Three major disciplines "
One: Be sure to exchange photos before meeting.
Countless predecessors who "see the light die" have proved a truth. Netizens who love each other must exchange photos with each other before meeting.
This is not to say that we care so much about each other's looks, but because people have a process of adapting and accepting looks, that is, ugly people are acceptable if they have psychological endurance. But if you don't go through this adaptation process, it is easy to have a big psychological gap when you meet, so that even ordinary friends can't do it.
Second: meet again after chatting online for more than 100 hours.
If you want to develop a serious love, mutual understanding and communication are essential.
Nowadays, many people take pleasure in meeting netizens of the opposite sex. They meet every other day or two, and at the same time they have a strong purpose. However, the success rate of this kind of "blind date" meeting is extremely low, and it also loses the original connotation of online chat. Feelings based only on the attraction of each other's appearance are short-lived and superficial.
Therefore, the two sides of online dating must go through long-term communication, so that their pure spiritual and emotional communication can stand the test of time, and then consider further development to reality.
Third: you must reveal your true situation.
The disparity in reality between the two sides will inevitably create obstacles to each other's feelings, and pure spiritual love is often vulnerable in the face of reality.
Meeting each other rashly without knowing each other's real situation also has some ironic consequences. A female college student went on a date with a net friend and found that the other person was just a primary school student. After two months of online dating, they didn't know they were brothers and sisters ... such an extreme event has happened.
To intervene rashly without knowing the true identity of the other party may put both parties in a painful situation.
"Eight Points for Attention"
Note 1: The distance between the two sides shall not exceed100km.
The same environment will make the further development after online dating smoother and make face-to-face communication easier. If you are making friends online for the purpose of love, you'd better choose someone who is in the same city with you. After all, a beautiful love will always develop from online to offline, and distance will always be an unavoidable obstacle to feelings.
On the other hand, China Telecom and Tielaoda won't reduce their prices, because they feel sorry that there are lovers in the world. The plane wanted to, but dared not.
Note 2: Don't come straight to the point and ask to meet.
"Do you have any photos?" "You are really good-looking." "Let's meet." This is often the "three axes" of many men on the Internet.
At present, the popularity of the Internet has made it a convenient communication platform for almost everyone, so there are all kinds of people you meet online. There may be people who can go hand in hand, but there must be some people just playing in it. Online dating is based on deeper understanding and spiritual exchange. Therefore, those who ask for a date as soon as they meet can at least not be said to be serious about each other's communication attitude.
Note 3: Ask your name, address and phone number directly, and don't make intimate friends.
Don't give your name, address, phone number or any information that may affect your safety unless you have a deep understanding of the netizens on QQ, and remember "Don't talk to strangers". The network is a game of the mind, and those who care about the most authentic "data" must have ulterior motives.
Note 4: It is best to communicate by telephone before meeting.
Words can express some information and content such as personal character cultivation hobbies, but after all, it is a relatively flat and thin means of information exchange. Simple text chat may become a way for some people to hide their identity. Telephone communication in front of you can at least determine some basic personal information of the other party, and also lay the foundation for further contact and be mentally prepared.
Note 5: Prepare for the worst.
Don't think the worst, men and women in love can't even accept that their lover is mortal. But he may be the humble man sitting on your left on the bus, or the girl with a face of youth bean across the street. He dug his nose and she shouted. Simply using the magic of love to reduce the image of lovers to the lowest standard, only by looking at it bit by bit can virtue appear. Although he hasn't changed at all, the ending of the story may change. Don't underestimate psychological warfare.
Note 6: Don't let your feelings die of perfection.
There is no need to face the trivial love of life, but we can only vent our feelings but can't meet the test of life together. In the end, this is not a really healthy and long-lasting relationship. As a form of cultivating feelings, online dating always returns to reality in the end and deliberately avoids meeting each other. The biggest possibility is that both parties will suffer in the end, rather than getting the effect of Platonic feelings.
Note 7: Don't choose a secluded place to meet.
Online parties held by department stores, McDonald's, crowded squares or a website or forum are the best places for girls to meet netizens. Popularity can not only dilute the embarrassment of meeting, but also prevent malicious perverts from doing anything bad. Even if the other party proposes to go to a secluded place to "increase the mood", it should be sternly refused.
Remember, see you during the day and wait for the sun to come out; See you tonight. At least it's brightly lit.
Note 8: Be careful when meeting for the first time.
No matter how much we emphasized the spiritual communication established on the network platform before, meeting is the first step of a romantic relationship from fantasy to reality. Therefore, no matter how sweet and intimate the online relationship is, there must be a process of mutual adaptation when we really meet. At the same time, from a practical point of view, both men and women, in this case, appropriate reserve and caution can also protect themselves to the maximum extent.
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