not last long.

10. Leave free time and space for friends.

People communicate with friends for friendship, but friends may have other social circles besides you. Therefore, you should first allow your friends to communicate with people who disagree with you. Be generous when you find that the other person you make friends with is the one who has had friction with you. If you blame your friend for this, your friend will be in a dilemma. Secondly, don't confine the circle of friends to your space. If you "bind" your friends around you regardless of whether others like it or not, it will only be counterproductive. Because, even if you "bind" your friend's body, you can't "bind" your friend's heart. Most friends will hate you and leave you.

Second, how can we make friends?

People with similar backgrounds in life and growth can become bosom friends. It is absolutely impossible for a person who has nothing to do with you at ordinary times to understand you. Street thugs can't understand the feelings of people who study hard at a cold window, and rich children can't understand the living habits of children whose parents are both laid off.

Moreover, people with similar views can become bosom friends. Don't look for people who disagree in two sentences and argue endlessly. He is sure to get along badly and be very tired.

Third, people who are willing to listen to you can become bosom friends. Don't look for such a narcissistic idea. What you say is all about him and him.

Fourth, people who are affectionate and righteous can become bosom friends. Don't look for such loyal people. Most words are better than deeds, and it is best to be kind-hearted and grateful.

Finally, it is for yourself. Be sincere to those you think may become bosom friends, and be kind to others! Do more for others! When people are in trouble, they should stand up and don't always make their own small calculations, for fear of losing something. As long as you choose your friends according to the first three points I said, he will definitely think that you are good to him and he will be good to you.