In the first stage, its name is politeness. When we first meet strangers, we are not familiar with each other and can't let go of ourselves, so we always seem particularly polite in our communication. We will spend our whole life being polite in our communication with each other. Because we subconsciously keep a distance from each other, hoping to leave a good impression in front of strangers, we will be very gentle when we are grumpy. If you live a sloppy life, you will try to keep it clean and tidy. If you are lively and cheerful, you should show shyness and reserve appropriately. This is a normal psychological stage.
In the second stage, its name is familiarity. After a period of communication, we will gradually get familiar with each other's names, have a simple understanding of each other's personality, and have a little understanding of each other's personality. In this process, how can we gradually open our hearts and get familiar with each other? When you speak, you won't use too many honorifics, and it will be natural to communicate with each other. Everyone's personality characteristics and essence are gradually developed.
In the third stage, its name is understanding. Familiarity does not mean understanding, just like we use computers every day. Although we are familiar with the operation of the computer, we don't know every part of the computer. Familiarity only means getting to know each other superficially, but it doesn't mean that you really know the essence of this person. Otherwise, understanding is a deeper understanding of a person's personality and thoughts, just like you.
In the last stage, its name is heart to heart. The so-called friends are bound to have spiritual communication, probably reserved, but it is impossible without spiritual communication at all. It is also in this process that everyone can really let go of the barriers and precautions in their hearts, really walk into each other's hearts, speak their minds and often speak out, so as to discuss some topics that other familiar people will not say.
Want to be close friends, need a higher level of communication. You should not only be familiar with each other and understand each other, but also have the same ideals and like-mindedness, be able to turn your back on each other with complete confidence, and experience life and death together without changing the true nature of their friendship. This requires a very strict test, so Changzhi's friends are very advanced, very rare, and the natural number is very small.
This is the process of becoming friends with a stranger through various psychological changes, only at various stages. It can be seen that it is not easy to become friends. Therefore, after becoming friends, we must cherish each other's friendship, help each other in the same boat, support each other and take care of each other, and walk out of a broad road of life.