These things only happen to children in the city, especially girls, because I am also from the city, but I am a boy.

The first reason why parents are like this is because of what others call "society." It is true that this society will make people guard against it. I am more than ten years older than you and have experienced too much. Second, the contrast between parents’ thoughts and this so-called “society” requires you to rely on yourself to brainwash your parents.

Let’s put it this way, whether we are born in the 1970s, 1980s or 1990s, most of the men and women who want to succeed in their careers come from rural areas to work, and there are very few in cities. Why? Because people who come out to work hard in rural areas have left their parents and have to learn to solve everything on their own. Their parents are incompetent. As time goes by, they gain more experience, so they can succeed. Our so-called children in cities do have better living conditions than them, but most of us are controlled by our parents. For example, I studied architecture and became a supervisor. My parents wanted me to "eat this bowl of rice" and become a director in the future, earning hundreds of thousands a year. However, some people from rural areas came to work like excavators, and my parents did not have them. The ability to make loans or contract earthwork projects has been paid out. But if we want to do this, our parents will break up with you directly. If you have the qualifications to do it forcibly, if it succeeds, your parents will go around saying "How is my child so capable?" If it fails, your parents will say, "I told you to be a good supervisor, but you don't listen to the old man's words." , Now it’s like this, let you mess around”

So, in some aspects, especially in career, parents of children in cities must be a “stumbling block”, but we can’t get rid of it. What about relationships? I'm a boy (before), a little better than you, and my parents don't care much about it, you know.

I personally think you should learn from me. I dropped out of school at the age of 20 and ran away from home because of some things. In fact, it was not because of how my parents forced me, but because of some things in my own family. If you run away, don't contact me if you don't contact her. You have to be cruel. I haven't contacted my mother for eight years. My father passed away when I left. Eight years later, I achieved some success. When I returned home, my mother was still my mother, because at that time I understood that my parents would never really want you. As long as you live a good life, as for these things, after all, I am a man and you are a woman, so I don’t know if it is right for me to teach you this way. If you have enough social experience, you can try it, because you can come back at any time. Home, your parents will forgive you if you come home in any state

It may be a bit selfish to say this, but I want to tell you that the way I teach you is to teach you to "fall for it", because "falling for it" It was just put there for people to be fooled. No one was "fooled", so how could there be the word "fooled"? But people always grow up in desperate situations. This sentence is true. I remember that three years after I left home, when I really had no money, I called my mother and asked her to give me some money. Just answer me, "No matter where you are, you can take a taxi back now and I'll give you money at the door, but don't make trouble when you come back." (I'm an only child), but I didn't go back. I grew up and tempered myself in a desperate situation. , so if you choose to run away from home and avoid the halo of your parents, then you have to think clearly. That is a desperate situation that cannot be overcome (this is what I think, there is no obstacle in the world that cannot be overcome, and the sun will not stop rising tomorrow because of you). If you encounter it by then (it is impossible not to encounter it), then your choice is..., this is the most critical.

Ask yourself, can you do it? Ask yourself this when you are at peace with yourself. On the other hand, if that doesn't work, do you know how enviable your parents' halo is now? I can even tell you that when I returned home at the age of twenty-eight, I had almost tens of millions of assets on my own, but I still regret it now. And you? Instead of saying whether you can do it or not, I will ask you, what are you doing for? You have to know that when your parents are like this, when you are fine, you are disgusted and even hate them, but what happens when you are fine? I can tell you that your parents will protect you as soon as possible, no matter who is right or wrong, or who is hurt.

This is also the painstaking efforts of your parents, so when you don’t want to be in that home, ask yourself, ask yourself calmly, why do you want to leave? If it's for your own career, then I agree, and I can even help you in some ways, but then ask yourself, can you do it? When you encounter any obstacles, can you do it?