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It is said that on average, a person will meet 29.2 million people in his lifetime, but will only make friends with 3,000 of them. Making friends is limited to knowing each other's names and having life intersections, but it does not include the process of getting to know each other in depth.

Regardless of the authenticity of this number, what I want to ask is, among these 3,000 people, how many people will you follow who not only know the other person’s name, but also understand the other person’s preferences and personality? , and even had a collision of two hearts and a heart-to-heart communication?

This society is too impetuous, and fewer and fewer people can calm down and think. Especially when people become addicted to playing mobile phones and games, their brains have almost no free time to think about some of the more interesting things in reality. things.

Many people can hang out together on the roadside at night, complain about how bad the script of a certain movie or TV series is, how bad the acting skills of the actors are, how boring the current work is, and even take photos of the party and post them on Moments

But after the party, everyone returned to the kind of life where they usually don’t have any heart-to-heart conversations or interactions. For most people, this is just fast-food socializing.

This This kind of social interaction brings instant happiness, but what is left after the happiness is over?

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In contemporary society, more people like to use online social software to communicate with others, but in this space, there are more or less conflicts between people. Feeling of distrust, constantly contacting new people every day,

talking about irrelevant topics, pretending to be humorous, and looking for the possible sense of security.

Unable to be honest and honest with each other, and unwilling to take the time to slowly get to know each other. One second, they were having a lively chat with this person, and the next second, they were just friends with each other without any interaction. It’s on the list,

A brief contact brings psychological satisfaction. This kind of fast-food socializing brings more of an extreme emptiness after the novelty wears off. Many people call this emptiness autistic.

My colleague Xiaoting was complaining to me recently. My cousin introduced her to a blind date. After adding WeChat, the two of them didn’t send messages for a day.

Because of the girl’s face She didn't send a message. In the evening, the boy took the initiative to greet her and chatted with each other for a few words. It took a long time for the boy to reply to the message. It happened that Xiaoting was walking after work and was not looking at her phone. When she came home, she saw the boy. Ten minutes after she sent the message, she replied with a few words.

After typing a message about her arrival status and sending it, she found that the other party had blocked her.

I asked later What was the reason for her cousin? After consultation, her cousin told her that the boy thought she was too slow to reply to messages.

I have also met many different kinds of people. Most of them want to read all your information the minute they get to know you.

To understand you as a whole, This type of person generally has a perfect personality for the person he is chatting with, hoping that the other person is a beautiful, good-looking, and interesting girl

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But He forgot that people are mutual, and the relationship between people requires a process from unfamiliarity to familiarity. It doesn’t take just one minute to read a person thoroughly, and you will become close.

Friends or lovers, because the development of relationships between people requires time to consolidate the emotional foundation, and many things do not come quickly.

After entering the society, everyone got to know each other and became familiar with each other through "fast food" social interaction. If they didn't agree with each other, they would break up immediately.

I never thought about how good the other person was. How good they used to be with each other, because there was no such thing as the same person at all, and after a long time, they even forgot that such a person existed.

The older we get, the less patient, courageous and energetic we have to make new friends. We need to get in touch with everyone, and it takes time.

But we always seem to feel that time should not be taken away. Let's waste it on a "stranger" we just met. Because of this, many people don't care about making friends and just eat disposable fast food to socialize.

Treat someone with your heart who is worthy of your time. Because time is life, I hope you can accept those who are willing to use their lives to understand you, listen to you, and appreciate you.

Author: Eiffel

The writer of the emotional column, a quirky post-90s girl, is willing to write all the heart-warming words in the world with one pen.

Representative work "In Time, We Are All Passengers"

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