After the two babies woke up, they played PS3, watched cartoons, and read magazines silently. I sat in front of the computer. Everyone had something to do and was not idle. While chatting in Jun's mother's parenting group, the conversation turned to children. Jun's mother asked me: "Will Xiu Yang go to elementary school in China or abroad?" I replied: "I don't plan to go to elementary school. I will probably go to school abroad when the child is eleven or twelve years old. Now it is a typical study and play at the same time." Then, the problem also arises. Jun's mother asked me: "What about the child's friends? How to solve the problem of the child's friends?" After the child has left the school as a dating platform, how should the child find playmates through other channels? This is indeed a problem.

I will give an impromptu answer to this question. The following is a summary of our chats:

For example, now, the age of the children is relatively low. In addition to friends of the same age, play partners are children who are slightly older than them. Looking for them in the same community Partner is a good choice. Furthermore, my parents are also good playmates. This is why no matter how busy I am at work, I still find time to spend with my children. Your child only has one childhood. Being busy at work is no excuse or reason. If it is, it will only make you busy and miss your child's childhood. Also, toys cannot be used to replace parents’ play with their children.

In addition to these, you can also choose group activities, which include various parent-child activities, DIY activities, performance activities, etc. This group activity is not limited to schools. It is another good way to get to know and gain partners. Moreover, participating in various activities can also cultivate children's emotional intelligence. For example: the child participates in DIY activities. Most of these activities are group competitions, and naturally there are winners and losers. If your child wins, you can instill in your child the awareness of "don't be arrogant when you win"; if your child loses, you can also instill in your child the awareness of "don't be discouraged when you lose". Let children understand the normality of victory and defeat. At the same time, you can also encourage your children to pick up "masters" or friends who have lost the game. In this way, in the broad interpersonal atmosphere of the group, children's courage to participate in activities can be enhanced, children's experience in interacting with others can be enhanced, and children can become confident, generous, and gregarious.

Now, we are expanding the scope of communication for our children. Interaction activities among children's peer groups are not only their initial social development needs, but also their psychological and personality development needs. In addition to the school as a platform for making friends, society itself is a big stage. The scope of "society" here does not need to be large, it only requires parents to pay a little attention. Parents can find childhood playmates for their children. In my opinion, parents can establish a "playmate circle" for their children. Several parents can establish a contact group and meet frequently to meet up to play out from time to time. This not only provides the child with a childhood playmate, but also brings many benefits to the child's learning.

When I talked about things about children, I didn’t stop for a moment, so I wrote the following words. It is popular in the United States for parents to borrow animals or dolls and use sitcoms to simulate real life scenes to teach children some social skills and how to resolve interpersonal frictions. American parents deliberately arrange time to spend time with their children and play role-playing games together, which is rare in China. American parents often let their children play different roles. Parents cooperate with their children in acting so that their children can experience what different roles are thinking, so that they can better understand others and take the initiative in interpersonal interactions. In addition to playing sitcoms with their children at home, American parents believe that it is also important for their children to have good social skills and be popular with their peers, as well as have a cheerful personality and enthusiasm for a variety of things. Therefore, this is why American parents never crack down on their children’s three-minute enthusiasm. When your child becomes interested in something, as a parent, you must not be too smart to stifle your child's interest and enthusiasm. This will have a negative impact on your child's thirst for knowledge.

In Japan, there is a popular saying that children are like small trees that have not yet taken deep roots. If the mother is holding them alone, the small tree will sway in the wind; if both parents are holding them, the small tree will not withstand the wind. Strong winds arise; if coupled with the strength of neighbors and friends, the small tree can grow stronger in a stable environment. Children getting together is a good opportunity for learning. Although friction is inevitable sometimes, this is the process by which children learn to resolve conflicts. When conflicts arise between children, mothers should not easily help as long as it does not harm the child's personal safety.

Instead, they are allowed to learn how to resolve conflicts on their own in a relatively safe environment and cultivate their collective consciousness. This is also the cultivation of collective consciousness that China is relatively lacking in the growth of children.

Speaking of France, this will be more interesting. If their children quarrel, French parents like to watch. The French are very romantic, and the same goes for educating their children. As soon as the children quarrel, the parents come over to watch. They think it is very interesting for their children to quarrel and fight. They think the children's childish quarrels are a pleasing show. French parents not only allow their children to quarrel, but also encourage their children to use their brains to win the quarrel. In my opinion, this may be the secret of the French's thorough logical thinking and strong language expression ability. It is worth noting that French parents never personally participate in their children's quarrels. They maintain the cultivation and grace they should have as adults. We can learn from the French. Don’t let your children’s fights ruin your demeanor. You should set an example for your children. This is the power of actions combined with words.

In Korea, a child’s childhood friendship circle is started by the mother. The social circle of Korean children begins when they are born. Korean mothers have a special feeding room to breastfeed their babies. During feeding time, mothers gather in a comfortable feeding room to feed their babies together, chat and exchange feeding experiences. In this way, mothers inadvertently formed friendships, and mothers made friends in the hospital. In fact, it is for the little babies, who have already found friends who are only a few days older than themselves. Moreover, after the mothers are discharged from the hospital, they will also contact each other to inquire about the growth of each other's children, and will also take their children out to play together.