In the office, there are always some seemingly unimportant trivial things that affect our work mood. In addition to the most extreme common reactions and practices of the "nervous type" and the "cautious type", you can also have a more overall-oriented choice to avoid damaging the relationship without realizing it!
1. You are so selfless when you speak ill of your supervisor, who would have thought he was standing right behind you?
Once your bad words are known to your supervisor, it will not only affect the relationship between your superiors and subordinates, but also spread the word. It will damage your personal image and reputation, so it is best to apologize immediately.
American online media GlobalPost suggests that if you dare not apologize face to face, you can write a letter of apology explaining that this is not your usual behavior, but something that has not gone well for you recently at work. Doing this yourself can relieve stress. At the same time, you must be brave enough to accept your mistakes so that others will not think it is a false apology, and ask your supervisor how you can make up for it.
In addition, remember to forgive yourself and don’t dwell on guilt, which may affect your work performance. The most important thing is to actively re-establish a trusting relationship with your supervisor. The next time you encounter a colleague talking about a similar situation with your supervisor, please walk away directly to avoid repeating the same mistake.
Nervous type: no consciousness, keep talking
Cautious type: run away quickly
2. Boss Did you tell another funny joke?
Sometimes "laughter" is not necessarily related to "humor", but the intuitive survival instinct of social animals. "The New York Times" put it bluntly: "It has nothing to do with not knowing the joke, but to do with being social." Everyone wants to speak with dignity and be respected.
"Fast Company" magazine pointed out in the article "30 Workplace Actions You Should Do at 30" that it is best to laugh at the boss's jokes, because this is related to the establishment of relationships. If you don’t want others to think you’re sucking up to your boss, don’t laugh at every joke, just respond to the ones that are “funnier.”
In fact, a supervisor is also a "person". When he is willing to use jokes to ease the relationship with his subordinates, as a subordinate, don't be stingy with smiling and encouraging.
Nervous type: Immediately put on a face that says "It's too hard to laugh!"
Cautious type: You don't want to laugh but you have to laugh, and it turns into a bitter smile
3. Oops, my colleague suddenly started crying in the office!
Many people are easily confused about what to do when it comes to sudden emotional reactions from others. However, as long as you understand that "crying" is one of people's physiological responses to stress, you don't need to choose to turn a blind eye when your colleagues cry.
"Harvard Business Review" points out that you should "be yourself" and people's immediate instinct should be to lend a helping hand. Think about it, what would you do if the other person was a friend in your social circle outside of work? Maybe you hand over a tissue, ask what's going on, or give a comforting hug.
The key is to "step in" rather than ignore or judge the other person. If he is crying because of a personal matter, just show empathy and comfort him instead of constantly emphasizing that "everything will be fine" and "cheer up", which will make people think it is a sarcastic comment; if it is because of work pressure, you can talk to the other person. Discuss how to deal with it or how you can help the other person.
Nervous type: tell him that crying in the office is unprofessional behavior
Cautious type: panicked and overwhelmed or simply pretended not to see it and waited for the other person to calm down< /p>
4. You are getting married, how can you send a wedding invitation without it being called "random bombing"?
Zhang Ruiming, executive consultant of the China Human Resources Management Association, pointed out that the general principle for sending wedding invitations is to first "look at friendship": Who is willing to care about you and share your joy? The next step is to "be fair": Even if you don't have enough friendship with someone, if you don't give them a post, you will lose their face. At this time, it must be considered based on "not causing holes in the network." For the following, posts are generally given to the direct supervisor. As for other department heads or higher-level bosses, it depends on the relationship.
Red envelopes for friendships usually start at NT$2,000, then NT$2,200, NT$2,600, NT$3,600, or NT$6,000 or even NT$10,000 for deep friendships; for ordinary colleagues, it is NT$1,200 to NT$1,600. Sometimes it also depends on the banquet venue. If you bring a companion, an additional 1,000 to 2,000 yuan will be added. Generally speaking, a package of 600 to 1,200 yuan means that you will not attend the wedding banquet.
But don’t fall into the myth that “the more packages you have, the better your friendship will be.” Instead of giving big gifts, it is better to "arrive early and leave late". Arrive early to congratulate the newlyweds and express your sincere blessings; leave late after the meeting to thank him for the invitation and sincerely share the joy.
Nervous type: Of course everyone is invited to important events in life!
Cautious type: Just send it to a few acquaintances, so as not to say anything behind my back
5. During the lunch break, everyone went to eat but didn’t ask me out?
The British National Broadcasting Corporation (BBC) pointed out that 90% of office workers' work performance depends on their integration into the company. If you don’t want to feel unmotivated at work, or happen to be the person who is “accidentally forgotten,” you must take the initiative to “struggle emotionally” with your colleagues and spend at least 30 minutes every day talking to other colleagues.
If you are new here, first find a colleague in the office who you have a lot of friends with and ask him to introduce you to you. By understanding everyone's hobbies and concerns one by one, you can find ways to connect with each other and integrate. For example, if colleague A tells you that he is working on a certain project, and you happen to know that colleague B is interested in the same type of topic, helping the two to connect will make it easier for you to be regarded as a member of the team.
