Making friends is the process by which people make friends with others in order to get rid of their single life. The type of friendship can be a girlfriend, a boyfriend, or just a friend. It mainly includes one party's trust in the other party, and giving trust to the other party, allowing the other party to interact with itself, including interactive friendship. [Edit this paragraph] Word definition 1. Friend. "Shang Jun Shu Ban Envoy": "Therefore, when the rule of law comes, husbands and wives cannot abandon each other and cover up their faults without harming their relatives, and people cannot hide from each other." "Sui Shu·Yuanheng Biography": "In the tenth year of Heng's year 2. When Emperor Wei Gong was in the Chu Palace, he made friends with him. "Volume 8 of "Jiwen of Youhuan" by Zhang Shinan of the Song Dynasty: "Huang Gongzhu, named Zihou, was from Fusha Pucheng and made friends with Zhu Wengong." 2. Make friends with him. "Book of Rites·Confucianism": "He acts in his own way and establishes righteousness, advances in the same way, retreats in the opposite direction, and he makes friends like this." "Book of the Later Han Dynasty·Zhong Changtong Zhuan": "More than 20 years old, he studied in Qing, Xu, and There are many differences between Bing and Ji." Qing Nalan Xingde's "Lushui Pavilion Miscellaneous Knowledge" Volume 2: "If you can't trust your friends, you will be unfaithful to the king." The way to make friends includes one party's attitude towards the other. Trust, give trust to the other party, allow the other party to interact with you, including interactive making friends. Dating is often synonymous with marriage and love, so matchmaking agencies such as "Qingyuan Tianxia" are often classified into the dating category. As the saying goes: "Those who are close to vermillion are red, and those who are close to ink are black." This shows that friends have a great influence on us, so we must understand what is a beneficial friend and what is a harmful friend. Real good friends can encourage and encourage each other. "Rely on your parents at home, and rely on your friends when you go out." In addition to family members, friends are an indispensable part of the interpersonal relationship in our lives, and many things can only be solved by relying on close friends. What are the "ways to make friends"? How do you get friends who are truly worth dating? A good friend is a book that can open up all your worlds. When it comes to making friends, there are three beneficial friends: friends who are straightforward, friends who are understanding, and friends who are knowledgeable. There are three kinds of friends that are harmful to the person: friends are easy to make, friends are soft, and friends are sycophants. Youzhi: Zhi means integrity. This kind of friend is sincere, magnanimous, upright, and has a bright personality without a trace of flattery. His personality can affect your personality. He can give you courage when you are timid and decisive when you are hesitant. Youliang: Youliang's "Shuowen Jiezi" says: "Forgiveness means trust." Trust means honesty. This kind of friend is sincere and not hypocritical. Associating with such friends makes us feel at ease and stable in our hearts, and our spirit can be purified and sublimated. Friends who are knowledgeable: This kind of friend is knowledgeable and knowledgeable. In today’s terms, he or she has a broad range of knowledge. In the pre-Qin era when Confucius lived, we did not have computers, the Internet, such advanced information, and various forms of media like we do today. What should people at that time do if they wanted to broadcast TV and audio? The simplest way is to make a good friend who is well-informed and let the books he reads turn those indirect experiences into your direct experience. When you feel hesitant and difficult to make a decision on some issues, you might as well go to a friend. Maybe his extensive knowledge can help you make a choice. Making a knowledgeable friend is like having a thick encyclopedia dictionary. We can always get useful lessons from his experience. The three beneficial friends in The Analects are upright friends, honest friends, and knowledgeable friends. "He who loses three friends", what kind of people are they? Confucius said that there are three kinds of bad friends, namely those who are friendly when they are friends, those who are friendly and soft, and those who are friendly when they are sycophants. These three are "destructive" and must not be made. Youbipi: This kind of friend refers to a person who likes to flatter and flatter others. We often meet such people in life. Whatever you say, he will say "that's wonderful"; whatever you do, he will say "that's great". He will never say "no" to you. Instead, he will follow your thoughts and words, praise you and praise you. This kind of person is particularly good at observing words and expressions, adapting to the situation, and carefully understanding your mood to avoid going against your will. "Friendly" is exactly the opposite of "Friendly". This kind of person has no integrity and no principles of right and wrong. Their principle is to make you happy in order to benefit from it.

