The Spring Festival is approaching. What makes people feel sad is not only that they have grown a year older, but also have to face the forced marriage greetings from their parents, seven aunts and eight aunts.

Although I am nearly 30 years old and still not single, I have made friends through various channels and accumulated a lot of practical experience in blind dates in the past few years.

In addition to the traditional personal acquaintance, introductions from relatives and elders at home, and introductions from colleagues and friends. In the Internet era, I would like to introduce you to several new dating channels and some precautions.

Advantages: Generally, there are hundreds of people in an event. You can focus on face-to-face communication with the boys you think you like, select the ones you like, and exchange contact information. If you can participate in some relatively high-end activities, generally the work background and qualifications of boys are good, but how to form subsequent effective relationships requires that girls' own soft and hard skills match.

Disadvantages:

1) This type of activity is generally highly purposeful and utilitarian.

Family background, income, age, etc. are all laid out nakedly on the table, just like a transaction. Like that kind of blind date meeting for rich people.

2) It is definitely a huge test for appearance and figure.

I once participated in an 8-minute friendship activity. Each table was rotated, 3 to 3. Each time we chatted for about 8 minutes, and then the boys got up and changed tables. The two sides basically just exchanged a few words of greeting, and then another group of people might change. Then I have to cheer up again, smile sweetly to deal with the next wave of people, and feel very tired saying the same words. Some people don't want to talk anymore, either playing on their mobile phones or leaving midway. Basically, the key to whether a boy is willing to ask you for your contact information is appearance, body shape, and age. To be more realistic, when girls participate in such activities, their external impression does come first.

3) The cost investment is relatively large.

This type of activity generally costs more than 100 yuan per person per time. Frequent attendance is also a test for some girls’ financial ability. The effect is uncontrollable, and it is necessary to prevent some activities from arranging some caretakers. Enliven the scene atmosphere.

4) It is difficult to maintain subsequent relationships

Many boys ask girls for contact information, which is more casual or asks for many people. When they go back, they are no longer able to find the right one. They cast a wide net. , so we would often chat and nothing would come to an end.

My personal suggestion is that when participating in this kind of dating activities, girls should first have a calm mind. The key is to give themselves more ways to get to know people. You can participate in some relatively pure dating activities, such as organizing male and female friends. Take short trips, cook together, play sports, sing, play board games, etc. What you gain is not necessarily love, but you can also get to know more like-minded friends.

Girls who are interested in using such channels can follow city dating, Douban City, Weibo dating, some local singles club public accounts, Shanghai’s Yuyou Dating, I Era, Shanghai’s post-80s dating group In this category, Metro Times often publishes some dating groups, which you can add and follow. In addition, you can also join some clubs based on your own interests. For example, because I like outdoor hiking, I joined an outdoor sports club group. There are also boys who come to meet and have dinner. Therefore, the key is that if you go out and let people know you, fate may come unexpectedly.

Advantages: There are many resources and wide distribution. You can search according to your mate preferences and locate and send messages.

The annual fee is generally 200-300 yuan, and you can send and receive unlimited letters. The results are relatively quick, and if you feel the conversation is good, you can make an appointment to meet. If you feel it is inappropriate, politely refuse.

Disadvantages: Low security, beware of scammers.

?In fact, this is the most critical point, how to identify whether the other party is reliable.

1) Determine from the information registered on the website

For example, whether the other party has verified his/her real name: ID card, mobile phone, Sesame Credit, etc.

? Whether he has purchased a membership: Buy Those who have become members are generally more sincere and want to seriously find a partner

? Do you have photos? If there are no photos, just PASS. If there are photos, do you wear sunglasses, deliberately hide your face, or are funny? mainstream. This is to prevent some men who already have families or girlfriends from wanting to be evil and come out to have sex. However, they are not brave enough and are afraid of being discovered, so their faces are often blurred in photos.

You can pay special attention to whether the information is filled in completely and if there are any serious personal monologues. If the information is exaggerated or contradictory, you need to be cautious.