Don’t just talk about work when chatting with colleagues. Remember to also share your personal life to deepen mutual understanding. In addition, instead of waiting passively, why not host a dinner yourself and invite everyone?
Nervous type: Grabbing colleagues and asking them in person: "Why didn't you come to see me when you were eating?"
Cautious type: Silently feeling hurt but embarrassed to follow them
6. My colleague has poor hygiene habits. How can I give him a hint?
"You must take action!" the Financial Times (Financial Times) pointed out. One action is to "ignore it," but that's not the same as doing nothing. "The decision is your recognition that you are free to face the situation and take responsibility for the decision," says business psychologist Beverley Stone. It also gives you the opportunity to ask yourself: Am I going too far? It's none of your business?
Another way is to "say something", but remember to tell the colleague privately that you care about the other person and want to help. Don't say "other colleagues feel the same way" as this will make people feel humiliated or targeted.
It is best to use a negotiated attitude to let the other person understand that his hygiene habits are below standard, but also express that you do not want to embarrass the other person, but just want to reduce the distracting working environment. Finally, you can end with "What do you think?" to emphasize that each other is not opposing but thinking on the same front.
Nervous type: Put a deodorant on the other person’s desk. Is it obvious enough?
Cautious type: I don’t know what to do, so I have to endure it
7. The office couple breaks up and breaks up, should I choose sides?
"Harvard Business Review" recommends doing this:
Allow two people to vent their emotions. Even if both people use "complaining" as an outlet for their emotions, remember not to just listen to one side's words. You may still favor one side of the story, but at least be open to listening to both.
˙Empathy. You can tell the other person that you're sorry to hear about this situation, but don't choose a side. You don't need to endorse one party's point of view. Just show empathy and honestly say, "I feel you are hurt, but I can't choose." Stand on the sidelines, because I have sex with you."
˙Euphemistically explain the impact of the disagreement between the two. For example, the atmosphere in the office is tense and everyone is tied up when working.
˙Provide advice carefully. It is problem-solving oriented and there is no need to rush for the two parties to sit down and talk.
˙Don’t bring in the supervisor. Unless it is serious enough to get out of hand, it may deepen the relationship between the two of them.
˙Know your own limits.
It's fine to want to help people, but if it's more than you can handle, don't be afraid to say no, or suggest that both parties seek HR advice.
The Nervous Type: Scolding one of the parties together with the other
The Cautious Type: Neither supports either party or both parties support it, and wants to be a good person
8 .My colleague asked me to borrow a sum of money. Should I lend it to him?
If you plan to lend money, you must first clearly know your own limit. If the other party has poor credit, even if you have a good relationship, it is best to only lend half of the amount, or less. If you really borrow it, you may have to make plans to "come back or not". After adjusting your mentality, you won't always be brooding about it. "Money" magazine recommends that you take the following 4 steps before borrowing money, so as not to regret borrowing money:
Step 1 Wait 24 hours. Don't agree to the other party immediately because of urgency. You should consider it for 1 or 2 days, check your financial situation to see if you can borrow money, and discuss it with your family.
Step2 Try to refuse frankly. The best way is to decline politely, because there is a high possibility that the money will not be recovered. Weigh the risk of saying no and losing friends versus saying yes and losing both money and friendship.
Step3 reach an agreement. If you decide to borrow money, it's a good idea to establish rules. Determine when to repay the money, how to repay it, how much to pay in installments, whether to charge interest, etc.
Step4Write it down. You don’t need to write it every time you borrow money, but writing it down can ensure that the money is not a “gift” and avoid misunderstandings.
Nervous type: Straightforwardly say: "I have no money!"
Cautious type: Sorry not to borrow, but worried that the other party will not pay back
9. What is the best state of mind to attend an office party?
Whether it is a celebration or a year-end carnival, office parties have become the norm. The American Business Insider website puts forward several tips that are worth your reference:
˙Understand the clothing regulations. Don’t forget, this is still a business occasion, so don’t dress too casually or too sexy.
˙Don’t attend on an empty stomach. Although there will be appetizers, it is best to put something to satisfy your stomach before attending. It will not be comfortable to chat while eating.
˙Don’t think you can skip participating. To show identification with the organization, attend for at least 30 minutes. Always remember that company parties are a “must-attend” occasion.
˙Meet unfamiliar colleagues through parties. Take this opportunity to build "weak ties" with others.
˙Relax. Don't ask about the opening of that new position or whether you qualify for a promotion. Also, never bring business matters with you!
˙Don’t be the last to leave. Otherwise you will be called a "party animal".
˙Remember to say goodbye. To avoid looking like you're sneaking away, you can also say thank you to the co-worker who hosted the party.
˙Go to work on time the next day. Otherwise everyone will know why you didn't show up.
The Nervous Type: After arriving at the scene and having a big meal, he claps his hands and leaves
The Cautious Type: puts on the most gorgeous dress and even goes to the beauty salon to get a blowjob Hair, like going to a wedding party Like this article? Share this article with more people~ ,