People need friends no matter how old they are. Because in our life, we will face many turning points and low tides. If you have friends who can really share your happiness and hardships, and friends who really know you and care about you to encourage and support you, it will be easier to overcome the immediate difficulties.
No wonder some people say that "reliable friendship is the warmest coat in this life." Imagine if you not only have extraordinary talent, but also have many good friends around you. When you are happy, they share with you. When you are sad, they will share with you.
They congratulate you when you make progress; When you do something wrong, they give you advice and suggestions. In such an environment, everyone makes progress and grows together.
Good friends are great wealth in the journey of life. Everyone needs friends, especially children.
For children, the nourishment of friendship is absolutely indispensable. If it is less, children are prone to some emotional disorders.
For example, unwilling to associate with others, withdrawn, indifferent, suspicious and sentimental. Parents should encourage their children to make more friends. For example, welcome children's friends to visit their homes and warmly receive these small guests;
Another example is to be interested in children's friends and guide children to talk about things in their contacts with friends; Talk about the advantages of friends, tell children never to bite the shortcomings of others every day, and so on. On the contrary, they will not be able to get along well with their friends, and their ability and personality to communicate with others will be inferior to others.
On the issue of children making friends, many parents are always willing to let their children find people with the same feelings, interests and even gender.
This has great limitations, because children will contact all kinds of people when they go to society in the future. If children don't get along with all kinds of people since childhood, they will not be able to adapt to social life well in the future.
It seems natural for children to make friends, but it often takes practice for children to make friends correctly.
Moreover, although it used to be thought that children would not begin to develop real friendship until they were at school age, current research shows that children can develop intimate relationships as early as 1 year old.
When children reach the age of 3-4, it is very important for them to establish such close relationship, which will make children feel comfortable in the first few years of school, which they need very much.
Therefore, it is not surprising that most families now have a mark on the desk calendar of the day when children invite friends to play together.
Nowadays, "interpersonal skills" has been listed as one of the basic IQ of children. So, how should parents cultivate their children's communication skills?
First, create a good family communication environment.
We should create a democratic, equal, cordial and harmonious communication atmosphere in the family. Parents-centered and children-centered families are not desirable. Parents should be friends with their children, and let them dare to speak, love to speak and have the opportunity to speak.
Children should be made aware of the big and small things at home, and they can understand. Appropriately involving children in some adults' discussions is conducive to establishing children's self-confidence and letting children dare to associate with adults.
Listen to children's opinions and see what they think about some problems about children in the family. Don't just let parents have the final say.
Second, provide more communication opportunities.
Parents should properly bring their children into their social circle, let them visit friends outside and play with them, and should also allow their children to invite friends to their homes.
Parents can instruct their children how to play with their peers. For example, when a family buys a new toy, parents can remind their children to invite their neighbors' children to play with them.
When other children come to play, parents should say welcome words to dispel his fears and ask the children to give him delicious and fun things to play with.
Let children have enough time to interact with children and experience the fun of interacting with peers.
Third, teach children communication skills.
In order to help children become popular among peers and get happiness in communication, parents should consciously give their children some communication skills.
Fourth, get close to your neighbors.
If you just moved to a new community and want to help your children make friends here, then one of the best things you can do is to take your children for a walk in your community.
And it's more helpful to stop and talk to parents about your child's age while walking.
Once you get to know these parents nearby, pay attention to what kind of activities the children in the neighborhood are taking part in, such as swimming or attending preschool, and then you can let your children take part in the same activities and try to arrange to share a car with your neighbors to pick them up.
Fifth, learn to make friends.
Many bookstores and libraries provide reading and leisure areas, which is a good way for children to make friends and meet their parents.
Remember, once you start taking your children to such activities at a fixed time, you are likely to meet the same people often, so you can take the initiative to start talking with others and leave their phone numbers.
In addition, joining clubs, learning new skills and going to parks will increase children's chances of meeting new friends.
Let children learn to make friends and cherish every friendship, which will become the most precious wealth in their lives.
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