"God is in heaven and sacred to the earth"; These six words are actually China people's personality thoughts: there is an idealistic sky that can soar freely without compromising many rules and obstacles in the real world; He also has the ability to be down-to-earth and expand his behavior in this land.
Confucian attitude: Confucius usually discusses with people in a gentle, follow-up and induced tone.
A leisurely bearing, such a modest attitude, is actually the personality ideal of China people.
China's philosophy advocates a solemn, rational and gentle beauty.
The essence of The Analects of Confucius is to integrate the essence of the size of the sky and the thickness of the earth into people's hearts, so that heaven, earth and people become a perfect whole, and the power of people is therefore extremely powerful.
Today, we often say that good weather, favorable geographical location and harmonious people are the basis for a country's prosperity and career success. This is the enlightenment of The Analects of Confucius to us modern people.
A political idea of Confucius that belief is powerful enough to unite a country. (Isn't it the same for enterprises? )
Only a true saint can not be burdened by material life and can always maintain inner peace and tranquility.
In fact, a person's vision has two functions: one is to go out, frame the world and popularize it; The other is to come inward and discover the heart infinitely and profoundly.
Our eyes always look too much at the outside world and too little at the inside.
Everyone wants to live a happy life, and happiness is just a feeling, which has nothing to do with the rich and the poor, but is connected with the heart.
In The Analects of Confucius, Confucius told his students how to find happiness in life. This idea has been passed down to this day and has had a great influence on many famous literati and poets in history.
In modern times, it is quite serious that people don't want to go in. Faced with such fierce competition, everyone is trying to develop their own career. The number of income and positions seems to be a sign of everyone's success.
But the fiercer the competition, the more you need to adjust your mentality and your relationship with others.
Who has a word that can go for a lifetime? -"Forgive others" (Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you) Don't do anything that hurts others. The implication is that if others hurt you, you should be as tolerant as possible.
Let go when it's time to let go. Forgiving others is actually leaving a large piece of land for yourself.
In fact, The Analects tells us that we should not only be able to bear and let things go, but also try our best to help those who need our help. As the saying goes, "Give someone a rose, there is fragrance in your hand", and giving can make our hearts full of happiness more than receiving.
Caring for others is benevolence; It is wisdom to know people and be good at their duties.
In this world, the most important person is the one who needs your help at the moment; The most important thing is to do it at once; The most important time is now, and there is no time to delay.
The road to the soul
One of the values advocated in The Analects of Confucius is that people should first be able to face the regrets of life and accept them in the shortest time. Don't dwell on it, ask questions over and over again, which will only aggravate your pain.
Do everything you can to make up for this regret.
Admit the shortcomings in real life and make up for them through your own efforts. This is the attitude that The Analects of Confucius tells us about the shortcomings in life.
Since the regret of life is inevitable, it is very important to treat this regret with what kind of mentality. Different mentality may bring completely different quality of life.
Where does a person's confidence come from? It comes from inner peace and calmness.
To be strong inside, one prerequisite is to underestimate the gains and losses of things outside.
If a person can really "save himself in three provinces" one day, and can really "see the sage Si Qi and reflect", the contract system can be realized. Being able to reflect on your own mistakes and be brave in correcting them is the real courage advocated by Confucianism.
Be a brave person and use the power of life to resolve those regrets.
When misfortune comes, the best way is to let it go as soon as possible, so that you can spare more time to do more valuable things, and your efficiency will be higher and your mood will be better.
There will be many unsatisfactory and even unreasonable places in life, which may not be changed by our own strength, but we can change our mood and attitude. In this sense, what a person sees is what he has in his heart.
Courage is sometimes manifested as inner self-confidence and calmness under a rational constraint.
The pride of the villain is his external spirit; The pride of a gentleman is the inner strength of character.
Skill is not the most important thing, but things other than skill need our hearts to understand.
If your heart is bright, you hate kindness, and you are honest and brave, then you can also gain a lot of unexpected things.
If you want to be a person who is willing to communicate with you and can communicate with you, the most important thing is that you have an open mind.
philosophy of life
In fact, many times, the judgment of a thing cannot be simply distinguished by whether it is good or not. When to do it and to what extent will directly affect its nature. Confucius particularly emphasized the discretion of doing things, and "overstepping" and "doing nothing" should be avoided as much as possible.
It is also a waste of life to face people and things that have failed you with unworthy kindness. For those who failed you, use your fairness, your frankness, your Geng Jie, your openness, that is, your noble personality, to face everything calmly. This attitude of Confucius tells us that we should leave our limited emotions and talents in the most suitable place.