As the saying goes, "A friend in need is a friend indeed". In the most difficult times, those who can maintain their original intention of supporting and supporting are the true friends. Make friends with sincerity. When getting along with friends, we should pay attention to each other's understanding, honesty, and sincerity. It is real when both parties interact with each other with real words and real feelings, put aside the interests and have a brotherly friendship, know and cherish each other, care for each other, and support each other. For example, Tian Guang, a hermit during the Warring States Period, recommended Jing Ke to help Prince Dan of Yan assassinate the King of Qin, but even cut his throat to keep the secret. Tian Guang's loyalty can be described as sincere. Make friends with knowledge. People who are knowledgeable or have professional knowledge will be favored by friends. Similarly, if you want to make friends with connotation, you must first enrich your own connotation; people who know how to absorb new knowledge at any time can easily open up their intelligence, and will also attract many well-informed people to their side. The relationship between Liu Yuxi and Liu Yuxi is that "there are famous scholars who talk and laugh, and there are no white men when coming and going. They can tune the plain qin and read the golden scriptures." Making friends with the Tao "the virtues and fragrances of the Tao spread thousands of miles." There is no one who is not a moral person or a cultivated person. Joy, no matter far or near, everyone will rush to get close to you. People who associate with him will also rely on his self-encouragement and be promoted. This is the so-called "Associate with good friends, enter the room of Zhilan, and if you don't smell their fragrance for a long time, they will melt with them." The Doctrine of the Mean says: "Treat others with sincerity, touch others with virtue, and treat others with kindness. This is the way of being straightforward." Treat friends with sincerity and truth, treat each other with courtesy and respect, get along with each other with calmness, and encourage each other to learn. Taoism is the principle of making friends, so there are four ways to make friends: First, make friends with virtue, and be patient in times of adversity; Second, make friends with sincerity, and show sincerity; Third, make friends with knowledge, and be knowledgeable. Broad; Fourth, make friends with the Tao, and enjoy the Dharma and happiness. Confucius's way of making friends: First, have similar interests - Confucius said, "There is no one who is inferior to yourself." Second, treat each other sincerely. You must be sincere when making friends. The so-called "advice and good guidance" --- "stop if you can't, and don't humiliate yourself." Thirdly, when choosing a friend, you must be of a moderate nature, which means that both words and deeds are appropriate - "If you don't have the middle of the road, you will be crazy and arrogant. The arrogant person will be aggressive, and the arrogant person will not do something." --You can do something by not doing anything (choice) Confucius said that in ancient times, there were friends who benefited three times and lost three things. Friends who are straightforward, forgiving, and well-informed are beneficial; friends who are friendly, gentle, and sycophants are disadvantageous. Confucius told us that to make friends, we should make friends who are upright (Youzhi), friends who are open-minded (Youliang), and friends who are knowledgeable (Youduowen). Don’t make friends who are bad-tempered (youbianpi), indecisive (friendly and soft), or have evil intentions (youbianyi). Everyone will encounter different difficulties in the journey of life. At this time, if you make friends Finding good friends will help you a lot. Sometimes a word or a piece of advice from a friend can save you ten years of studying and avoid many detours. Life is like a storm, unpredictable and unpredictable, so people There are always good times and bad things. At this time, at this time, if you have a friend to give you guidance or support, you will turn misfortunes into blessings. If you have troubles and sorrows, finding a friend to talk to will alleviate these troubles. Of course, There are many kinds of friends, including friends with friends, friends with fair meals, and those who meet by chance and don’t understand each other are not friends. There is a saying that a friend in need is a friend indeed. At this time, the authenticity of a friend can be reflected, and those so-called friends will Reveal your original ugly and selfish nature and leave you, and your true friends will ask you if you need help. In real life, many people like to play tricks on their friends and like to take advantage of their friends. They think that friends are not to rely on, but to use. Their mentality makes them selfish and profit-seeking. In some shopping malls Most of the books are about teaching you how to be a scheming person and how to play with your brains. All this leads to deception and intrigue between people in this society. These people have this kind of psychological tendency deep in their hearts. , so they can easily absorb it after seeing this book. They don’t know what the concept of friends is.

If there is no tolerance and tolerance, no matter how good friends are, they will not be able to stay together for a long time. Fourth, talk about secrets - in addition to helping each other at work, good friends should especially be able to share some of their innermost secrets, such as in life and life. Or financial, emotional, or career secrets can be discussed and shared with friends. Fifth, don't expose each other's faults - a good friend can advise and encourage, but cannot publicize his faults. If you publicize his faults and embarrass him, you are not a good friend. Sixth, be reluctant to let go of suffering - when your friends encounter difficulties, pain, or disasters, you cannot abandon them; you cannot abandon your friends just because they are temporarily depressed. Such snobbish people will also be criticized by your friends in the future. Disdained. Seventh, don’t despise poverty and lowliness - Of course you are happy to be with friends when they are prosperous and wealthy, but you cannot despise them if they are poor, frustrated, or suffering. Being able to be able to be poor and lowly without taking them lightly is the real way to see people in adversity. truth. Therefore, when making friends, the most important thing is to help each other. To help each other, your friends will give back as much as you can give. [Edit this paragraph] Online dating Online dating is one of the basic Internet applications that has been widely proposed in the early days of Internet application. High-end dating agencies such as "Qingyuan Tianxia" are also called dating. Most websites rely on online dating functions to gain traffic and increase user stickiness. With the development of more application functions, the service forms of online dating are becoming more and more abundant, and the methods of online