There are three main reasons why girls’ friendships are fragile. One is jealousy, the other is taking friendship too seriously, and the third is taking friendship for granted.

1. Jealousy

Jealousy among girls is pervasive, especially after two equally matched girls become friends, they will secretly compare themselves with each other, such as academic performance, appearance and figure. , popular personality, boyfriend quality, and the gap caused by one of the two making too fast progress, these will stimulate people's instinctive jealousy.

These inexplicable jealousies and jealousies cannot be brought to the table, but they do exist. My idea is that if I am the slightly better one between the two, I should put down my edge and lower my posture in front of her. , talk about your unhappiness more sincerely, and praise your good friends more.

If you are the weaker of the two, you must remain confident, pay more attention to your own strengths, and face the gap calmly. In short, no matter where you are, sincerity is the most important word.

2. Taking friendship too seriously

People who take feelings very seriously will also have higher requirements for emotional purity. For example, they require friends to be righteous, considerate, and loyal at the same time. and other advantages.

But the fact is that the higher the purity of something, the more filthy it will appear if there is a little impurity. And usually, the friendship between you and her is not that special at all, and it cannot rise to the level of loyalty. high.

If you use these "ideal friend" rules to ask your friends, you will often be disappointed in the end. Taking the relationship between friends too seriously will lead to exaggerating all unnecessary details.

Just like falling in love, the more you care, the more suspicious you become. It seems that everything she says and does has a deeper meaning. There are too many such things. It’s because you care too much, so you think about it hard, and then you become more and more suspicious. Blocked hearts eventually lead to rifts.

3. Taking friendship for granted

This is to ignore the core value of interpersonal communication: exchange. I have read a sentence that says that feelings are not eternal, but exchange of interests is. Eternal, the exchange between friends includes material exchange and emotional exchange.

Material exchange includes giving each other gifts during holidays, occasionally inviting her to dinner and coffee, etc., and material investment. Emotional exchange includes taking the initiative to chat with her, liking her in the circle of friends, sharing her life, etc. Emotionally related.

If a friend does something for you, you must remember to reciprocate; if you do something for a friend, you must remind yourself that because you are a friend, you do not ask for anything in return.

Any relationship must be managed carefully. The essence of emotional relationship lies in the exchange of needs. There is no love without reason in the world. Even with parents, if you want their love/financial support, you must In exchange for caring more and contacting more.