How to chat up girls? If you want to say goodbye to being single and meet a girl you like, you can't miss it. It is the right way to seize the opportunity and take the initiative to strike up a conversation, but many people may roll over because they don't know how to strike up a conversation. Let's see how to strike up a girl.
How to chat up girls 1 Many brothers with small life circles have low social skills. When we first came into contact with dating science, we thought about hitting on a girl with many customs and skills. The front may be very effective, but what about the back? Do you feel that there is nothing to say after using routine skills, and the effect of not picking up yellow must end in failure?
In fact, if you strike up a conversation, you should mainly remember a few key points, so that you can know more girls perfectly.
Skills 1
When a boy meets a girl he likes for the first time, he is always shy and embarrassed, and even stutters when he opens his mouth to say a complete sentence. Don't be nervous when you meet a girl you like. The more prepared, the more nervous. The more nervous you are, the more afraid you will fail to strike up a conversation. In the end, you will regret it. Just let nature take its course and communicate with each other. Even if you really don't know what to say, you can say hello with a smile. There are successes and failures in chatting up people. You've met her at least once, and you'll have another reason to talk to her next time. Many people find it difficult to ask girls out.
Tip 2
Chatting up is actually a simple chat. How do you usually chat with your friends? Just talk to girls in the usual way. It's simple. As long as you have a high pleasure in chatting up in the early stage and leave a lot of suspense, plus a reasonable invitation reason and a multi-choice meeting method, she is still easy to go to the appointment. Please respect the girl you accosted or prepared to accost.
Girls, whether strong or not, are all vulnerable groups. The skills of suppressing, teasing and fooling are all based on goodwill. These are just "little tricks" for you to establish a good social experience with a girl. Whether this social relationship is established or not, your attitude towards making friends will be sincere in the end.
Tip 3
Be careful when chatting up people. Don't put your foot in your mouth, or all your efforts will be in vain. Girls can say more compliments if they want to hear it.
As the saying goes, everyone loves him. "Fool" for a while, can you fool for a lifetime? Learn more jokes, learn more magic, look at constellations and study some interactive psychological games. These are all good interactive materials in communication with girls. If you don't just chat, there will be no topic for an hour at most, and communication can only end in embarrassment. A rich first meeting is the basis for your next meeting.
The first step in love is to learn to strike up a conversation and then learn to chat. But do you know how to strike up a conversation Don't be too shy at ordinary times, boys should be generous and take the initiative. If you are an otaku, the first step you have to do is not to learn how to strike up a conversation, but to learn how to change. When you meet a girl you don't know but are very excited, summon up the courage to strike up a conversation, and maybe you can harvest a long-awaited love.
How to talk to girls 2. What are the advantages of chatting up?
Somewhere in real life, have you met a girl you really want to know?
If there is, and time can go back, will you take the initiative to get to know her?
I guess you will still think about it, but I can not optimistically guess that you still won't and dare not go up.
Because you are still the same, you have not changed, so you never know what benefits will be brought to you by chatting up.
1, chatting up can solve the problem of shortage of female resources for you and give you a chance to meet people you may never see again in this life.
The arrival of more than 50 million single men in China means that more than 30 million men will be "single".
Although many brothers are aware of this serious problem, they are still playing the story of "waiting for the rabbit" in their comfort zone.
I admit that some girls will take the initiative to get to know the opposite sex, but you and I are both from China, and women in China are very reserved and unwilling to bear the consequences for fear that others will think she is casual.
So this waiting story is unlikely to happen to you.
But if you take the initiative, you will collect a lot of heterosexual resources abnormally, and it is very likely that you will know more girls because of a girl. For example: her female friend.
Therefore, hitting on girls is a vital means for you to know girls.
If you don't do something now, you may never have a chance to do it again;
If you don't say something now, you may never have a chance to say it again;
Some people don't know each other now and may never see each other again.
"Just because I took one more look at you in the crowd, I never forgot your face."
This kind of opportunity is fleeting, and many girls can meet it but can't ask for it.
If you don't want to pass them by, you don't want to regret it all your life. Go up to her boldly and strike up a conversation. She will be a gift from God.