For example, he is young, has a high income, has a house and a car with no mortgage, and looks handsome in photos. Such people have long been robbed in reality, and they still need to go online. Even if they are real, they are mostly looking for one-night stands. Of course, it is not ruled out that some may really expand the channels and search online. You might as well add QQ to chat first to see if the three views and conversation are reliable. Another way is to Baidu his contact information, name and other information to see See if there are any bad records left.

Previously, a boy from Baidu told me that he was engaged in finance and earned millions a year. However, the information from Du Niang was that he posted some information on major websites as an intermediary, or sold some comparison products. low product information. There are also some boys who register for one-night stand websites or leave their contact information YP on some forums.

2) Things to pay attention to when making an appointment

When making an appointment, the key is to pay attention to details, such as whether the speech and behavior are consistent with the relevant information he filled in. You can guide him through some topics to see what he wants. Is there any conflict between what you said and what you said before?

When making an appointment, it is best to make an appointment during the day or during dinner time, and it must be in a shopping mall or a place with a large flow of people.

In addition, when going to a more formal restaurant, do not leave your seat casually in the middle. If you go to the bathroom, try not to drink the rest of the drink when you come back

After eating, go home by yourself and don’t hitchhike with boys to avoid them having bad intentions or exposing your home address

3) Things to note in daily interactions

If you think it is good, you can strengthen communication and understanding, verify his work and family information through some topics or participate in his friends’ activities, and get to know him through getting along with him. Conduct yourself and the quality of your circle of friends.

Finally, do not have sex easily. It is not ruled out that some boys are of higher rank and know how to get along with girls. However, what these people cannot afford most is the cost of time. His gentleness and consideration are the ultimate goal. If you want to trick some girls into sleeping with you, these people will give up very quickly if they think you are hard to get.

As a dating website with the banner of marriage and love, the dating website is also a major channel for many otakus and otakus with small social circles to make friends.

Girls, don’t be afraid. There may be scammers out there, but there are also many reliable technical and engineering men who are not good at getting along with girls. The key is how to identify yourself. As long as you insist that you don’t rely on boys to change the rest of your life. The vanity idea, in fact, the probability of being deceived is really not high.

Many girls who have been cheated in news reports are actually confused by the boys’ glamorous halo, identity, and loss of reason. Without verification, they basically think that they have found a golden son-in-law and will have no worries for the rest of their lives. , which creates a mentality of pleasing and fear of losing.

Some larger IT companies have internal BBS communication forums.

You can sort out your information about your dating needs and mate selection requirements, and send it to friends who work in companies such as BAT, Huawei, JD.com, etc., and ask them to help publish it.

I once asked a friend who works at Huawei to help publish it, and I received hundreds of WeChat friend additions in one night.

Advantages: It is a well-known large company, relatively knowledgeable, and has channels to understand the conduct of boys.

The income is high, and most IT men are more technical nerds and don’t put much thought into it, so they are suitable candidates to be husbands

Disadvantages:

1) Too much work I am too busy to take care of my other half;

I once contacted a boy from Huawei who often worked all night when the project was busy. When I sent the message, it was already 3 days after working overtime. In order to meet the communication peak of Christmas and New Year's Day, test data of working overtime .

I have also met Ali men who work overtime and don’t go home until at least 9 o’clock.

2) Technical men generally don’t pay much attention to appearance. They may be relatively unsophisticated or not good-looking. In addition, they are under high work pressure and have an obvious tendency to go bald. It is a bit difficult to accept some girls who control their appearance.

I once waited for someone at a well-known Internet company during peak hours and counted the flow of people passing by at the gate. Considering that there are nearly 20,000 people working in this company, the number of handsome guys I saw in those 10 minutes could only be counted on my fingers. Countable.

The method of connecting with these IT guys through friends is highly recommended. The boys in these companies are all very popular now, but they just suffer from the lack of opportunities to communicate with the outside world.

I have met a few boys, and I feel that they are all more sincere people. They may not know much about romance and fun, but if you are more patient and tolerant and willing to train each other, I believe that these boys will It's a very good candidate.

The end of the year is approaching, single girls give it a try, the key is action, BE POSITIVE

Fate will not come if you stay at home .

To paraphrase Mr. Cat’s words, if you don’t do it, you won’t get it~~! !