In fact, many husbands do not have any malicious intentions when they tell little lies, and some are even just a habit. If the wife adjusts her mentality, differentiates and treats them appropriately, she may be able to help her husband get rid of this bad habit and get out of the predicament of a marriage that has lost trust.

◆Lies originate from vanity

When in love, her boyfriend always tells Zhang Min about his glorious history, from elementary school to high school, his grades have always been among the best, and when he won the graduation thesis in college The applause from the instructor, how he was defeated when he competed with a chess master... Listening to the vivid description, Zhang Min really admired him. After getting married, her boyfriend became her husband. In Zhang Min's eyes, his image became even more "tall" because her husband would often talk about his "deeds" about his outstanding work and being appreciated by his leaders and admired by his colleagues. The world is really small. Not long ago, a new colleague came to Zhang Min's work. She was actually her husband's college classmate. From her, Zhang Min learned that her husband couldn't play chess at all, and his graduation thesis was a mess and he had to revise it repeatedly. Barely passing... After being shocked, Zhang Min became suspicious of all her husband's boasts.

Analysis: Women are said to be vain, but in fact men are also vain. Relatively speaking, men like to promote themselves more than women. Therefore, they will exaggerate consciously or unconsciously, use lies to establish their own glorious image, and gain psychological satisfaction from their wives' admiration.

Tips 1. As a wife, you should not be too vain, and don't let your husband think that your criterion for judging his ability is only career success.

2． Don't rush to expose your husband's fabrications, especially not in public. Just make your husband feel that you are aware of his tricks and are not interested.

3. Pay attention to observation and experience, discover your husband's strengths, and praise him from time to time to enhance his self-confidence and self-esteem.

◆Lies come from perfunctoryness

Yuan Li’s husband often goes on business trips and brings her some gifts every time. Sometimes, when the prices of the things he buys back are low, Yuan Li shows off her insincerity. With a happy expression: "Look at this thing you bought! If it's cheap but not good, you will send me away."

As a result, the things my husband bought became more and more "expensive", and the prices quoted were often Yuan Li exclaimed: "It's so expensive!" As she said this, she was secretly sweet in her heart and became gentle towards her husband.

One day, Yuan Li was carrying a leather bag bought by her husband to work. A colleague in the office saw it and said, "I also have this bag. It looks good and is worth more than 100 yuan." More than a hundred? Isn't it three hundred and six?" Yuan Li asked. "No! This is a chain store product with a uniform price across the country." The colleague's answer made Yuan Li feel a knot in her heart. Her husband actually "reimbursed the bill" for her. How many times has he done this? Could it be that she has been kept in the dark? What was the use of the falsely reported balance? The more Yuan Li thought about it, the more complicated it became.

Analysis The original intention of this kind of lie is not complicated, it is just to make the wife feel better, and there is no ulterior motive. On the contrary, to some extent, it also shows that the husband is concerned about his wife's feelings. Of course, this is closely related to the message that wives usually convey to their husbands.

Tips 1. If it is discovered that there is no other "shady story", then there is no need to expose such lies.

2． Tell your husband that what you need more is his thoughtfulness rather than endless material comparisons.

◆Lies stem from estrangement

Zhou Jing and her mother-in-law had a bad relationship. They had several emotionally hurtful quarrels and ignored each other since then. The husband has become the "sandwich biscuit" between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and is in a dilemma. In order to avoid conflicts, he never mentioned the topic of his mother in front of Zhou Jing, and he did not let Zhou Jing know about his dealings with his parents. Every time he went to his mother's place, he lied about going to see his colleagues and bought things for his parents but could not deliver them for a while. , just put it in the office. However, after a long time, he bought a supplement for the elderly for his mother. Zhou Jing happened to see him when he went to work to find him. She was very dissatisfied and did not talk to her husband for several days.

The husband wanted to explain, but Zhou Jing said blankly: "Who knows how many things you bought for your mother behind my back!" Deeply worried, at a loss as to what to do, lies become the support point to gain balance on the "tightrope". In fact, the husband was feeling particularly painful at this time.

Tips 1. As a wife, you must first examine your own family philosophy and change your authoritarian attitude that everything depends on your own will.

2． Respect your husband’s independent personality and do not interfere with his activities within the normal ethical scope.

3. Communicate well with your husband and let him realize that what you care about most is the happiness and stability of your family.

◆Lies originate from cover-ups

Xiaoying’s husband has a cheerful personality and is easy to make friends. Before marriage, he made friends and had a small gathering every three days and a big gathering every five days. Even after getting married, I still do a lot of activities, have fun, and even go home late at night. For this reason, Xiaoying lost her temper several times, and her husband did restrain himself. But recently, my husband has gone out from time to time after get off work, saying that he was going to help his uncle's house to repair the computer. When she came back late, Xiaoying complained, and her husband said innocently: "Uncle, if you trust me, I have to fix things for you before I leave." Xiaoying was unhappy because an uncle couldn't boss people around like that. At the New Year party, Xiaoying said to her uncle tactfully: "He always repairs your computer and stays so late. Is it because he has poor skills and cannot repair it well? This also delays your rest!" But his uncle was surprised: "No. This is the matter!" Seeing that he couldn't hide it, the husband had no choice but to "confess": It turned out that he was partying with his buddies again.

Analysis Some people say that men are actually afraid of getting married, because it means that they will end their free and casual single life and be restricted by the small world of their family. This is not unreasonable. It is understandable that a husband occasionally wants to leave his wife's sight and relax a little. But if the wife is too controlling, the husband will inevitably lie to achieve his goal.

3. Establish a reasonable image in your husband's mind without overly restricting his freedom.

◆Lies come from caring

Chen Xin’s husband’s workplace is in a recession and layoffs occur every few days. Chen Xin was quite worried, but her husband always comforted her: "Don't worry, it won't be my turn if anyone gets laid off!" Her husband went to and from get off work on time and paid monthly household expenses, but Chen Xin still noticed that there was something unusual about her husband: when he came home, there was always something in his briefcase. It was unknown what the bulging bag contained, and Chen Xin was never allowed to see it; the drawer containing miscellaneous items was locked, and the key was always taken with him. Strangers often called him, and he would hide in the back room to answer the call and close the door. Once, Chen Xin accidentally went home to pick up something and found that her husband, who was supposed to be at work, was sitting on the sofa reading a newspaper. The husband said he was not feeling well and came back to rest, but his expression was very unnatural. Chen Xin couldn't help but confide his suspicions to her husband. Facing the tearful Chen Xin, the husband finally told the truth: He had been laid off for more than a month, and because Chen Xin was worried, he pretended to go to work every day, but actually went around to apply for jobs. The locked drawers are filled with job advertisements and draft resumes. Most of the unknown phone calls are from the recruiting unit. The monthly living expenses he pays are borrowed from his parents.

Analysis This kind of lie often makes a wife feel a mixture of love and hate. On the one hand, the husband does this out of concern for his wife; on the other hand, the husband who is solely responsible for the situation also treats his wife as an outsider. He was afraid that his wife would be anxious, so while hiding the true situation, he also revealed his distrust of his marriage and his wife.

Tips 1. Tell your husband that you understand his feelings when he lies, but what he does is actually counterproductive and makes you feel sad and angry.

2． Let your husband realize that the family is a whole and that you are willing and able to overcome difficulties with him.

3. Make it clear that you don’t want your husband to lie to you anymore.