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Because I am busy and tired, I often stay in front of the computer to make plans or type out articles. More than once, a friend used to examine aliens. He stared at me with a strange look and said in great surprise: "Oh my god, I've never seen you go out to play with your friends. Won't you get sick if you trap yourself in a cage every day? Be careful, you're autistic. Even Neither did friends. ?

I really can’t laugh or cry about this, and it’s very confusing to me. Who said that if you like to be alone, you won’t have friends?

I once read an article on the Internet. There is a sentence in the article that is very heartfelt, saying: Between friends, the simpler, the better. If you need anything, just contact them. It’s okay. Everyone is busy with their own affairs. ?

I think this is a very good attitude towards making friends nowadays. In an increasingly busy and even anxious life, time is divided into countless places, and even reading has become popular and fragmented. Way, time is really scarce like a rare treasure.

When you are tired, perhaps what you are more willing to do is to read a book or take a long nap, and use your alone time to recuperate your body and mind, instead of having friends and running around , and even stayed up all night drinking and partying.

2.

I have a good friend L who I have been with since junior high school but have not seen each other for many years. When we were still in school, we went to class and after class together every day, ate together, and had dinner together on weekends. We drove together to play together, went shopping and bought clothes, and also gave each other advice. We were like what people call "good friends" in the world. It was so good.

Later, due to learning differences, we had to go our separate ways, resulting in no contact for a period of time.

But when we found each other from our busy lives, there was no blame, no stranger, we still inquired about each other and talked without barriers as before.

One day L called and asked where I was. I said I was in Guangzhou. He said with some joy: "I have also come to Guangzhou and am ready to settle down in Guangzhou. I rented a room some time ago." The shop is currently being renovated and will be opened in a few days. Come and sit down then. I said without hesitation: "No problem!", and my heart was filled with joy and excitement.

After chatting like this for several hours, when he was about to hang up, he added: "Write me a calligraphy work when you have time. Jing and Ren will write it separately. If it's big enough, I can hang it up." So, I said with some shame: "Okay, but I haven't practiced calligraphy for a long time. When I'm free, I'll go practice and chat for a while before hanging up the phone." No matter what happens next, this kind of friendship with no politeness and mutual trust fills the heart with stability and reality.

When I first graduated and started working, a college roommate I hadn’t contacted for a long time lost some money because of his brother’s stock trading, and his life was in trouble, so he resorted to borrowing money from his network of contacts to make ends meet. Of course, they also called me and asked me how much I could have, and said I would give it to you when my salary came down. Because I was a close friend in college, I said I would try my best, and then I gave 5,000 of whatever I could afford at the time. Yuan turned around.

Of course he was as excited as if he had found a life-saving straw. There were probably only a few friends who provided help. Afterwards, he sent a message to Moments with emotion: "Thank you for helping me in this situation." When I was in embarrassment, he helped me without saying a word. If I had time to go out to eat, I would treat him!?

I left a sentence at the end: Then you have to work hard to save money. Next time When we meet, I want to order the most expensive Buddha Jumps Over the Wall!?

A month later, he gratefully returned all the loans and treated him to a feast. Who says you don’t have friends if you like to be alone? A true friend is one who has you in his heart even if he rarely meets in person. Especially when he has achieved something, he can think of you and share the achievements with you, or when you have difficulties. When the time comes, I can do my best to help you.

3.

Mr. Zhu Guangqian wrote a passage in "Talk about Making Friends". I personally like it very much. In my opinion, this passage can also be used as a way for me to express my feelings towards my friends. A generalization of the word. He said: "Everyone knows that having true good friends is a joy in life." Human beings are social animals. They are born with compassion and need compassion by nature. When reading a good poem or looking at a beautiful scenery, there is no one around to tell him: "This is so good!" I feel that there is something wrong with it.

When you encounter a big happy event and no one shares your joy, your joy will be reduced by seventy or eight points; when you encounter a big disaster and no one is sad with you, your sorrow will increase by seventy or eight points; a lonely person People can't sing, tell jokes, play ball, dance, quarrel, in short, they can't do anything happy. ?

Fortunately, I would like to thank the old man for writing such a paragraph, which I can use as my declaration of making friends.

When I think about my circle of friends, it has indeed become less and less from being numerous and miscellaneous in the past. I used to think that having many friends is an interpersonal asset. The key is that I was influenced by those old sayings. What? Having more friends makes life easier?, Relying on parents at home and friends when going out? Wait, think about it now, in this era, your down-to-earth efforts are the real assets.

Fortunately, among the few remaining friends, they are becoming more and more important. Because they have me in their hearts, and I have him in my heart. There is a mysterious tacit relationship between them.

4.

Some people may ask, do you mean that real good friends must maintain this kind of relationship? No.

Of course I do not advocate working behind closed doors, self-imposed isolation, and relying on this kind of relationship to maintain the distance between friends. So what I want to emphasize here is that some friendships still have to be maintained with necessary connections, because everyone has different understanding and views of friendship. And more communication will be a great promotion to the enrichment of the soul and the exchange of ideas.

Thinking of the past few years, I have also attended some friends’ gatherings one after another. Some of them happened to be passing by on a business trip and I met them by the way. Some of them were because I came back from abroad to catch up with others, and some of them were just because Everyone celebrates success in the exam, some of which are due to occasional meetings or birthday parties, etc.

I tried my best to attend these gatherings. In my opinion, communication is a kind of fun. The fun in it is certainly not selfish for finding "writing tips". I am just happy to find the feeling of mutual recognition, mutual love and help, mutual tolerance and understanding between friendships that are so close that there is no barrier. Listen to their respective life trajectories, what they are busy with, what they saw and heard when they were separated from me for a long time, and even some complaints and dissatisfaction.

The greatest joy of communication is that you can get new gains from face-to-face communication with each other.

For example, your male friends will give you some career advice and love experiences. You can also talk about your favorite sports stars, your vision and development in life, and you may also be able to discover business experience that is not usually available. Collaboration, etc., and you may not be able to get these touches even after ten years of reading.

Female friends will pay more attention to life and emotions, and provide you with their own food experiences or travel strategies. They may also be able to help you find a partner, or tell you which old classmate in your class got married. , what kind of happiness you have found, you can always find a bit of motivation in it. You must work hard to get out of singles this year.

You see, I don’t necessarily become boring just because I am alone. I am even so boring that I don’t even have friends.

However, among the many parties and fun, it is necessary to remind you that the outside world is so big and there are so many friends. Even if you spend your whole life, you may not be able to dig out the tip of the iceberg, even if you dig out your own heart. You may not get real good friends either. It is not necessarily a bad thing to retreat to advance and let the restless mind gain new nutrients in solitude.

5.

Zhou Guoping once said: There is great happiness in loneliness, and there is also great happiness in communication. Both belong to the soul. A soul discovers, appreciates, and enjoys the wealth it possesses. This is the joy of loneliness. If this wealth is also discovered by another soul, there will be the joy of communication. Therefore, the premise is the wealth of the soul. ?

It can be seen that communication and loneliness are two equally important things. They are related to each other and are not contradictory. However, to enrich your soul, you must practice solitude as a prerequisite. Only then can you have the great happiness of communication.

As for the so-called saying that if you like to be alone, you have no friends, this is simply untenable. Because being alone is a state of self-examination and recuperation, while being with friends is a form of mutually influencing communication. Both are beautiful enough.