First, emotional counseling.
Female, 3 1 year old, height 153cm, 43kg, education industry management, appearance 5 to 5.5 points; Male, 30 years old, height 176cm, electronic radar entrepreneurship, appearance of about 5 points.
We met through online dating. I've known each other for more than a month, and it feels good to meet several times.
The specific doubts are as follows:
Unwilling to disclose specific identity information, saying that he is a confidential industry. I will wait until the right time to tell me and show me some documents from his work to prove that I am in this industry.
I feel that he is most interested in sex. I have also communicated this issue, such as screenshots of chat records. I also doubted his purpose of making friends.
Now, what is the trouble for Lengda to judge his intentions? And how to effectively screen online knowledge, thank you very much.
Second, emotional solutions.
With your story, I want to give some help to everyone who is single.
One should understand three things:
First: don't try to judge each other's motives from the beginning, but observe the results directly.
What's the point of judging his intentions?
I'm just telling you that he's here to cheat the gun. So what?
This will only make you lose your way.
The most important thing for you is what you see.
The result of this incident now is that these topics and elements he talked about in the chat make you very uncomfortable, and this discomfort is not the discomfort of breaking through the comfort zone, but makes you feel a little sick and uncomfortable.
So, you already think this is not a good relationship. At this time, you should learn to give up and stop clinging, because you two have never been together at all.
Second: How to effectively screen people on the network?
Time is the best screening. The more you know online, the more time you need to screen.
Here, we can compare all the ways to know people.
We will find it difficult to balance quantity and quality at the same time.
For example, if you send a friend-seeking post online, you may know many people at once, but the quality is definitely not as good as that of alumni or friends and relatives, who are relatively higher in quality although the number is small.
So I suggest that single people can draw a mind map according to all the channels through which they meet new friends.
The most effective screening is to meet new people through some channels, and then screen by time.
Usually, if a person is not interested in you, or just comes for a short-term relationship, he will talk to you for a word or two and run away. Encounter emotional problems? 0 yuan received 1 professional analysis.
For the above content, you can draw a mind map, which may be clearer.
Third: in the process of taking off the bill, the integration of knowledge and action is very important.
Knowing one thing and doing one thing are two different things.
Just like you said in the chat record.
Cognitive, you already know clearly that your starting point is different from the starting point of the other party. Two people want different things and want different relationships.
It's just that when two people meet, they feel good, so they can't bear to give up directly.
However, since you already know that two people are not suitable, have different starting points and want different relationships, then the most important thing to do is to blacken them.
Besides, don't meet again. The more we meet, the more inseparable we are.