Good interpersonal care: too distant and too intimate is not the best state.
"Give advice and be good at it, but don't do it, don't humiliate yourself."
When you see your friend doing something wrong, you should sincerely persuade him and guide him in good faith. If he really doesn't listen, forget it. Stop it. I don't want to embarrass myself.
Get along with good friends, don't do everything yourself.
The Analects of Confucius warns us to keep a certain distance from our friends and leaders, and to master intimacy.
The Analects warns us that we should respect everyone equally and rationally, and leave some discretion and room for each other.
Friends, relatives, all the same. Leave a little discretion, and you will often get a broad vision.
Talk less, do more, be positive, be careful what you say and do.
"If you are skeptical and cautious about the rest, you will become scarce; If you see more dangers, if you are cautious about others, you will regret it. If you don't say anything, you will regret it, and Lu will be among them. "
"Ask more questions and be suspicious", walk with your ears first, listen more, and put aside your questions first.
"Be careful with the rest" is what you feel sure of. Be careful what you say.
"See more" means to see more, and put aside doubts first.
After you have rich experience, you should still be cautious ―― you are walking on thin ice.
Principles of doing things: think more, think more, listen more, see more, be cautious, be cautious and talk less.
If a person lacks accusations and complaints in his words and experiences that he regrets in his actions, he can succeed in going out to be an official.
Less accusations, less complaints and less regrets will lead to success.
We should think farther and be more careful in doing things, so as to avoid hurting others and reduce future regrets.
It's important to use your head when you speak and consider the consequences when you do things.
Etiquette is a kind of respect for people in time.
In the final analysis, Confucian philosophy is to cultivate a kind of practitioner, that is, to cultivate a group of special classes that can only be a cultural mission. The character of the elite in this class is what Fan Zhongyan said: "Worry about the world first, and enjoy it later." He can forget his own gains and losses and integrate himself into a big group interest, which is a belief, a feeling and a social necessity.
If you can grasp the sense of proportion, be cautious in words and deeds, be courteous to the world, cultivate one's morality and cultivate one's character, you will have less troubles and naturally know how to treat people.
Gentleman's way
Three criteria for being a man: 1. Be a kind person.
2. Be a persistent person.
2, pity without struggle, group without party. Gentlemen are gregarious. Although his heart is sacred and inviolable, he no longer argues among a large group of people. At the same time, he will never pull gangs and seek personal gain. )
The strength of a gentleman begins with personality and heart. His heart is full and rich, he cultivates himself first, and then he is calm.
"A gentleman is not worried or afraid."
"introspection, no guilt." A person can reflect on his behavior without regret or guilt. This standard is very low, and each of us can do it. Speaking high is the highest standard, and it is not easy to make everything you do stand scrutiny.
"There are three scholars, there is nothing I can do; The benevolent is not worried, the knower is not confused, and the brave is not afraid. "
"Benevolent people don't worry": A person has a kind and generous heart, so he can ignore many details and ignore small gains and losses. Only such a person can truly achieve inner peace and tranquility.
"The wise are not confused": We can't control the outside world, only make our inner choices stronger. When we know how to choose, those troubles will be gone.
"The brave are not afraid": When your heart is brave enough and open enough, you will have the strength to go forward and naturally stop being afraid.
Confucius told us that the standard of life is not to criticize the outside world, but to spend limited time and energy on "criticizing" the heart. A person who is strict with himself will be better to others. Today, we always say that people should be kind. Kindness is not cowardice, but he can tolerate and sympathize with many mistakes of others and put himself in others' shoes.
To be a gentleman is to be the best of yourself, start from your side according to your social orientation, and make yourself a perfect person from today. Because only when you really have a calm heart can you not be affected by the ups and downs of life.
Being a kind and perfect person is the premise of becoming a gentleman. But that's not enough. In Confucius' mind, a gentleman is not only a good man, but also a great and noble man. He should be ambitious and work hard.
"Scholars have a long way to go to strive for self-improvement."
Lin Yutang: Everyone's social ideal in China is Confucianism, while everyone's natural personality ideal is Taoism.
"Gentleman with game, villain with soil flavor; The gentleman is pregnant with punishment, and the villain is pregnant. "
A villain is a person who has no overall situation and only cares about immediate interests.
"The gentleman is harmonious but different, and the villain is not harmonious."
"A gentleman can't be a week, a villain can't be a week."
For example, if you have a party, a gentleman will make everyone feel comfortable. But the villain, he will hide in a corner with his best friend and whisper to each other, as if they are particularly good.
