The so-called online dating means that computers and computers talk from the heart, keyboards talk about love, and mice fall in love.
The so-called online dating means "letting my love drift through your net" when chatting, and "only you know my lonely heart best when there is a power failure".
The so-called online love is chat room love. Chat room is a love supermarket, there is always one for you to choose from.
The so-called online dating is the love on QQ. The avatar on QQ is like a star, and there is always one to light up for you.
The so-called online dating is the love on BBS. BBS is full of thousands of amorous feelings, and there is always a feeling that it is open to you.
The so-called online dating is a software. This software has the function of practicing typing. Online dating may not be a love expert, so apply for typing.
Membership should be a breeze.
The so-called online dating is a game. This game is simple and easy, two IDs, a chicken, a cat and a mouse, and then hit the key repeatedly.
Disk, you can experience the feeling of heartbeat.
The so-called online dating is a virus. When this virus broke out, it was easier to turn it on than to turn it off. "I love you, I love you, I love you" appeared repeatedly.
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The so-called online dating is a fitness program. Online dating has a long way to go, and you can exercise without playing ball or running. Love is difficult and dangerous,
You can enjoy the magnificent scenery without suffering. Over time, it will become a body of steel, and all poisons will not invade.
The so-called online dating is a slimming plan. One kind of lovesickness, two places of leisure worries, makes people haggard for Iraq. The beauty of online dating lies in distance, but in modernity.
People regard thinness as beauty, which proves the correctness and necessity of online dating.
The so-called online dating is a sport. Look at people who get up early to run, there are fat people and thin people, and fat people want to be thin and fat. Think about it. It's really expensive.
Kim, why don't we all engage in online dating? "Carry out online dating activities to enhance people's physique."
The so-called online dating is to spend a full moon on the screen and talk and laugh alone.
The so-called online dating is to stand in front of the mirror and love yourself. The so-called online dating is a love rehearsal, or love warmth.
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The so-called online dating means loving only a little crazy foreigners, not talking about marriage.
The so-called online dating means that you die when you see the light, and you die when you don't see the light.
The mystery I have never met is tempting, and the opportunity of love at first sight is beckoning. Although there are many tragedies, online dating is still spreading quietly. There are still many people looking forward to an unforgettable online love. Even after repeated defeats and wars, they will not learn the old saying that "the prodigal son will never change his gold".
People standing outside say that online dating is illusory and incredible, but it is actually just a way to make friends and communicate. Just like pen pals, the network itself is just a medium, and all kinds of stories derived from it, whether sad or happy, are not the fault of the network. Successful online dating must conform to the characteristics of the media itself-authenticity. People who use this as a medium must also understand its laws.
Core spirit
Online dating is just a form, and healthy and successful online dating will eventually move from fantasy to reality. Platonic spiritual love is by no means a long-term solution. Online dating is actually a prelude to true love.
"Three major disciplines"
One: Be sure to exchange photos before meeting.
Countless predecessors who "see the light die" have proved a truth. Netizens who love each other must exchange photos with each other before meeting.
This is not to say that we care so much about each other's looks, but because people have a process of adapting and accepting looks, that is, ugly people are acceptable if they have psychological endurance. But if you don't go through this adaptation process, it is easy to have a big psychological gap when you meet, so that even ordinary friends can't do it.
Second: meet again after chatting online for more than 100 hours.
If you want to develop a serious love, mutual understanding and communication are essential.
Nowadays, many people take pleasure in meeting netizens of the opposite sex. They meet every other day or two, and at the same time they have a strong purpose. However, the success rate of this kind of "blind date" meeting is extremely low, and it also loses the original connotation of online chat. Feelings based only on the attraction of each other's appearance are short-lived and superficial.
Therefore, the two sides of online dating must go through long-term communication, so that their pure spiritual and emotional communication can stand the test of time, and then consider further development to reality.
Third: you must reveal your true situation.
The disparity in reality between the two sides will inevitably create obstacles to each other's feelings, and pure spiritual love is often vulnerable in the face of reality.
Meeting each other rashly without knowing each other's real situation also has some ironic consequences. A female college student went on a date with a net friend and found that the other person was just a primary school student. After two months of online dating, they didn't know they were brothers and sisters ... such an extreme event has happened.
To intervene rashly without knowing the true identity of the other party may put both parties in a painful situation.
"Eight Points for Attention"
Note 1: The distance between the two sides shall not exceed100km.
The same environment will make the further development after online dating smoother and make face-to-face communication easier. If you are making friends online for the purpose of love, you'd better choose someone who is in the same city with you. After all, a beautiful love will always develop from online to offline, and distance will always be an unavoidable obstacle to feelings.
On the other hand, China Telecom and Tielaoda won't reduce their prices, because they feel sorry that there are lovers in the world. The plane wanted to, but dared not.
Note 2: Don't come straight to the point and ask to meet.
"Do you have any photos?" "You are really good-looking." "Let's meet." This is often the "three axes" of many men on the Internet.
