Friends are the people everyone wants to have and the people everyone wants to be. In order to make everyone friends and consolidate the relationship between friends, we need something called friendship to water them.
In China, friends are very important. Traditional Confucianism attaches great importance to it and puts forward "sincerity", "faithfulness", "benevolence" and "loyalty", which have always influenced us, penetrated into our lives and influenced our behavior. The rule of being our friend. A series of stories, such as "Looking for a bosom friend in high mountains and flowing water" and "Flying over the eaves and walking on the wall far away from Qian Shan, drinking cups with thousands of waters", are profound expressions of friendship.
"Depend on your parents at home and friends when you go out", which shows the importance of friends and the role of friends is to rely on each other. Instead of opening evil flowers for personal gain in the name of friends and friendship. The difference between the former and the latter is that the former depends on each other and helps each other, especially when friends are in trouble, they depend on each other, encourage each other and help each other out of trouble; The latter "watered" friendship when friends were behind the horse in the spring breeze; It is wise to protect yourself and abandon your friends when they are in trouble. What's more, he added insult to injury.
"A friend in need sees the truth, and a friend in need sees the truth", which is also a criterion to judge the authenticity of friendship. It also shows that friendship needs refinement and sublimation. The friendship of calling each other brothers on the wine table and crowding round when things go smoothly is not a real friendship; True friendship is to give you advice when you are proud and words of concern when you are down and out. Because it has not been flattered by the temptation of fame and fortune, but has been verified and sublimated in difficulties.
"A friend of a gentleman is as light as water" means that making friends should be nothing else. Only in this way can we be alone and not lonely, and make life warmer and more comfortable.
In fact, friends who want nothing are rare. You might as well close your eyes and delete those who want something. How many are there? Because true friendship is "nothing to ask for", she should not ask for anything, should not rely on anything, refuse all contracts, and be pure and fragile forever. Therefore, it is always so easy to mud and break. Various books also introduce various ways to prevent friendship from breaking up, but those methods are technical. Once technical means enter the emotional field, there is always no good result. Friendship needs to be watered with heart and cultivated with life in order to blossom a brilliant flower of friendship.
In short, we should not only cultivate correct feelings. Because we can have no achievements, and we can never have no friends; We need friendship, but we also need to be alert to evil, prevent hypocrisy and oppose betrayal. About friendship, let's end with a sentence from Mr.
Is it easy to come to this world once?
Is it easy to meet once?
Is it easy to call a friend?
Again-
Learn to cherish and be careful.