2, chatting up can quickly enhance self-confidence and courage and help you break through yourself.
Brothers who have only tried to strike up a conversation a few times may feel stuck on a Wuzhishan when they want to have an attack.
Moreover, most boys in China are afraid to strike up a conversation with their favorite girls in the streets, shopping malls, stations, elevators and other places, for fear of failure, they feel that they will lose face if they can't get the contact information, and they are worried that others will think it is strange for them to strike up a conversation.
However, as long as you are willing to spend an afternoon chatting up 20 girls, you will find that the first three times, it feels like a warm-up, and whether it is successful or not, it will make you enter a positive and excited state.
Just like a diver gets better in the competition, just like a hunter sees his prey in the wilderness.
As you chat up more and more times and become more skilled, your confidence and courage will naturally increase.
In the study of love, confidence and courage are both powerful and attractive qualities.
Once these two qualities are cultivated, whether you attract girls or engage in other fields, they will have a very good influence on you.
3, chatting up can let you "inspect the goods" on the spot and filter out girls you don't like.
Today, with the appearance of beauty cameras, a large number of "photo cheats" have been born. It can also be said that almost every girl will use a beauty camera to make herself beautiful.
Using a beauty camera is like taking an anesthetic when you are in pain. You can't feel the pain on the surface, but the pain still exists. The so-called palliative is not a permanent cure.
However, this is understandable. After all, everyone loves beauty.
But it does have a great negative impact on our mate selection. Every man wants to find a beautiful girl to marry and pass on his genes better.
But when faced with the photos that girls showed us, those brothers who are still very shallow really can't tell the truth from the false. The "beauty" who chatted on the Internet for a long time found out that it was a dinosaur. The gap between this photo and reality is enough for you.
Therefore, chatting up in real life can completely help you filter out those "derailment", so that you can love with confidence and boldness!
Today, I have come up with many ways to strike up a conversation, among which the street is a template. Let's share it.
There are still many ways to strike up a conversation in the street, but the most important thing is courage.
As long as you dare, you are almost half successful.
In terms of methods and skills, it is enough to master the following points.
Lens playback
For example, go to her left front from behind and say to her:
"Hello, excuse me, I saw you when I was there just now. Your floral dress looks particularly elegant in the wind. I think you are very temperament, which reminds me of a scene in the movie and suddenly I want to know you. "
But you should pay attention to your natural slow tone and smile, make the other person stop listening to you, and sincerely tell the other person that you just appreciate her, so you want to know her.
The advantage of lens playback is to make the whole process look natural, which means that you are not selling or following her.
Pseudo time limit
This is the best way.
You can say, "Hello, I was waiting for my friend over there just now. I saw you and thought you were very kind, so I came to see you, but I must find my friend. "
This shows that you are not engaged in sales promotion, and secondly implies that you will not pester her all the time and pose no threat to her.
The advantage of doing this is to implant a sense of security in the other party, because you can't build trust in a short time at all, so a sense of security is very important.
No matter which method you use, you should relax naturally, smile and be sincere and polite. If you are nervous and embarrassed, it will aggravate the other person's insecurity and tension.
When you finish these words, you should pause and give her some buffer time.
She may be surprised or ask what you do. You just need to answer each other sincerely and introduce yourself briefly if necessary.
contact information
Mobile phone number is almost the most personal contact method, and most of it may involve the binding of bank cards or other accounts, so it is difficult to get a phone number.
In contrast, micro-signals are easier to obtain. After all, your follow-up battlefield is not a phone number, but on WeChat, where you can learn about each other's lives through WeChat friends circle.
So I suggest that you need a micro signal when you receive the number. You can say, "I must attend a meeting (or find a friend) at once. Let me add you a WeChat. "
As long as you loOK ok enough and behave naturally enough, girls usually won't refuse you.
If you refuse, it is nothing more than that she is shy and insecure, or that she refuses you because she is in a bad mood. For example, she just lost her wallet and was in a low mood.
In short, chatting up is not the ultimate goal, the purpose is that you can improve yourself and break through yourself by chatting up.