dating have become more specific and targeted. CCW Research believes that online dating services have gone through three stages in the past development: The first stage was the services with actual online dating functions provided by instant messaging, portals, forums and community websites in the early days of Internet applications. , during this period, online dating was not clearly proposed, and meeting friends through the Internet was not very popular. Online dating was just an additional function when netizens used Internet services; in the second stage, professional online dating websites entered the lives of netizens. Netizens visit such websites with a clear purpose of making friends. However, the online dating websites of this period did not provide many dating functions. They only provided queries for unknown netizens in the basic membership database. Online dating sites of this period also received a lot of criticism in society due to some unhealthy factors. ; In the third stage, with the improvement of network application technology, the application functions of online dating are becoming more and more abundant. Websites such as instant messaging, portal websites, and professional dating have timely proposed targeted dating service models, such as online dating, business circles, etc. Make friends, enjoy making friends, etc. The scale of online dating in China will exceed 100 million. With the rapid development of Internet users, Chinese online dating users have also grown rapidly. Online dating has become an important part of the Internet life of Chinese netizens. In 2005, the number of people making online friends in China reached 46.3 million, achieving a growth rate of 41.2%. It is expected that the number will continue to maintain a growth rate of over 40% in 2006, reaching 65.2 million people. By 2008, the number of online friends in China will exceed 100 million. Nowadays, the more popular ones on the Internet include QQ chat and dating, blog dating, forum dating, chat room dating, and professional dating websites. [Edit this paragraph] Making friends in the same city With the development of the times, there are more and more ways to make friends. Such as; online dating, mobile dating, instant messaging, website dating, community dating, same-city dating, etc. Among them, the most widespread and recognized one is making friends in the same city. Dating in the same city first originated from the Internet, and what kind of website provides user information. Provide a free self-presentation area for users in different regions and cities to make friends with strangers. There are many forms of expression, such as blogs, spaces, photos, sharing mood diaries, group shopping, and group travel, etc. These behaviors have made making friends in the same city newly popular. With the development of the local dating industry, some high-tech dating methods have also emerged. For example, launched by China Mobile, Fetion Weiyuan is a platform for making friends and interacting based on city map positioning.

[Edit this paragraph] Quote: Tips for making friends: 1. Be sincerely interested in others; 2. Always give others a knowing smile; 3. Be a good listener, not a "speaker"; 4. Talk about what others are interested in 5. Always make the other party feel important; 6. Avoid direct quarrels with the other party; 7. Don’t always appear to be smarter than others; 8. Be brave enough to admit mistakes; 9. Consider problems from the perspective of others; 10. Always be compassionate; 11. Make interactions with each other as interesting as possible; 12. Compete with a positive attitude. This is summarized by the famous American psychologist Dale Carnegie. Tips for making friends with introverts: First, interacting with strangers. Many friends are embarrassed when they meet strangers for the first time. What is the reason? They are embarrassed to speak, for fear of saying something not so nice that will affect others’ perception of them. First impression, of course, shyness is also an aspect. So there was nothing to say to each other, and after we finally left, we didn't know anything other than being familiar with each other. So how do you start speaking? What topic should I look for so that I don’t look too...? The answer is: interactive games. For example: ask him/her to do you a small favor that he/she can do; for example: everyone is drinking drinks, you can tell him/her that your drink lid cannot be opened and you need his help, and wait until he/she has finished helping you. You can sincerely praise or thank him/her, and remember to be sincere. Maybe you think it's rude to ask others to help you when you first meet them. If you think so, you're wrong. When you want to date him, he is actually looking forward to dating you. The purpose is of course the same as yours. When you ask him/her for help, everyone interacts. When you praise or thank him/her, he/she will feel a sense of accomplishment. The happier a person is, the less defensive he/she will be. There are many ways to interact, such as asking him a question. Second, take your relationship to the next level. Now that you have started talking to a stranger, please look carefully: Under the principle that you feel that he is worthy of further communication. Please keep in mind that it must be worth dating, and you can go one step further and become friends with him. As long as you use every method I teach, there will be absolutely no problem with this one, but you must promise not to tell anyone else first. People, then I will reveal it to you. Please read below in one minute. You must have sworn it, just treat it as you have done it; in fact, the secret is: reveal some little secrets about you to him; it is that simple and absolutely effective. As for why, you may have figured it out yourself, and - Qian Don't tell anyone. Third, maintain the relationship between good friends. If everyone can reveal secrets to each other, I think you should at least be considered good friends. The relationship between friends needs to be maintained. If it is not done well, it will become another Strangers or enemies, so this stage is really important. And I've made this mistake before. What is most needed at this time, please remember is the most important thing, is - your sincere relationship, and if you are truly dating a friend, you must think about him, and never criticize him in a harsh tone, or make jokes or discriminate against him, because he really He really cares about your opinion, his best friend. You must support him and support him. If he makes a mistake, you must use your heart to persuade and comfort him, because at this time he is already very sad. If you are friends of the opposite sex, you may have unusual feelings. If the gap between you is really too big, then you must not cross the line. Don't try to take her/him into your arms. You have to understand that for the same thing, the harm caused by a best friend is hundreds of times greater than the harm caused by an ordinary person. You can try it and see, it should be helpful to you!

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