First, you can't be self-centered everywhere.
Life is "self-centered", and I am not fully prepared for collective life. I follow the habit of being a "little emperor" and a "little princess" at home, and feel that people around me should let go of themselves and do whatever you want, regardless of whether it affects other people's living habits; I am "self-centered" in my study. Because I am the top student in my class, I think I have a great advantage in my study. I look down on ordinary students and don't want to discuss learning with others. I always thought I was the best. Some take "self" as the center in social activities and group activities. If you don't listen to other people's suggestions and ideas, you always want others to do what you say. This kind of communication is most likely to lead to isolation and unpopularity, bring unnecessary troubles to oneself and others, and bring unnecessary losses to the collective. I-centered people should be good at absorbing nutrition from others.
Second, friendship needs constant maintenance and sincerity.
Maintaining friendship is not about accommodating each other, echoing each other, and reconciling contradictions with harmony. Although it doesn't hurt feelings on the surface, it actually widens each other's psychological distance. To make friends, we must stick to principles. Sometimes, we might as well be friends, give sincere criticism and suggestions to others, and establish real, mutual assistance and harmonious interpersonal relationships.
Third, respect the values of others.
People are complex, everyone's value orientation will be different, and it is difficult and unnecessary to unify. Respecting each other's values is an important aspect of making friends. Learn to understand others, and be sure to remind yourself not to be a disgusting person in interpersonal communication.
Fourth, put yourself in each other's shoes and try to understand each other's pain.
When you disagree, try to explain your ideas to them calmly, enhance mutual understanding and make each other feel harmonious. Remember not to be rude or contradict, which will hurt the self-esteem of friends around you. Always consider the interests of others. Take the initiative to admit and apologize when you are wrong, and be tolerant of your classmates' shortcomings. Usually take part in more group activities and communicate with classmates, so as to "turn your enemy into your friend".
Fifth, communication methods should be adjusted in time.
Professor Ding Zan, a famous psychologist in China, said: "The most important thing for people's psychological adaptation is their adaptation to interpersonal relationships, so people's mental illness is mainly due to the imbalance of interpersonal relationships." Entering a brand-new learning and living environment also means entering a new interpersonal relationship. For middle school students, it is far more difficult to adapt to new interpersonal relationships than to adapt to the learning and living environment. Some students still associate with people they like, just like primary school, and ignore people they don't like. Some students are also prone to the idea of "I don't care about him", which is very naive in communication. These emotional communication methods can easily cause communication obstacles and increase their psychological pressure.
Sixth, tolerance and understanding.
As the saying goes, "no one is perfect, and gold is not enough." The students around us are still in the growth stage, and there are often many inappropriate places to deal with problems, and students will have different views on many issues, which requires them to consider problems from each other's perspective, understand each other and not be hostile.
Suggestions for senior high school students to deal with interpersonal relationships.
1, communicate actively, and never shrink from inferiority.
Even the most isolated people living in the collective are eager to communicate with others. They often don't take the initiative to communicate, because they have suffered emotional setbacks before, and now they dare not take the initiative to communicate with others, or for some reason, they are very inferior and afraid of not being understood and supported by others, so they have to lock themselves in a small corner and endure loneliness alone.
People can't communicate actively, mainly because they lack self-confidence in the process of communication. So first of all, we should establish our own self-confidence, don't lose trust in ourselves because of temporary setbacks, but also find our own advantages and give ourselves a proper evaluation.
No one can expect friendship to come to you. No matter what you don't strive for, it's not easy to do it, and so is friendship.
2. Observe everyone's * * same topics and interests.
Everyone has different personalities and interests, but if you want to integrate into this society, you must find a common topic and actively participate in it and discuss it together.
3. Look for people with similar values to become good friends when interacting with everyone.
4. Appreciate others sincerely
Some students are lonely because they can't find anyone to make friends with. He thinks these people are vulgar or hypocritical, and then narcissistic, thinking that no one can be his confidant. They can't see the advantages of others, can't think and analyze problems objectively and accurately, and thus fall into a lonely situation.
Step 5 help others
We generally have this experience: when we are in trouble and need help, if someone comes to help us at this time, then we will be grateful to others, and we will be particularly close when we meet later, and we will establish friendship from then on. If the other party is in trouble in the future, you will definitely take the initiative to help.
Help is not only assistance and material support to solve difficulties, but also emotional support, sharing pain, agreeing with opinions and providing constructive suggestions. Helping others is a virtue, and it is also the basis for building a deep friendship. Therefore, if you are a helpful person, you will certainly win real friends and friendship.