At present, the popularity of the Internet has made it a convenient communication platform for almost everyone, so there are all kinds of people you meet online. There may be people who can go hand in hand, but there must be some people just playing in it. Online dating is based on deeper understanding and spiritual exchange. Therefore, those who ask for a date as soon as they meet can at least not be said to be serious about each other's communication attitude.
Note 3: Ask your name, address and phone number directly, and don't make intimate friends.
Don't give your name, address, phone number or any information that may affect your safety unless you have a deep understanding of the netizens on QQ, and remember "Don't talk to strangers". The network is a game of the mind, and those who care about the most authentic "data" must have ulterior motives.
Note 4: It is best to communicate by telephone before meeting.
Words can express some information and content such as personal character cultivation hobbies, but after all, it is a relatively flat and thin means of information exchange. Simple text chat may become a way for some people to hide their identity. Telephone communication in front of you can at least determine some basic personal information of the other party, and also lay the foundation for further contact and be mentally prepared.
Note 5: Prepare for the worst.
Don't think the worst, men and women in love can't even accept that their lover is mortal. But he may be the humble man sitting on your left on the bus, or the girl with a face of youth bean across the street. He dug his nose and she shouted. Simply using the magic of love to reduce the image of lovers to the lowest standard, only by looking at it bit by bit can virtue appear. Although he hasn't changed at all, the ending of the story may change. Don't underestimate psychological warfare.
Note 6: Don't let your feelings die of perfection.
There is no need to face the trivial love of life, but we can only vent our feelings but can't meet the test of life together. In the end, this is not a really healthy and long-lasting relationship. As a form of cultivating feelings, online dating always returns to reality in the end and deliberately avoids meeting each other. The biggest possibility is that both parties will suffer in the end, rather than getting the effect of Platonic feelings.
Note 7: Don't choose a secluded place to meet.
Online parties held by department stores, McDonald's, crowded squares or a website or forum are the best places for girls to meet netizens. Popularity can not only dilute the embarrassment of meeting, but also prevent malicious perverts from doing anything bad. Even if the other party proposes to go to a secluded place to "increase the mood", it should be sternly refused.
Remember, see you during the day and wait for the sun to come out; See you tonight. At least it's brightly lit.
Note 8: Be careful when meeting for the first time.
No matter how much we emphasized the spiritual communication established on the network platform before, meeting is the first step of a romantic relationship from fantasy to reality. Therefore, no matter how sweet and intimate the online relationship is, there must be a process of mutual adaptation when we really meet. At the same time, from a practical point of view, both men and women, in this case, appropriate reserve and caution can also protect themselves to the maximum extent.
For example:
Wenmou used to work in a company in Xuzhou, and his temperament was relatively withdrawn. His only hobby is chatting online. At the beginning of last year, he met a girlfriend Lin, who is older than small 8. After they met, they were inseparable, so they rented a house and lived together in Xuzhou. Wenmou did not listen to his family's dissuasion, sold his house and opened a restaurant with his girlfriend. Due to poor management and heavy debts, the relationship between the two became worse and worse, and finally Lin left him. Wenmou chased Hefei and fought with others, and was detained for violating public security management 15 days. After returning to Xujia, Wenmou became more depressed and finally committed suicide by turning on gas in his living room.
This is a human tragedy caused by "online dating". Before that, we had heard so much about such "misfortune" that we didn't even have time to sigh. Why is "online dating" so bitter? This is related to the defects of this new way of love, "online dating". Men and women don't meet, only rely on a "line". Therefore, the only thing they know about each other is online language. We know that the words on the Internet are very virtual, even hypocritical. Men and women in online dating usually show each other their beautiful side; Even if you frankly tell your personality and even your personality defects, they are often ignored as ridicule and humor-men and women in love are extremely sensitive and sometimes quite accurate, but at this time they have failed and it is difficult to play any role.
Of course, the bitter fruit of "online dating" is also related to the romantic fantasies of boys and girls who are "netizens". However, in real life, these men and women are very likely to be introverted and reserved. It is the virtual space on the network that gives him the opportunity to be bold and open. Therefore, once the boys and girls who are "in love" because of the "net" return to the real world and face many practical problems, many practical problems that cannot be solved by romance and ideals alone will naturally become more confused and at a loss. It is not surprising that we can't face the reality and solve many problems in real life, and finally deduce many human tragedies that make people sigh.
"Online dating" is a revolutionary way of love with the advent of the information age. Perhaps, in today's fast-paced life, people don't even have time to appreciate the opposite sex around them. "Online dating" can be used as a pastime or even as one of the ways to make friends. However, once the "online love" goes deep, both men and women almost talk about marriage and commit themselves to each other. If we can't fully consider the many "congenital deficiencies" of "online dating"-covering up unpleasant or even nasty things on each other, it is very likely to brew bitter fruit. Therefore, although "online dating" is fresh and exciting, if you really want to join this ranks, you should think twice! In the above-mentioned article, there is also a sentence in his suicide note before his death: he asked the media to make his experience public, and warned his friends who were addicted to online dating to learn from him and wake up quickly.
Wen's last words seem extreme, killing "online love" with a stick, but his experience, I think, can be used as a warning, no doubt.