In recent years, online dating has become more and more popular, and many people ask us to write a commandment about online dating, so we feel it necessary to write a chapter on it separately.

So, what do we think of online dating? To tell the truth, if you can't date a man in other ways, we still encourage you to try, but we also find that the relationships established by online dating usually have no results. At best, women and men become heterosexual friends or pen pals, not husband and wife.

The main problem about online dating is that this relationship is based on chatting, not face-to-face physical attraction, which is exactly what the precepts require.

in addition, online dating can be quite dangerous. You must have read the article about women being raped or killed by netizens. In fact, no matter how handsome, funny or sincere the man you chat with online looks, everything you know about him is just his word. He may be a psycho, a rapist, a murderer, a teenager having fun online or a married man, which you have no idea!

of course, we understand why some women choose to make friends online instead of going to singles venues. They are tired of meeting men in bars and parties. They feel that if they are not attractive, they have no advantage in social places. In their view, ideas, outstanding personality or witty language skills are more likely to attract men than looks. Chatting on the internet, even if they are naked and wearing fat sweatpants, is not bad.

We can understand that they think so, but we don't think it can achieve the effect of face-to-face communication. The most wonderful relationships begin with physical reactions. Online dating is just based on chatting. We know some women who talk for months before meeting their online lovers. But in the end, it can be very few. He calls you a soul mate and thinks that you can understand his deepest thoughts and dreams, but then he will marry a woman who really attracts him!

However, if you decide to meet online friends, we suggest that you follow the precepts as much as possible, so that you will neither waste your time on men who will never marry you, nor put yourself in danger. Suggestions are as follows:

1. Once he shows interest in you, leave a message for your dating advertisement or chat with you in a chat room, then tell him that you want to exchange photos with him by email. If you are not interested in his photos, there is no point in talking any more.

2. once he sees your photo, it's up to him to decide whether to meet or not. If he doesn't ask you to meet, it means he doesn't like your appearance, then keep looking! If he lives in another city, he should come to see you in your city. Don't go to see him. (See the commandment about long-distance love. As far as we know, some women fly to meet their male net friends who have been chatting with her for weeks or months. Girls who follow the precepts should let boys meet them! If he comes to see you by plane or by car, you have to meet him in a public place. You can't tell him where you live!

we must emphasize the importance of safety. As far as we know, some women risk their lives and let male netizens go to their homes when they meet for the first time or the second time. It's too dangerous. In addition, tell your friends or relatives about the date, time, place, who to meet and what to do so that they can know your whereabouts.

3. Don't have a heart-to-heart chat with men online, or get too bored with the relationship. Many women think that the precepts don't apply to online dating. You should keep a little mysterious, don't reveal your heart too early and tell each other everything.

They feel that if they don't tell the stranger something about themselves as soon as possible, they can't get to know him better. They feel that it has nothing to do with their own little thoughts, or their past love affairs, and their thoughts of hate and marriage. If he lives in another city and they can't see each other often, it's understandable to send more emails.

don't deceive yourself. Sending an email is no different from calling, writing letters or sending postcards. We should not take the initiative to call men, write letters or send postcards to them, and don't send emails too often.

whether it's online dating or face-to-face dating, men are men after all. Even if women send them emails all day, and those emails are full of true feelings, they keep saying that these are what they want, but they will never fall in love with or marry such women. They may tell you that they like women who are sincere, cheerful, serious and committed to their feelings. That is to say, if they get married seriously, they tend to stare at attractive, unpredictable and challenging women and like to read their emails. A concise email is the best.

if you talk to him on the computer, what is the challenge for him? If you lie in front of the computer all day and talk to him ten times a day, what's the point of your life? Let him get into the habit of sending you emails, saying some tidbits that you are interested in in every day, and it doesn't matter whether you reply or not. Please remember: whether you make friends online or meet and date, you are different and worthy of being chased by a man, so let him chase you. Girls' love skills: the precepts of dating in college

Girls' love skills: the precepts of dating in college

If you are going to step into college soon, we hope to help you avoid detours and heartache in these four years. The following seven mistakes can't be made. Now, the precepts should be part of your curriculum.

1. Don't check his schedule, or walk around him all day on campus, hoping that he will finally notice you. Don't bother unless you want to exercise. Either he will notice you or he will never notice you.

2. Don't always go in and out of restaurants, eat back and forth in three restaurants, hoping to meet him from 4: 3 pm to 8: pm, which will only make your weight soar by 2 pounds in the end. Do you really want to waste all the good times in college on going to the restaurant and wondering when he will come and leave? )

3. Don't send your best friend to ask his best friend to find out whether he is interested in you or not. Maybe he doesn't even know who you are. Don't try to be good friends with his buddies or the girl who lives on the same floor with him, or befriend his acquaintances: (Don't waste your time. No one can make him like you, not even his best friend. )

4. Don't find his favorite album or CD to play all day long, and don't wear a T-shirt with the design of grateful dead band, even though it is his favorite rock band. Strangely, girls always like to wear clothes that boys like, such as sportswear or even sloppy clothes, thinking that this will attract boys. However, it is often the girls who wear cute jeans and fashionable T-shirts that make boys feel heartbroken. According to the precepts, the purpose of dressing for girls is not to copy boys, but to attract them.

5. Don't be a cheerleader or a sports fan just because he is on the football team. The same is true for the habit of smoking and drinking. Don't follow suit just because he does it. Many girls we know only drink mineral water when dating boys. Although those boys smoke and drink, they still get married. As for personal habits, you just follow your habits.