Harmony is a kind of tolerance and integration of others on the premise of adhering to different voices and different viewpoints.
A gentleman will not say what he wants to do and what he wants to achieve first; It is often said that everything has been done and the goal has been achieved.
The power of a gentleman is always the power of action, not the power of words.
What matters to a gentleman is not what he does, but the motivation behind what he does. They are the conscience of society. (Doing things for dreams)
The art of making friends
Confucius said, "The winner has three friends, but the loser has three friends. Friends are straightforward, friends are tolerant, and more information is beneficial.
Hey; Friends make friends, friendly and soft, and friends will be destroyed and damaged. "
"Friends are straightforward": refers to integrity. This kind of friend is sincere, frank, honest, cheerful and has no flattery. His personality will affect your personality. It can give you courage when you are timid, and it can also give you a decisive decision when you are hesitant.
"Friendship and forgiveness": honesty. This kind of friend is sincere and unpretentious. With such friends, our hearts are suitable and our spirits can be purified and sublimated.
"Friends are well informed": It means that friends are well informed. When you are hesitant about some issues, go to such a friend, maybe his extensive knowledge can help you make a choice.
"Friends make friends": refers to flatterers and flatterers. Such people are especially good at reading people's minds, have it both ways. Be careful to understand your feelings so as not to go against your wishes. This kind of friend is a chronic poison to the spirit.
"Friendly and gentle": refers to "two-faced people". In front of you, they use academicians to please people, smile, compliment you and flatter you. This is what Confucius said. However, behind the scenes, rumors will be spread and malicious slander will be made.
"Make friends with friends": refers to people who exaggerate and talk a lot.
If you want to make good friends, but don't want to make bad friends, you need two prerequisites: one is willingness, not ability. In Confucius' theory, the former is called "benevolence" and the latter is called "knowledge (wisdom)". If you want to make good friends, you must first be kind, willing to be close to others and willing to make friends; Second, we must have the ability to distinguish. Only in this way can we make friends with good quality.
There are many people around us, and their lifestyles and attitudes can be our mirrors. The key is to be a man with a conscience.
One should make friends with people who can improve your character, improve your self-cultivation and enrich your connotation.
The true happiness of life is the happiness of the soul, which is sometimes not closely related to the external material life.
How to start a topic in the crowd: Everyone has a public topic, and it must be a public topic. When everyone is expecting a topic, you can talk slowly. This is the right time.
Blog, in fact, is eager to show people what is deep inside.
A person who starts talking without looking at other people's faces is called blind. You should pay attention to each other and see what you can and can't say. This is the respect and scruples between friends.
When admonishing others, we should "give advice and be good at it, but not stop, not bring disgrace to oneself". It's just that it doesn't have to be a bitter medicine, it doesn't have to go in one ear and out the other, and it can be explained clearly. This is the so-called "good way". If this doesn't make sense, then enough is enough. Don't wait until people are impatient to bring shame on yourself.
Confucius said: "A gentleman has three precepts: when he is young, his qi and blood are uncertain, so he should be careful; When you are strong, your qi and blood are just, and you should give up fighting; Even if you are old, your qi and blood will decline and you can quit. "
"When you are young, your blood is unstable, so be careful not to have emotional problems between men and women." .
"Strong body is strong in qi and blood, so we should contend with it": What do you think most when people reach middle age, have a stable family and a stable career? It is to seek better and bigger space, which will easily lead to contradictions and struggles with others, and the result of the struggle is likely to be both sides.
"When people get old, their qi and blood will decline, so we should quit it": When people get old, their mentality will tend to be peaceful. As Russell said, when the rushing river rushes through the mountains and finally reaches the sea, it shows a gentleness and vastness. At this time, people should treat what you get correctly.
It is better to fight with others than with yourself, and strive to improve your quality and self-cultivation.
Self-cultivation is the premise of making good friends; Making good friends means opening a friendliest world for yourself and making your life dazzling.
Ideal way
A person's ambition is very important and determines the development and direction of his life.
In today's view, the most important thing for a person's development is often not how high the ultimate ideal is, but what kind of starting point he has in front of him. We often don't lack lofty aspirations, but the practical road of volunteering, which is accumulated step by step.
If you want to govern the country by courtesy, you must first have a kind of gentleness, courtesy and frugality in your heart.
Zeng's heart is full. On the premise of perfecting his personality, he has his own ideals in everything, which is higher than a specific occupation that the other three people want to engage in, and he has made achievements in that occupation.
A gentleman never seeks social status for the purpose of professional accomplishment, but must start with his own self-cultivation and his recent and inner perfection.
