People who are broad-minded and generous often become the center of people's communication and are very trustworthy. Such a person is sure to make a difference. And those who are narrow-minded, that is, the villains we often say, are completely different.
Zeng Guofan summed up a set of evaluation criteria, that is, to distinguish gentlemen from villains by the size of measurement. He believes that "the so-called villain knows small ears and measures small ears."
A gentleman is not like this. A gentleman "has extensive knowledge, so the world is big, if he abandons his shoes;" Yao Shun's official career is a cloud. If you are ambitious, you will do something wrong and ask for it. "
Therefore, "the foundation of a gentleman is in its place." If you are sincere and arrogant, you will look up at everything, and your heart will not be disappointed. "
In other words, because of the narrow measurement, the villain breeds suspicion and bad blood between people. Unlike a gentleman, he emphasizes the harmony of his environmental status. You can really reflect on your heart without guilt, so looking up at the sun, the moon and the sky and overlooking everything on the earth will make you broad-minded, fearless and upright.
As much injustice as you can stand, you can do.
When Zeng Guofan was studying at Yuelu Academy in Changsha, one of his classmates had a bad temper. Because Zeng Guofan's desk is facing the window, the man said:
"The light I am reading comes from the window. I didn't ask you to report it. Hurry up! "
Zeng Guofan did as he said.
Zeng Guofan studied hard at night, and the man said, "If you don't study at ordinary times, do you still have to make trouble at night?"
Zeng Guofan had to recite in a low voice.
However, Zeng Guofan quickly won the prize and reported to the newspaper. The man was even more angry and said, "The Feng Shui in this room was originally mine, but you took it away!"
The classmate next to him was not convinced and asked him, "Didn't you ask someone to put the book case?" How can you blame Zeng? "
The man said, "That's why I took my Feng Shui."
The students all thought that the man was unreasonable and felt wronged for Zeng Guofan, but Zeng Guofan was kind-hearted and indifferent, and it was nothing to persuade his classmates and comfort his roommates.
Let the ancestors give up on themselves. People's tolerance is often not because of your strengths, but because of whether you can tolerate others, whether you can look at others calmly and tolerate others with your heart. As much injustice as you can stand, you can do.
People's endurance and courage should not be underestimated; People who can endure hardships and be wronged must be broad-minded.
Zeng Guofan is eager for talents, so he is sometimes cheated.
A man pretending to be a school official went to visit Zeng Guofan and talked about it. He saw that the man was clever in speech and curious in heart. In the middle, he talked about putting an end to deception in employing people, and he also made it clear.
Zeng Guofan was overjoyed and said to him, "You can go to the military camp to see the people I use."
The next day, after meeting the officials of the military and civil affairs in the camp, he solemnly said to Zeng Guofan, "There are many heroes and handsome men in the army, but I found two gentlemen-like talents."
Zeng Guofan quickly asked "Who"?
This man quoted Tu Zongying and Guo. Zeng Guofan also likes to be applauded and stay as a guest of honor. But I couldn't find a suitable position at the moment, so I temporarily let him supervise the shipbuilding guns.
A few days later, the man absconded with huge sums of money. The case of embezzlement was reported to the sheriff's office, and his subordinates suggested that the criminal be wanted immediately. Zeng Guofan was silent for a long time, sighed, waved and said, forget it, forget it, let it go.
After his rank was retired, Zeng Guofan said, "People can't stand being bullied, and people can't stand being bullied."
A few days later, someone asked him why he didn't send his troops to hunt down.
Zeng Guofan said: "This man is only for small money. If you are chased, you will inevitably flee to the thief (Taiping Army), which is not beautiful. Forget it! " It serves to show Zeng's vision and mind. If people are too narrow-minded to tolerate others, then the pattern of being a man is too small. The pattern is too small to do great things naturally.
Qian Daxin of the Qing Dynasty once said, "Self-mockery is to denigrate yourself without any excuse. There is indeed a reason for embarrassment, and it cannot be stopped without cultivation. "
Generosity enables us to check ourselves. Generosity itself is a kind of charm, a kind of personality charm, which is not only a face-up to one's own shortcomings, but also self-confidence in one's own strength.
Being a man and making friends can be open-minded and open-minded, so that people can treat each other sincerely, trust each other, win people's support and sincere help, and have hope of success in their careers.
Liu Changyou of Xinning, Hunan Province, went to Beijing to take the joint entrance examination for recruiting tribute students. At that time, Zeng Guofan's identity was very noble and he had the reputation of marking ministers. He asked for Liu's regular script and wanted to see his font in advance, but Liu Changyou insisted on not giving it.
After Liu Changyou became the governor of Zhili, the power of Nian Army was flourishing at that time. Zeng Guofan was in charge of the sub-attack, Liu Changyou was in charge of the camp, and Cao Liu wrote a manuscript to present to Zeng Guofan. Some people worry: "What if Ceng Gong is not satisfied with us?"
Liu Changyou said: "As long as you think about what to do, what can he be afraid of!"
Zeng Guofan saw this manuscript and thought it was correct. He praised Liu Changyou.
Liu Changyou said to the audience: "Dion (Zeng Guofan) has no bad feelings about this matter, all because he has had the efforts of sages."
Zeng Guofan was generous and deeply influenced his colleagues.
Deeply influenced by Zeng Guofan, Li Hongzhang was generous all his life. When someone points out that he has made a mistake in this respect, he can correct it immediately.
Because Li Hongzhang has been in an important position for a long time, his subordinates are all swayed by the wind, and the government affairs are overloaded, which naturally leads to arrogance and irrationality. However, people who point out their mistakes can also be deeply blamed.
On one occasion, a Xiaguan came to see his courtesy of half kneeling. Li Hongzhang held his head high and looked up at his moustache as if he didn't see it.
The official sat down and asked him what he wanted to see. He replied, "I heard that nave is busy with government affairs and is not feeling well. Let me take a look at your illness. "
Li Hongzhang said, "No, maybe it's a rumor outside."
The official said, "No, judging from my humble position, Naff may have an eye disease."
Li smiled and said, "This is even more ridiculous."
The official said: "Beizhi only met nave, but nave didn't see it. I'm afraid your eye disease is very serious, but you didn't notice it. "
So Li Hongzhang raised his hand to express his thanks.
Zeng Guofan advocated being as modest as possible in life and making friends, which won him a lot of support and help, had a considerable impact and avoided many unnecessary troubles.
"Mozi" says: "Rivers are not evil, and small valleys are full of them, so they can be big. Sages have nothing to say and nothing to violate, so they can be tools of the world. " Rivers can merge into huge streams if they don't hate the water from streams for irrigation. People who are called saints do not refuse difficult things and do not violate the laws of nature, so they can become great people in the world. If you achieve great things, you must have enough minds. Mind determines measurement and realm determines level.
A hundred rivers are full of tolerance. Although it is not easy for us to do it, we can travel thousands of miles with accumulated steps. It is better to start with a little tolerance, and the world you can accommodate is as big as it is!