Children cannot make friends mainly because of the following three points.

First, children don’t listen. Many children do not pay attention or listen to what the other child wants to express when interacting with others. They often have wishful thinking in their psychology, thinking that the other person will be their friend or understand their thoughts. In fact, the other person will understand their thoughts. If the child cannot understand what he means at all, it will lead to the inability to communicate with the other party, failure to achieve emotional and loving feelings, and then the inability to make friends.

Second, they do not have the same hobbies as the other child. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together, and when interacting with others, children will automatically be divided into groups based on their personality, hobbies, and living habits. We often see students who are better friends and they all have the same characteristics. So if A large part of the reason why a child cannot make friends is that he has not yet found a child with the same characteristics as his personality, hobbies, etc. Parents often need to help him find them.

Third, parents do not provide correct guidance. Interacting with others is a manifestation of a child's ability to express feelings and absorb information. This ability can actually be cultivated. Parents should pay more attention to their children's performance in the interaction process, especially small shortcomings, and address them in a timely manner. Provide corrective demonstrations so that children can have role models to imitate. This will increase the probability of children making friends during interactions. In this process, children will also gradually subconsciously know how to interact with others and how to learn to interact with others.

How should parents guide their children to take the initiative to make good friends? ?

First, you can consciously take your children to the place where children play. Let the child watch other children playing happily, and then ask him, do you want to participate in children's activities? It is a child's nature to love to play. At this time, most children want to participate in children's activities and games. Then let the child take the initiative to say, can I participate in your game? This achieves the goal.

Second, usually in the community, or when visiting relatives and friends. Children should be taught to greet children proactively. In fact, every child hopes that someone will play with him. In this case, he will certainly feel happy if someone takes the initiative to greet him. The children get along easily, and as soon as they go back and forth, they become good friends.

Third, you can also ask the children to invite better children to play at home. Let other children play with their toys and share their snacks, so that the children can make more friends.