6. If he is a literary idiot, don't help him write a paper about Shakespeare or copy his homework just to get him to associate with you. Whether he wants to date you or not is another matter. You can't mix the two things together.

7. Don't be stupid about safety! In recent days, rape on a date has occurred frequently in universities. You should be careful. You'd rather stay in the lounge or library and read books than go to his dormitory or off-campus apartment to study alone with him.

tell your friends when you go out, so that they can find you. Girls who follow the precepts will not take risks. Don't take this matter lightly!

Now that you know what not to do, what should you do to attract boys on campus?

1. study hard! Anyway, the purpose of your going to college is to study! Having a smart brain is fascinating in itself. 12. Limit your diet. Even if your friends go to the cafeteria to eat and drink, or order pizza in the middle of the night, you must resist the temptation. We suggest that you eat some fruit for supper when you are hungry in the middle of the night. When attending a pizza party, you should tell yourself that if you eat any more, your jeans will not fit tomorrow. Remember: being overweight is against the precepts.

3. put on some light makeup. Read more Glamour magazine or other fashion magazines.

4. Take part in some extracurricular activities, and it is best to join a club you are interested in, where you can naturally meet some boys.

5. Don't just sit in the room on Friday or Saturday night, read some books by the philosopher Jean Paul Sartre. Weekend nights are for going out to make friends. You can read Sartre's book on Monday.

6. You should strive for perfection in your main courses and have a career plan. Although you are likely to know your future husband on campus, the purpose of going to college is not to be the wife of someone. You must have your own skills, for him and for yourself. Don't be a fool for falling in love!

The love commandments for college students can't guarantee that you will find a partner at the campus dance, but they will make you release your best self and be more attractive in front of the opposite sex. Girls' love skills: the commandment of giving gifts to men

Girls' love skills: the commandment of giving gifts to men

As we have explained before, don't take the initiative to pay for the first three dates.

that's not necessary at all. If a man is interested in you, he won't care about money (that is, he won't pay separately). He wants to leave a good impression on you and hope you can see him again. Making plans and paying bills are all things he should do when he pursues you.

of course, if he asks to pay separately, you can do it gladly. Your purpose is not to eat a free meal. You want him to pay for you willingly.

but we won't offer to let men pick up the bill. We noticed that he didn't pay the bill, and then we just knew it. Maybe he's not the only thrill after all.

we're not asking you to be a gold digger. It's not about how much he spent.

as long as he makes a plan in advance and pays for the date, even if he takes you to a cheap restaurant, he can take you to a movie. If a man really loves you, he will be willing to spare extra time for you and even borrow money from his parents or friends, which will leave a deep impression on you. AA system is good for friends and colleagues, but it is not suitable for dating people. You must also want to be with a man who is madly in love with you!

Some women, especially those with considerable income, always want to do something for men. We told them that in the first two or three months of their relationship, they should try not to talk to men so much on the phone, not to invite men out, and not to always think about inviting men to dinner or buying ties for men. If you get married, you can buy them anything you want!

in three months, you can cook for him or invite him to dinner.

On his birthday, or on some special festivals where gifts are to be given, we should follow the precept: Don't spend more than 5 to 1 dollars, even if you can afford it.

it is more important not to buy him a romantic gift. The following are all good gifts.

1. A book he is interested in, as long as it has nothing to do with astrology, psychotherapy, love or feelings, such as business, politics, computer books he likes to read, and novels (but not love novels).

2. A winter scarf.

3. His favorite T-shirt, sweater or hat of his favorite team.

Don't buy him:

1. Jewelry.

2. Something with letters embroidered on it.

3. Photo frame or photo album.

4. Champagne cups or household items.

5. Poetry collection.

Some women are generous. Their help to men is not only material, but also social. These women will invite men who have just dated them to accompany them to weddings, dinners, company or family gatherings, country clubs, holiday homes, business trips and vacations. We strongly recommend not to do this in the first three months of dating. If you do this, he will know that you are more devoted to this relationship than he is, and you will definitely be scared away. Moreover, when attending these activities, if he is surrounded by married couples, he is likely to be under pressure.

If you can get free tennis tickets and travel at public expense because of your work, or you can invite some people to business banquets and performances regularly, don't invite them in the first few months of your date. Take an ordinary friend, or go alone.

why?

1. If your social activities are known to him, your mystery will disappear.

2. You can't make him think that you are a cash cow. Otherwise, how do you know whether he likes you or something else? He has to love you first.

3. If a man falls in love with you, he definitely wants to be with you. If you always give him gifts and take him somewhere, he may think that you want to buy his love and feelings for you in this way. It is not a good thing that you care too much about and devote yourself to this relationship.

If women are always thinking about giving things to men, they may interfere in each other's lives too much. Of course, you can listen carefully and give him advice, but don't always think about helping him with his problems in life, family and other things. You are not his counselor or his wife (not yet). In fact, the best gift you can give a man is to follow the precepts, which will make him enjoy the thrill of pursuing you and think it is his honor to catch you. Girls' love skills: the commandment of dating celebrities, don't be a groupie

Girls' love skills: the commandment of dating celebrities, don't be a groupie

It is unlikely that you will meet celebrities or CEOs every day, but it is still possible to bump into celebrities occasionally, such as at parties, on airplanes, in company restaurants or in doctors' waiting rooms. If you don't know the commandments and don't follow them, you may miss a golden opportunity. For example, a woman we know, one