Author: Insight Echo
Dogs do not consider good barking to be good, and people do not consider good words to be virtuous.
Zhou Guoping said that there are three times of growth in life:
The first is when you find that you are no longer the center of the world;
The second is when you find that no matter how hard you try, you will never be the center of the world. When you are powerless;
The third is when you accept your own ordinaryness and enjoy it.
The so-called growth is the process of constantly refreshing your knowledge and saying goodbye to your immature self in the past.
On the road of growth, only by mastering the following three keys can you be lost but not lost, and become more and more committed as you go.
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The first key: read more
I have seen this set of data:
A nation’s proportion of the global population About 0.3%, but the proportion of Nobel Prize winners is as high as 20%.
Not only that, they also won 38% of the US National Science Awards, 27% of the Turing Awards and 42% of the Neumann Awards.
After seeing this, maybe you already have the answer in your heart.
Yes, they are Jews.
Despite experiencing inhuman persecution and long periods of exile, the Jews have continued to strive for self-improvement and have achieved impressive results in many fields.
The fundamental reason is that they insist on the good habit of reading.
As the classic Jewish saying goes:
"When you are in a desperate situation and have to sell off your belongings to survive, the first thing you should sell is gold and precious stones. , land and houses.
The books you own in your home must not be sold unless absolutely necessary. ”
Many people believe that people have the greatest confidence. , comes from wealth and status.
In fact, after a person has read a lot of books, the resilience and wisdom in his blood are his strongest trump cards.
When watching "The Shawshank Redemption", what impressed me most was the protagonist Andy who was wrongly imprisoned.
Because of his strong financial management skills, he won the protection of the prison guards.
Because he could recite the Bible skillfully, he had the upper hand in negotiations with the warden.
Because he was well versed in the household registration policy, he quietly recreated an identity for himself.
Later, Andy was finally able to realize the "impossible" escape plan, especially because of his knowledge of geology and meteorology...
As Ji Xianlin said : "Reading can make you run forever and never end."
A person's growth begins with holding the key of reading.
In reading, you can exercise your way of thinking and acquire powerful underlying abilities:
You will break out of the limitations of cognition and look at problems from another perspective;
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You will continue to surpass yourself yesterday instead of stagnating;
Your life will be full of resilience, and even if you fall into the trough, you will have the confidence to fight back... ...
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The second key: speak less nonsense
I like this little story very much.
There was a young novice monk who was extremely talented, but he was arrogant and spoke without restraint, so he got into a lot of trouble.
The Zen master saw this and did not blame him.
One day, the Zen master gave the little novice a basin of tuberose and asked him to observe it.
The next day, the little novice monk excitedly said to the Zen master: "This pot of flowers is so wonderful. It blooms in the middle of the night and is stunning, but in the morning, it closes its petals."
The Zen master asked: "Then did it bother you when it bloomed at night?"
The little novice shook his head repeatedly: "From the time it bloomed to the time it closed, it never made any sound."
The Zen Master smiled and said, "Really? I thought that when the flowers bloomed, they would make a lot of noise."
After hearing what the Zen Master said, the little novice monk lowered his head in shame, and from then on No more lies.
The flowers bloom silently and the fragrance comes naturally.
Most of the truly classy people are bright but not dazzling, and keep a low profile.
The thinker Bacon said: "Implicitness and tact are more valuable than eloquence."
When Zeng Guofan was young, he also spoke freely and prided himself on being straightforward, which offended many people.
It wasn't until he almost lost his life that Zeng Guofan had an epiphany and introspection and set rules for himself:
Before going to bed every day, think about whether there was anything inappropriate in your words throughout the day.
Later, he became a man of very few words, and only wanted "stability" in everything he did.
Because of his low profile, Zeng Guofan recruited countless talented people and became a famous minister.
Zhuangzi said: "A dog does not regard a good barking as a good man, and a man does not regard a good speech as a good man."
People at low levels always speak rudely without any scruples.
The higher the level of people, the more they know but don’t say anything and see through without saying anything.
After all, speaking is instinct, being able to shut up is ability.
Only when a person can control his mouth can he keep his temper and guard his heart.
Knowing how to speak carefully is the most advanced cultivation of a person.
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The third key: make friends carefully
How important is a person’s circle?
There is an interesting answer on the Internet:
"To put it simply, when you fly with the geese, you can see the vast sky; when you sit with the pigs, you can see the vast sky. They are all greedy and lethargic."
In our lives, people are always coming and going.
The kind of person you stay with will determine the kind of life you will have.
I saw a story from a netizen.
Jingzi and the three girls who sleep with her are all preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination.
At the beginning, everyone agreed to study hard and supervise each other.
But within two weeks, the roommates began to be lazy, and they also called it: happy learning.
In the relaxed atmosphere, Jingzi also followed suit and slept until noon every day, staying up late at night to watch TV series.
If I only read for a short time every day and console myself for the exam, it won’t be a problem.
After the results of the postgraduate entrance examination were released, as expected, the entire dormitory failed.
Seeing the appalling scores, Jingzi suddenly came to her senses. She immediately decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination in World War II.
After that, Jingzi contacted several top students in school and studied with them.
New fellows are very diligent and have specific plans for every step of review.
When everyone is in the study room together, the most conversation they have with each other is to discuss topics.
In the atmosphere of self-discipline, Jingzi no longer indulges in watching dramas. She goes out early and comes back late every day, devoting herself to studying.
After receiving her postgraduate entrance examination results this year, Jingzi was admitted to her favorite prestigious school as she wished.
There is a saying from the ancients: "Choosing friends is the most important thing in life. The success or failure of your life depends on whether your friends are virtuous or not. Don't be careless."
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The rest of your life is short, and who you are with is really important.
Make friends with hard-working people, and you will be ashamed of being lazy, and you will work harder. < /p>
If you hang out with outstanding people, you will not be satisfied with mediocrity and will constantly step out of your comfort zone to cultivate yourself.
Who you meet in life is determined by fate. < /p>
But it is up to us to decide who we want to be with.
Only by choosing a circle that allows us to grow and meet better people can we meet a better self.
Luo Zhenyu once said: “Growth is the gap between your subjective world and the objective world. If you fall in, it's called setback; if you climb out, it's called growth. ”
When you are at a low point, you may as well calm down and heal yourself in the book.
When standing at a high place, remember to be cautious in your words and deeds, and behave with humility.
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When you are relaxing, remember to break out of the circle that consumes you and move forward after the light.