1. Stay away from greasy and official-speaking people.

When you are in college, there will definitely be such a person around you: someone who dresses up in a suit, tie and briefcase all day long and speaks in an official-speaking manner: "Chairman Li" Good, good, Minister Zhang." He has no skills but only licks the teacher, bullies the lower grades, and is full of snobbery and superiority when interacting with others. If you meet such a person, I advise you to stay away from him. I do not recommend you to make friends with him, let alone fall in love with him. College is a period of secondary cultivation and construction of your worldview. The kind of people you make friends with and fall in love with will often greatly affect your future behavior and social thinking. If you fall in love with such a person, he will not teach you what maturity is. Instead, he will subtly make you become mercenary and become annoying in the eyes of people around you. When you fall in love in college, you can find those of the opposite sex who are capable and help you become outstanding. But be sure not to look for people who "have no ability and only know how to put on official airs". This is the reason why people who are close to Zhu are red and those who are close to Mo are black. Note: Such people often appear in student unions with unhealthy atmosphere.

2. It is best not to choose a long-distance relationship

I just suggest that you do not choose a long-distance relationship, but if you feel that "the love for each other is really strong, at the same time And you have enough patience and a way to deal with problems." Then this long-distance relationship will also bring you growth. But the reason why I don’t recommend it is because long-distance relationships are high-risk, bring a low sense of love, short companionship time, and are also prone to cheating, deception and other vicious behaviors. After all, college is a stage where you can be quiet, not consider material things, and simply enjoy the beauty of love. If you fall in love through a screen, you have to learn to experience loneliness alone in college. You have to learn to suppress the envy in your heart, while at the same time keeping a distance from the opposite sex around you and being loyal to love. Long-distance relationships are 9 times out of 10 miserable. If both parties do not have the emotional intelligence and intelligence to be higher than their peers, then the relationship will most likely be mentally and physically draining.

3. Don’t fall in love with sluggish or negative people

While investigating the outlook on love in college, I discovered an interesting phenomenon: What kind of partner did you choose during college? , in fact, it will profoundly affect your direction in four years. If you choose a partner who is addicted to games, goes to bars all day long, and tells you that "it's okay to fail a class," then most likely your four years of college will become mediocre and you won't learn anything. But if you choose a partner who is self-disciplined and positive, can make the most of your college time, but is not boring, then the meaning of your relationship is not limited to "finding someone to accompany you", but also in each other's relationship. Encourage colleagues to grow into "better people". To be very realistic, there are many people who can accompany you to play games to the top during college, but those who can accompany and supervise you to pass CET-4 and CET-6 with all A's are truly rare. Don't find someone who only plays with you and wastes time and studies. You will eventually realize that "society's beatings are all about you repaying the debt you once owed." And those who accompany you to become excellent slowly are the ones you should really consider and choose. Similarly, you can find someone who is not particularly good, but you must not find someone who is particularly bad and lacks self-discipline. Otherwise, such a relationship will be physically and mentally exhausting, and you will have nothing if you break up.

4. Don’t fall in love with a "central air conditioner"

You can find a person who is popular and has good rapport with the opposite sex. If he is popular with most people, he must have something valuable. Where it shines. But don't fall in love with someone who recognizes you as your brother and sister everywhere. You will find that it will be wonderful to be with such a person at the beginning, but once you get tired of this kind of person, you will never be ambiguous. Don't believe such nonsense as "he and I are just good friends, and I have always regarded him as a brother/sister". To put it more bluntly, those people who are ambiguous and greet each other all the time are not called friends, but "spare tires." ". When you get tired of using the new tires, you will naturally replace them with replacement tires. Falling in love with such a person will make you unconfident, sensitive and suspicious, and you may even be deeply hurt once, and you will not dare to touch love during the whole college period.

Therefore, when you meet people with "central air conditioning", avoid them if you can, avoid them if you can, and try not to make friends if you don't have an interest relationship, otherwise you won't know whether the other person has developed you as a potential spare tire.

5. Reject mommies who live a sloppy life

When you are in college, you will encounter mommy boys who live a sloppy life, and there are also many mommy girls who also live a sloppy life. You must understand: Your relationship in college must be about mutual growth in an equal relationship, not about raising an immature son or daughter. Don't think that people who can't even take care of themselves are cute. When you fall in love with such a mother's baby, you will know how terrifying it is. "My mother said that the boyfriend I look for in college must be someone who can take good care of me." "My mother said that I can't fall in love with someone too far away from my hometown." "My mother said that I shouldn't date someone like you. "Love is not suitable for me at all." Subconsciously, these mothers have a very low sense of responsibility for their partners. They usually do not consider their partners' subjective feelings and often make demands on their partners based on themselves. At the same time, when falling in love, you will be very concerned about your mother's opinions and lack your own subjective choices and judgments. You don’t have to help a person who has not weaned his mind grow, and it is also difficult for you to change his “mom-centered” mind. In the end, it will only be a waste of effort on your part, but such a mama will never take it seriously.