if you invest too much in each other, it will be difficult for you to let go. I often see in marriage that you are worried about the impact of divorce on your children, or whether you are in love and doubt whether you have really made enough efforts or are afraid and lonely.
But when a relationship deteriorates, there will always be some harm, and there is nothing to save it.
knowing when to let go is the key to reducing losses, maintaining your mental health and happiness, and moving towards a better relationship. The following four reasons indicate that it is time to give up a relationship.
I didn't see goodwill
Although chemistry and * * * are very important, after a day's fatigue, a strong relationship will always be established between the goodwill of two people. Good intentions towards each other, even though they may be wrong, will tolerate, forgive and accept each other's wrong intentions and tolerate their fidgety habits.
this is your support, appreciation, respect, dedication and commitment to each other. Goodwill and kindness will not disappear overnight, but will gradually disappear with the passage of time, and there are constant contradictions and frictions between them.
Malicious behaviors may increase, including anger, cold violence, interruption, distance, slander and lack of respect. Unfortunately, once goodwill disappears, this relationship usually has a lot of damage and it is difficult to recover.
You will feel disrespected
Respect is one of the most important aspects of any relationship. It is even better than trust, because you can't trust those who don't respect you. Even small things are important, because the way others treat you will eventually reveal their personality and true feelings for you.
There may be many forms of disrespect. You may not always recognize it completely on the surface, but you will always feel it.
this is an instinctive feeling, just like being kicked in the stomach, you will feel an uncomfortable feeling. In fact, there are many forms of disrespect, such as insulting, lying or cheating, which do not respect your partner's behavior. What they really show is how you feel and how these behaviors affect you.
if you are not sure whether someone disrespects you, or you don't realize it for a while, try telling them what kind of behavior they will make you feel and see what happens.
If this person tries to understand your point of view and change their behavior, then they will tell you that they care about you, but if they ignore you or continue to act, it will also hurt your feelings, then this performance is suitable for you and this relationship is not respected.
Despair
In most healthy interpersonal relationships, the efforts and emotional communication between two people are usually comparable. To a large extent, two people who give and receive usually feel that the other person can meet most of their needs.
when a relationship begins to decline, many of them think that they are spending a lot of energy or finishing all the work to maintain this relationship, which leads to the imbalance and disconnection of this relationship. The one who pays too much may become angry, and the one who accepts it will become more and more complacent or unscrupulous.
when you try to get others closer to you, what usually happens is that they move in the opposite direction. If you feel that you have done most of the work in this relationship recently, please step back and see what will happen. If your partner realizes and starts thinking and approaching you, the possibility of rebalancing the balance still exists.
However, if you step back, your partner will only lose his temper, or punish you more seriously (such as cold violence, slander, insult), or continue to alienate you, then you can really consider whether this relationship still exists and is worth investing.
You are like an asteroid, revolving around the sun
Although all relationships are different, two people should feel that there is room for them to grow and develop themselves in this relationship, and feel their personal dreams and longing for life.
they should feel that there is enough space for them to benefit from this relationship, and both sides have enough opportunities to meet their needs. In this regard, unbalanced relationships often revolve around only one person.
If this happens, usually one party will be satisfied with this arrangement and ask the other party to give priority to their needs, while the other party will feel resentment, anger and lack, just as they are passing on others' lives.
if you think this is your current situation, please try to create some space for yourself and tell the other person your needs. If the other person feels uneasy or unwilling to respond to your needs and feels unreasonable, then you may have to move on.
It is never easy to say goodbye, but maintaining respect and dignity is the key to your mental health. Sometimes letting go is the best thing you can do for yourself. Please note that when you take good care of yourself, you will build a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship for yourself. It's only a matter of time.