When a person is used to his role and performs happily in the role, thinking that this is his ideal and a successful career, how many spiritual wishes are respected at this time? How much space do we have outside our roles to truly realize our inner feelings? This is the fundamental reason why many people feel flustered after leaving their professional roles.
Personally, I think: a person's ideal should be an ideal without any pressure after putting aside secular utility. I think my ideal is to have a quiet, quiet and warm home where I can take care of it.
Let yourself be influenced by the mind and firmly let go of greater ideals.
The calmer and calmer your heart is, the more you will abandon those intense, ambitious, ostentatious and external forms and respect the quiet and inner voice. This will enable you to enter a social role without losing yourself and do your best.
If a person does not have this inner calm and grasp of himself, he can only be at the mercy of his career in his professional role and can't be promoted.
After a person has a good inner cultivation, he can't indulge in his own world every day, but must do things for this society. You must devote yourself to your mission and "live up to it".
How can people become fearless, calm and not flustered? This requires finding a symbolic sustenance in your heart. This sustenance is not necessarily a grand ideal recognized by everyone, nor is it necessarily a kind of power, money and the like. It can be said that everyone has his own "Da Vinci Code", and everyone must have something he cares about most in his life chain. If you find such sustenance, you will find the foundation of life and the inner base.
All lofty ideals are based on a simple starting point. We should believe that the power of thought is one of the greatest forces in the world.
There is an unchanging force in a gentleman's heart. He can make the surrounding environment bright and prosperous, and the atmosphere in his life can change a simple place.
What is the ideal way? It is to give us a calm starting point and give us some resources to reserve spiritual happiness.
Ancient sages all stood on the coordinate system of personal values and understood their spiritual aspirations before they had great ambitions to make achievements in this world.
way of life
Today, only learning that leads to a person's whole value system remodeling and makes his behavior more efficient, more convenient and more in line with social requirements is good learning.
Really good learning is to use all your learning on yourself and make what you have learned work for me. This is a way of learning required by China culture.
Confucius has been teaching students a simple and frugal lifestyle. First, do the things in front of you well, and leave many things alone unless you change them.
The more material things are, the easier it is to be confused.
If a person doesn't complain, it shows that he keeps a lot of suspicious grievances and harsh criticisms in his heart. If you don't pass it on to others' colleagues, it means that you have been forgiven. How difficult it is!
Confucius believes that a person's pursuit of inner perfection and achievement is much more important than your requirements for this society and what others should do.
"I have five goals in ten, standing at thirty, not confused at forty, knowing my destiny at fifty, listening at sixty, and doing what I want at seventy."
Standing at the age of 30: 30 is the age to build confidence in your mind. First of all, it is the inner position, and then it is to find its place in social coordinates. By the age of 30, it should be a stage of "harmony" in life, that is, it is no longer as bright as it was in the teens, and it is no longer as bleak as it was in the twenties. Doing something that transcends utilitarianism and is recognized by the heart is probably the testimony of "standing".
Don't be confused: don't be confused about the past, you can consciously think and act according to the doctrine of the mean. Even if the outside world gives you many injustices, blows and shortcomings, you can quickly establish your proper position on a coordinate. Dare to choose and know how to choose.
Fifty knowing the destiny: knowing the destiny is to reach the realm of a gentleman as Confucius said. He has established a self-circulation system, and she will have a calm power to deal with the outside world. At this time, people already have an inner determination. Basically, they can be kind to others without complaining, and they are no longer moved by foreign things. It is also the integration and promotion of various learning principles.
Sixty words: that is, you can listen to anything you say and think from the speaker's standpoint. At this time, you can respect others to the maximum extent, you can understand why people and things exist, you can listen to all kinds of voices with an open mind and understand why they say so from the starting point of others.
Follow your heart: When all the rules and regulations have become the habits of your life, you can follow your heart, which can be said to be the highest realm that every individual pursues.
Only by establishing an internal value system can pressure be transformed into the tension of life.
In fact, people's age includes physiological age, psychological age and social age. If we can reach the age of 40 and 50 ahead of time when we are 20 and 30, we will establish a clear inner value system, we will be able to turn the pressure given by society into the tension of life, and we will be as calm as we wish. . . . Then we say that such a life is an efficient life.
Learning any classic, the experience of all ancient sages and sages has only one essence in the end, that is, let our life improve efficiency, shorten the course and establish the feelings of gentleman's love as soon as possible under the light of these wisdom, so as to meet the social moral standards and have a clear conscience about our inner heart and social position.
I wish you progress in your study, and hope to adopt O(∩_∩)O~